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Mind your own.. One thing I noticed yesterday is everyone has an opinion.. Another thing I noticed is people seem inclined to comment and make judgements.. One thing I realised yesterday is that none really have any right to comment if they are not part of what is, or has been, happening.. ie. I cannot comment on any of my rellies or their families, because I haven't grown up and been a member of their particular households.. Just as they haven't been in mine.. BUT funny how everyone has an opinion, even if uninformed or ill informed! Something was said and I think I responded by rolling my eyes, or shaking my head.. It was immediately assumed that I didnt like the people being discussed.. I didnt add anything, because I realised they knew as much about my life and family as I about theirs.. Not much at all, except how I know them from my own personal experience with each person and that's it really isnt it, we have no right to comment if we are not actually part of it, no matter what any one "tells" us! ie. one person may be going around telling people this and that, but my experience of family is what goes on behind closed doors stays behind closed doors and dignity doesnt buy into it and if it IS talked about publicly it is seen as betrayal or disloyalty to the family unit. So a lot of things go unchallenged and unresolved.. When I was married I never discussed my life or what went on, with my parents, I wanted to leave their relationship with my spouse as they had it, he was number one and they thought it was all going good.. They were horrified yrs later when I told them the truth. Especially my dad, he was angry and felt very strongly about what I'd been thru. They felt betrayed, they had welcomed him with open arms, trusted him and loved him, helped him financially, helped him to get loans and ALL because they thought everything was ok, because I didnt say anything. They thought he was doing the right thing by us.. Maybe I should have? Anyway the point I'm trying to make is yesterday, I didnt get mad or offended, I just thought what I just said. None have a right to comment, just as I have no right to, I know them externally, I dont know anything about their family unit, how it operated, what it was like.. but I wouldnt dream of commenting on them because I dont know them that way, I only know them as my family, or friends.. I can only comment on what I've experienced with people myself.. |
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 There are some that repeatedly use the 'you must have had a bad relationship with your mother' line....They don't know a thing about my mother -wonderful woman by the way...Nor do they know a thing about me....These know-it-alls know very little about other people,,,they know very little about themselves....
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There are some that repeatedly use the 'you must have had a bad relationship with your mother' line....They don't know a thing about my mother -wonderful woman by the way...Nor do they know a thing about me....These know-it-alls know very little about other people,,,they know very little about themselves.... 
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That comes with experience and wisdom and discernment, amen..
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