My Ideal Person
You: Honorable, Honest, Reliable, Faithful, Dependable, Loyal, Humble, Publicly and privately Affectionate, Successful, Experimental, Spontaneous, Financially solvent, Dominant, Strong-Minded, Open-minded, Independent, Intelligent, Educated, Funny, Upfront, Assertive, Ambitious, Responsible, Aggressive (in a good way , Vocal, Natural Leader, Protector, Christian, appreciates a woman who can get down and dirty along side with him working on a project around the house but would still love to show off his girl around town when she gets all "dolled" up for him. You are a role-model to someone. You're not a brown-noser and believe that in order to be successful is to work hard and not sell out or step on other people. You say "yeah right" if your boss tells you to run out and hug a tree. You think outside the box. You are a gentleman. You believe in opening doors, holding her hand when you cross the street, having her on the "safer" side of sidewalk. You take pride in knowing that she belongs to you. Although love is not jealousy, you will show "concern" for her. You will never withhold affection or love from her as punishment. You kill spiders for her. You take the heavier grocery bags out of her hands. You have good manners. You idolize NOTHING and NO ONE. You have too much pride to ask anyone for their autograph let alone hang a poster of them in your home. You fear nothing but the LORD. You are not addicted to anything including your car. You are both mentally and physically healthy. You believe in marriage and not living with each other for 10 years in sin with the satisfaction that you both are "engaged." You understand that if a man has a pickup truck, it is used to haul and not to just sit there in your driveway and look pretty. You ask people if they need help. You show respect for elders. You greet everyone when you walk into a room and when you leave. You're not anti-social. You don't mind giving credit where credit is due. You either came from a good, functional and sane family and have the same values, or if you didn't, you appreciate what you have matured and grown to become, rather than let your upbringing or "lack of" determine your fate. You don't procrastinate. You're not shallow and understand that beauty will fade. You have good hygiene. You have good credit and no criminal history or pending criminal court cases. You believe in preventive maintenance, which works for both cars and relationships You don't feel a need to impress your friends nor seek their approval. You are not easily manipulated. You believe that french kissing every day is "normal" and not just something that precedes sex. Your words and promises are gold. You don't smoke. You're not cheap but you know how to save. A lot of your values are old fashioned and traditional.

You don’t spend hours in cyber-space, in fact, you hardly know the cyber-space lingo and acronyms. You don’t meddle in numerous computer chat rooms nor do you spend hours playing computer games, internet games or video games. You don’t think that watching BET or MTV all day is cool. You are able to care enough to show some interest and enthusiasm if your girl wanted to share something with you. Care enough to offer well-thought suggestions, advice and whatever's on your mind. Must be comfortable and have a natural instinct to want to step up to the plate, take charge, take control and want to be the driver and not the back seat passenger in life. You want her to trust you whole heartedly. Appreciates and is turned on by a strong, assertive, vocal woman but also knows his role in a relationship as the "MAN" and doesn't let a woman walk all over him just because he wants to "please her" or "say what she wants to hear" or to "avoid an argument." Instead, you say what's on your mind with the same respect she shows you and you don't harbor ill feelings, resentment or prolong arguments even if that means putting her over your knee occasionally . You wouldn't allow us to go to sleep angry at each other. You believe in "nipping it in the bud" and you don't ignore the "elephant in the living room." You are taller than me (5'4) even if I wear high heels. You have a passion for Christ and a passion for life and want to maximize every waking moment. You don't let opportunities pass you by. You invest in things that are well worth it. You are able to walk away knowing that you gave 110% and have no regrets. You wouldn't mind input from an intelligent woman but also wouldn't mind the "little girl" within her who would want to sit in your lap and "lean" on you sometimes when she needs to. Just like the natural protector within you, you want to take care of her, and make decisions for what's best for her and the both of you and your family.

BONUS points if you are a believer in Christian DD. More BONUS points if you HATE cats but like dogs, especially english bull dogs, even though i don't own any pets at the current moment. And even more BONUS points if you like camping, and can FIX things like me (the "normal" guy stuff). I want to be your co-pilot in life, but you must be willing and wanting to be the Captain. And like any good co-pilot, i will always be there should you need me as your "help-mate" as God has intended me to be.

below is from an email i got from someone, i am including it here, because i could see myself saying this to someone:

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question, "What kind of man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking.
"Do you really want to know?" Reluctantly, he said, "Yes." She began to expound...
As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more."
I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.
She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man." I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, "You're asking a lot."
She replied , " I'm worth a lot ."