~~ Yes! I feel GOOD! ~~
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Posted:Feb 14, 2007 5:44 pm
Last Updated:Feb 17, 2007 7:31 am 6013 Views
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This day didn't start out good, but I sure feel good this evening. I even stayed late at work and did some catch-up because I felt so good. I want to thank you all again for your prayers. It feels so good to feel good and I hope it lasts!
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I love this place
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Posted:Feb 13, 2007 7:41 pm
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2007 11:17 am 5890 Views
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What else is there to say? This is the best fellowship I have ever found--
my BC friends gathering around me and praying for me in my pain and trouble...
finding acceptance despite my shortcomings and oddities...
hearing Godly advice and encouragement...
watching accountability and forgiveness in action...
learning about other cultures and points of view...
I am so blessed to be a part of this fellowship.
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Not doing well-please pray
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Posted:Feb 11, 2007 12:53 pm
Last Updated:Mar 4, 2007 3:52 pm 8487 Views
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I am not doing well today. I began having severe pain last evening, so I drank my daily dose and went to bed. But I had to get up and take pain medicine about 5, because I couldn't sleep for the pain. I had to take more about noon. Now I feel very strange. I am shaking and weak, and not able to think very straight. The blood sugar checks okay. I am going back to bed, and would appreciate your prayers.
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Signs & symptoms of verbal & emotional abuse
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Posted:Feb 10, 2007 8:05 pm
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2007 6:30 pm 5876 Views
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It took me many years to recognize what was going on in my marriage. Even though I was a professional, well-educated person, I did not realize what was happening to me until I came upon a book that showed me what verbal and emotional abuse was. Prior to that, I assumed that everything that was wrong in my marriage was somehow my fault (and certainly my husband told me that at every opportunity). His behavior was outside the parameters of any experiences I had ever had.
What I began to realize was that abuse was all about control. The abuser feels powerless in his own life, and has to control others to feel powerful. There are many ways to do this. One of them is to simply be dissatisfied with everything your partner does; to never appreciate or encourage the other person. Abusers tend to be so self-centered that they cannot even imagine life from someone else's point of view--let alone allow such a thought to affect their behavior.
Here is a list of signs & symptoms of verbal and emotional abuse that I got off the net. I am not mentioning physical abuse, because that becomes a separate category that is more easily recognizable.
Verbal or nonverbal abuse of a spouse or intimate partner may include:
•Threatening or intimidating to gain compliance.
•Destruction of the victim’s personal property and possessions, or threats to do so.
•Violence to an animal or object (such as a wall or piece of furniture) in the presence of their partner, as a way of instilling fear.
•Yelling, screaming, name-calling.
•Shaming, mocking, or criticizing the victim, either alone or in front of others.
•Possessiveness, isolation from friends and family.
•Blaming the victim for how the abuser acts or feels.
•Telling the victim that they are worthless on their own.
•Making the victim feel that there is no way out of the relationship.
Signs of an abusive relationship
Your inner feelings and thoughts:
Do you :
•fear your partner a large percentage of the time?
•avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
•feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
•ever think you deserve to be physically hurt or mistreated?
•sometimes wonder if you are the one who is crazy?
•feel afraid that your partner may try to hurt or kill you?
•feel afraid that your partner will try to take your away?
•feel emotionally numb or helpless?
•think that domestic violence seem normal to you?
Your partner’s violent or threatening behavior:
Has your partner ever:
•had a bad and unpredictable temper?
•hurt you, or threatened to hurt or kill you?
•threatened to take your away, especially if you try to leave?
•threatened to commit suicide, especially as a way of keeping you from leaving?
•forced you to have \bsexo?\b when you didn’t want to?
•destroyed your belongings or household objects?
Your partner’s controlling behavior:
Does your partner:
•try to keep you from seeing your friends or family?
•make you embarrassed to invite friends or family over to your house?
•limit your access to money, the telephone, or the car?
•act excessively jealous and possessive?
•try to stop you from going where you want to go or doing what you want to do?
•check up on you, including where you've been or who you've been with?
Your partner’s belittlement of you:
Does your partner:
•verbally abuse you?
•humiliate or criticize you in front of others?
•often ignore you or put down your opinions or contributions?
•blame you for their own violent behavior?
•objectify and disrespect those of your gender?
•see you as property or a \bsexo?\b object, rather than as a person?
