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OK. By no means is there a rush for marriage. In fact, I'm more doing this to entertain myself. Nevertheless, I am having difficulty finding a someone with whom I can see myself spending the rest of my life. I've dated some wonderful women, but there was something missing. So, yes, I have found some women who would make wonderful wives, kindred spirits even, but they really have turned out to be just really good friends, not a wife for me. I have a history and I have baggage, so I question whether or not I'm too picky, except I know I'd rather stay single than marry someone I was inconsistently certain about. It usually ends up in one of the following circumstances: 1) She thrills me, but she doesn't know God or at least He's not the priority. 2) She thrills me and a beautiful Christian, but she's married or very nearly. 3) She's Christian, but shallow/ditzy/plain/lacks self-worth/ etc. (Note: I need to be thoroughly attracted to the woman I marry, as I think all who do marry should but with at least one foot in reality.). Really, what it comes down to is a needle and a haystack!
I don't think I am too picky. I've had long conversations with my pastor and several of my friends and they don't think I'm being unreasonable. My mom wishes I would hurry it up, but I've gotta wait.
Here's my dilemma: Say, with same odds of winning the lottery, I actually find someone that works really, really, really well with me and I her. I would feel like such a dufus to say, "Oh yeah, we met on-line through Christian classifieds via Craig's List." Even if she didn't find this site through Craig's List I'd have to throw that in just to buffer my discomfort. I guess if nothing else, if some soul decides to respond to my long-winded spiel at least I'll know she's got perseverance.
Note after trying to view others' profiles:
And the irony of it all is that the woman that'd be right for me probably wouldn't pay for a "Gold" or "Silver" membership. She'd be stuck, like me, in the "Standard" membership and we'd never meet. Hm. I wonder if this'll effect my "pending review". The review is done by people who work for this site, right? I mean, if it was done by the members than how could you trust it? If I found a girl that fit my "profile" I wouldn't broadcast that she was the best until I met her. I wouldn't want all these other guys in the way. Heck, I'd give her a low rating, if any, and explain to her if she questioned it. Anyway, I wonder if I can even respond to anyone without being a "Gold" or "Silver" member should my rattlings provoke any response.
My Ideal Person
I've got to be pretty darn attracted to her. She's intellegent and witty, funny, athletic, artistic (dancer, singer, whatever.). It'd probably be good if she was good with stuff that I'm not, like getting gifts and cards out on time and filing bills before they turn into a tipping pile, but that's really not that big of a deal to me. She's spiritually solid with a desire for growth in her faith. She likes outdoor activities and has enjoyed camping and travelling. She's got to have grace, and I mean grace that reflects Jesus' grace, not not clutsy, but that kind of grace I like too. In a way this is silly because God always ends up surprising me anyway, so I guess beyond her spirituality the most important parts for anything to really develop into an actual relationship is that our spirits are kindred and our eyes are locked on eachother (i.e. we are content with what we see, hear, smell, touch... tatse(eventually, that's the plan, right?)
Additional qualification: She can't be a "Gold" or "Silver" member of this service. I only accept "Standard".
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