Dating at 45
|
Posted:Apr 5, 2005 1:37 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:29 pm 1288 Views
|
Starting to date again as a middle-aged person is tough enough. We meet this person for the first time, and wow! It's a bonus when they don't look like a troll(although we've all dated people who were so nice it almost didn't matter what they looked like). Then we visit and get to know them and they are so great! Good sense of humor, pleasant personality, lots in common. And when we discuss Christianity it turns out we see eye-to-eye on all the things that matter! It seems like something worth pursuing. Everything seems so right about this! Then the person says, "I don't ever want to be in a committed relationship." Grrrrrr!
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
This is hard
|
Posted:Mar 31, 2005 12:46 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:29 pm 1220 Views
|
Probably I've picked a difficult subject for my first blog ever, but it has hit a little close to home today and I feel strongly about it.
In January I lost my younger brother after he had an accident at work. He was in a coma for three weeks. Toward the end he was put on DNR status (do not resuscitate)by my parents who were told he would have diminished brain function. His feeding tube and oxegyn were left on, but when I asked the nurse about suctioning him she said that they were not allowed to do anything but make him comfortable. I looked over at my brother's attempts to gasp for air and asked the nurse if that looked comfortable to her. She suctioned him and he was able to breathe with much less effort. He died that evening, but I have never felt that anything that was done for him was for nothing.
Today I am reminded again of decisions like this by the story of the young lady the same age as my brother who died this morning after a long battle by her family over her feeding tube being removed. A women had come on tv when they removed it and told the nation that dehydration was painless and that the young lady would not feel any discomfort. Obviously, this woman had never been severely dehydrated before. I have, and it was the sickest I had ever been. It was torture.
Food is not medicine, it is an essential part of everyone's life.
Unfortunately, there are many that disagree with me. So even though I trust my family and my Lord, I plan to put in writing exactly what my wishes are should I be in this circumstance. I do not believe that this is me "not trusting the Lord to take care of things," as a few people have tried to convince me. It is me not wanting to be starved in front of my family for not being able to feed myself. I am not afraid of going to heaven--I look forward to seeing the face of Jesus and forever praising my Lord. Ultimately, it is my family who will have to do the most suffering, and hopefully this will make my passing easier and less painful for them.
I pray the Lord blesses each of you today.
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
