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RockyG666 62M
1950 posts
10/29/2017 1:44 pm

Last Read:
11/7/2017 6:51 am

holding grandma and the babies hostage for christmas

my folx own a HUGE apartment building in a good neighborhood in chicago. all of my siblings have lived in apartments there, as well as many of our . i lived in a basement apartment with my 3 for (10 years), after the divorce. and i lived alone in another basement apartment for many years before and after i got the in court. my sister also lived in an apartment there for MANY years when her were young, and she lives in that same apartment now that her husband has passed. my grandmother lived here for a long time after my grandfather passed, and the other grandfather lived here after that grandma passed. i guess that this is much the way things were done back in the day, and my father is very happy to continue this italian tradition. my little brother moved into a basement apt a few years back when he got divorced, and that is the main reason that i had moved out. my little brother is not that bright and VERY selfish and mean. he and i got into a VERY physical fight a few years back right around christmas, that had a LOT to do with why i moved out and into the church.

i have had to sell the church building and move back into this building after i got sick from MS. with Christ's help, i have mostly been able to forgive and forgive my brother's foolishness and selfishness. the problem is not with me, but with my sister's . not even my sister's exactly, but really with her grandkids, who are very young, 2 yrs., 4 mos. & 1 mo. my nephew, the father of the 2 yr. old and the 1 mo., got into an argument with my little brother at a family gathering this summer. apparently words were exchanged and my brother CURSED the of my nephew (the newer was NOT born yet). and my niece-in-law flipped my brother THE bird. i somehow missed this argument, but it has been MUCH gossip fodder in the family since. my nephew and his family have been refusing to return to greatgrandparent's home, which also means my sister's home. i went to a party yesterday at my nephew's home at which the mean brother was intentionally NOT invited. my , and my new grandkid (1 yr.) were there. i guess that the topic of the day was about how my sister's (s) and grandkid(s) will NOT be at the greatgranparent's place for christmas.

i do NOT know what to do. i don' t think i should do anything at all. it is NOT my place to get involved. i LOVE my little grandnephews and my sister as well as her 2 sons. i am also hurting a LOT for my mother, this is killing her, and she is not well. i have prayed on this situation and left it in the hands of god.


Sojourner06 58M
1768 posts
10/30/2017 1:26 am

Hi Rocky.

So what's the ransom ?

Blessings



Mogens

I Can Explain It To You, But I Can’t Understand It For You

Good News For Christian Man ABP

"REVELATION"


RockyG666 62M
1357 posts
10/30/2017 6:40 am

I can not EVEN joke about this


may7749 40F

10/30/2017 7:31 am

rocky:
what is wrong,it is so complicated


RockyG666 62M
1357 posts
10/30/2017 4:14 pm

family


Sojourner06 58M
1768 posts
10/31/2017 2:34 am

Hi Rocky.

I'm not joking.

"He who takes joking for joke and seriously only seriously
has actually got both of them badly".
Piet Hein

So again: what's the ransom?

Blessings



Mogens

I Can Explain It To You, But I Can’t Understand It For You

Good News For Christian Man ABP

"REVELATION"


RockyG666 62M
1357 posts
10/31/2017 7:00 am

sojo, did you READ the post?

the ransom is emotional pain


Sojourner06 58M
1768 posts
11/1/2017 4:17 am

Hi Rocky.

No, of cause I didn't read the text, I only looked at the pictures.

Ransom:
1. a sum of money demanded or paid for the release of a captive.

2. to force someone to do something by putting that person in a situation where they have no choice.

If the ransom - or gain - is emotional pain and only that then you are dealing with a psychopath. Someone who has no empathy.

The weapon of the terror is emotional pain. So what's the ransom? What is it you have to give or pay for the release of grandma and the babies?

I think you have two options. The first one is to choose yourself what you want to do and say, instead of letting others dictate what you do and say. The most common reaction when somebody starts yellowing at you is to yellow back. When cursed, curse back. The old "do what they do to you" .
The wise man keep his tongue and pick his words and actions carefully.

So don't let others dictate where you are to spend Christmas.

The next thing to do is to talk things through. Confrontations are mostly hard to do and they tend to be emotionally expensive. But it's even more emotionally expensive to go on this way year after year. And "next time he" is a lingerie store without showcase.

I think getting hold of the whole story is very important. Why did he curse the kid. What happened before that and why. Because I don't believe he did so just out of the blue.
And I'm not putting the blame on anyone.
Understanding the reason for the reaction of others is quite helpful even I don't believe it makes bad behavior legal. But it helps to view any given situation from the point of view of others.

Finally I think staying away from something for making a point - a protest - doesn't solve anything. It only states a point. It might be necessary to stay away for the sake of peace, but never in anger. Else the opponent is in control of your feelings and actions.

So what is it every part of this wants? What's the ransom?

Blessings



Mogens

I Can Explain It To You, But I Can’t Understand It For You

Good News For Christian Man ABP

"REVELATION"


RockyG666 62M
1357 posts
11/1/2017 1:15 pm

sojo, I also paid ZERO attention to what you had to say.

it was WAY too long for a comment. it was LONGER than my post that you had ignored to post several comments on.

god bless


Sojourner06 58M
1768 posts
11/2/2017 6:22 am

Hi Rocky.

You are right.

Your original message contains 497 words or 2.086 signs when compared to mine of 374 words or 1.586 words...

You seemed to have a real problem that you wanted help for, and not just used some space for writing something.

So if all you want is people saying "ya" and "na" just make a new post on that.

I tried to make it short, but you didn't get a thing. When explaining it for you, I think my Signature comes in play:

"I Can Explain It To You, But I Can’t Understand It For You".

Blessings



Mogens

I Can Explain It To You, But I Can’t Understand It For You

Good News For Christian Man ABP

"REVELATION"


RockyG666 62M
1357 posts
11/2/2017 6:48 am

thank you sojo, your comments blah blah blah blah have made me feel MUCH better. god bless you


Sojourner06 58M
1768 posts
11/3/2017 2:38 am

Hi Rocky.

You are most welcome.
Feeling MUCH better was the intention. Glad you made it.

Blessings



Mogens

I Can Explain It To You, But I Can’t Understand It For You

Good News For Christian Man ABP

"REVELATION"


RockyG666 62M
1357 posts
11/3/2017 1:07 pm

I have NEVER had to ban anyone from my blog, but you are getting close


Sojourner06 58M
1768 posts
11/4/2017 2:22 am

Hi Rocky.

Well, if that's the result of telling the truth and being concerned then be my guest.
I'd say that tells more about you than me.

Blessings



Mogens

I Can Explain It To You, But I Can’t Understand It For You

Good News For Christian Man ABP

"REVELATION"


RockyG666 62M
1357 posts
11/4/2017 6:30 am

god bless you sojo. PLEASE shut the fork up. god has resolved the issue, as god always does, prayers are answered