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A Valentine for my baby
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Posted:Feb 10, 2007 12:31 pm
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2007 4:10 pm 5922 Views
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Yep, he is 13, but he is still my baby. His name is Joey, and he is my heart walking around outside my body. He and I have always understood each other without words, and had a very special relationship. When I found this poem, I knew it was for us.
The Meeting
As I went up and he came down,
my little six-year boy,
Upon the stairs we met and kissed,
I and my tender Joy.
O fond and true, as lovers do,
we kissed and clasped and parted;
And I went up and he went down,
refreshed and happy hearted.
What need was there for any words,
his face against my face?
And in the silence heart to heart
spoke for a little space
Of tender things and thoughts on wings
and secrets none discovers;
And I went up and he went down,
a pair of happy lovers.
His clinging arms about my neck,
What need was there for words?
O little heart that beat so fast
like any fluttering birds!
"I love," his silence said,
"I love," my silence answered duly;
And I went up and he went down
comforted wonderfully.
Author unknown
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Our Scars
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Posted:Feb 5, 2007 7:11 pm
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2007 3:10 pm 6000 Views
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He cannot heal
who has not suffered much,
For only Sorrow
Sorrow understands;
They will not come
for healing at our touch,
Who have not seen the scars
upon our hands.
Author unknown
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. II Cor. 1: 3-4
Look around. Do you see someone who is going through something that the Lord has already brought you through? Comfort them with the comfort you have received from God.
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Calling all bloggers with funnybones: We need help here!
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Posted:Feb 3, 2007 7:08 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2007 5:16 am 7144 Views
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Friends, here is the situation: I posted a big stack of chocolate to help Nancy (miracle43) with a craving she was having. Said stack of chocolate is reproduced with this post for closer inspection, but you may also refer to my former post (Just for you Nancy aka Miracle43) for more information.
Lynnie (Fireball 777) came by for a visit, and when she saw that mountain of chocolate and smelled fresh bread baking, she fell over in a dead faint.
Sue (SueBSingin) has tried unsuccessfully to revive her by smearing chocolate under her nose, but to no avail. Lynnie just rolls her eyes, takes a deep breath and faints again. She does have a smile on her face, however.
It is my opinion that Lynnie thinks she has died and gone to heaven. I am calling on the Blonde Intelligence Agency to do an investigation into the causes and possible cures for Lynnie's condition. Perhaps the BIA can also discover an antidote, or some way to prevent future attacks of this nature.
But friends, I feel responsible for this situation. Please help me bring Lynnie back to her senses.
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Choose Carefully
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Posted:Feb 1, 2007 9:32 pm
Last Updated:Feb 4, 2007 3:24 pm 5436 Views
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A careless word may kindle strife;
A cruel word may wreck a life.
A bitter word may hate instill;
A brutal word may smite and kill.
A gracious word may smooth the way;
A joyous word may light the day.
A timely word may lessen stress;
A loving word may heal and bless.
(author unknown)
Dedicated to my sister in the Lord, Elizabeth (Rebekka). There used to be a saying that "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never harm me." But that is so so wrong. Words can wound so deeply that life can almost be cut off. Thank God that Jesus takes those wounds upon Himself, along with our sins--by His stripes we are healed.
Think before you speak. A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver (Proverbs 25:11).
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A Rose by any other name...
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Posted:Jan 31, 2007 8:12 pm
Last Updated:Mar 11, 2007 11:40 am 5764 Views
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I think it was Shakespeare who said, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet."
A name is a powerful thing--it comes to represent the object or person that it denotes. Would a rose seem as sweet if it were called a skunk cabbage? Just the sound of the name conjures up something you would turn your nose up at, right?
Think of names such as Judas and Adolph. They are rarely used these days because of their negative connotations. Have you ever had anyone "ruin" a favorite name for you because the person's bad character became associated with their name? No wonder the Bible says that a good name is rather to be chosen than great riches.
In my work, I handle lots of names. I find some of them beautiful, some interesting, and some actually make me chuckle!
Here are some unusual names that I found beautiful: Chenoa, Selah, Delight, Harmony, Celesta.
A few interesting ones: Tasia, Kiel, Iota, Echo, Aloha, and the folks named Crismas who called their Carol.
And some that made me chuckle? Rowdy, Gidget, Race, Season, and my favorite (who was a relative of the deceased in the local newspaper): Burm Snart. I know that man is probably out there somewhere, but I just feel sorry for him carrying a handle like that around.
So, how about you? What are some names that you find beautiful, interesting, or worthy of a chuckle? (And I'm thinking REAL names, not just something you made up.)
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