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(Lana McLain)
23 posts
4/28/2007 12:17 pm

Hello again everyone!
Well, I am slowly learning to trust people again. It's been extrememly difficult, but I am getting there.I know everyone on here has suffered hurts and disappointments, so I know I am not alone. Broken trust is the only trust that has to be earned. And, once that trust has been broken it is hard to rebuild it. People in todays society just seem so callous, like they could care less what they say or do to people. It's like everyone is just out for themselves and to heck with whoever gets in their way! Does anyone else feel this way?

(mike s)
432 posts
4/28/2007 12:55 pm


2Co:4:3 KJV: But if our gospel be hid, it is hid to them that are lost:

(Daithi )

4/28/2007 1:51 pm

'Tis true, so difficult to trust, after so much hurt...God knows our hearts, so we can trust God to give us the insight on whether we should trust someone or not...

(mike s)
432 posts
4/28/2007 2:27 pm

Hi livingfree4him nice to meet you ,

Yes , it very sad when you look around you and see so much selfishness today . I think when you get saved , you really see it through the Spirit that now dwells in you . You have an understanding of Gods heart when he looks upon His creation . If our heart gets broken by the the sinful world we see abounding around us , how much more must His heart break ? And how much must His heart break when men absolutely refuse and spit upon , and ridicule the way that He provided for which they would escape the wrath to come ?

But you know what else we have ? We have an appreciation of just how incredible it is , that the One who created us , loves us so much that He was willing to become flesh and dwell among us . And to willingly lay his life down and take our sin upon Himself and pay our debt in our place , and to impute unto us HIS righteousness . He did this not because of who we were . But because of who He is . What an incredible and loving God we have . And what a wonderful Saviour we have that we can ALWAYS trust and who will never let us down or betray us , and in Whom we can indeed rest .

So yes , this world will let you down and those of it will betray you .
Theirs is is a short lived victory and reward . But what we have is eternal .

The trust that we have in our Lord is one that He will never betray and will last for ever .

You know what I started doing the last five years or so years in my life ? Everytime I got caught up in and offended and depressed about
something that was done to me or when someone I trusted turned on me and violated my trust and betrayed me ?
I started to think of how they betrayed Him too and how they denied Him and spit on Him and mocked Him and beat Him and whipped His skin raw and ridiculed Him and shamed Him and killed Him .
And when I do this I start to realise how that we have a God that is not a stranger to the things we go through . I realise that I have a God that knows exactly how I feel . And I then start to realise how much I have in common with Him . And then I start to think how much He has forgiven me for . And then because of the gratitude thats in my heart for this , I then start to not allow my feelings of hurt in my life to reign . And I then start to look at those people who hurt me in a different light and I then start to allow myself to forgive in return . Then I realise that I now have something else in common with Him . (The only difference is that He forgave them AS they were doing it . It takes me a while .) And I also realise that I have been given the mind of Christ and that Im becoming more and more like Him everyday . So , count it as a blessing .
2Co:12:9: And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
2Co:12:10: Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.
Ph'p:3:8: Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ,

Any way , I didnt think that for the life of me I could answer a post without writing so much , so thats why I replied above with just a yes . Just to prove to myself that I could .

But then again , I did come back and write this , didnt I ? hmmm .

Grace and Peace , archangel

2Co:4:3 KJV: But if our gospel be hid, it is hid to them that are lost:

ms_littlething07 67F

4/28/2007 4:42 pm

Once you have been hurt and betrayed it is very hard to learn to trust again. But we have to be careful that our fears dont put up barriers to that which is good. When we hold out a hand in friendship or a heart in love there is always that risk of our trust being abused..........I am learning that I cant control the actions or behaviour of other people but I can control and be responsible for my own. With that I go out into the world and offer who I am, and pray that God will protect me and guide me.

"For I know the Plans I have for you, declares the Lord" Jer 29:11

(Lana McLain)
27 posts
4/28/2007 6:40 pm

Great comments everyone! My spirits were lifting just from hearing from you guys! Thanks so much for posting!

AGemRefined 66F

4/30/2007 3:48 pm

I recently found a man I was dating back on the dating site we met on. When we first met in person, he even changed his bio to say, "I've met the woman of my dreams, THE ONE!" That made me feel so wonderful. Then...
I had gone to review an email he sent me and saw his bio had changed! I was so blown away and hurt that I had difficulty trusting him again. He had by then, told me He "loved" me and was committed to only me.
Somthing like this realy makes it hard to believe that men don't just say what they think you want to hear.
It has taught me to ask for God's direction and to be very careful of getting involved too soon.
Trust is so hard to gain when you fear rejection or pain returning.
Fear is NOT of God, so if fear creeps in, I do alot more praying!!

Jesus was denied too and he was wounded for us. He was betrayed...
He created us in HIS image, so we will go through the things he did. These are all tests for us to grow from.

God bless,

(robert l)
291 posts
5/25/2007 4:21 am

may you be blessed and filled with his healing spirit dear sister in christ living free

if we all could be fill with the lords spirit of love

Cookybx 61F

11/5/2008 12:07 pm

I can totally relate...coming out of a really bad marriage after 10 yrs, was not easy for me...slowly I have embarked on a journey to healing and restoration. Its only through God's word and His wonderful grace that I will be able to TRUST someone again...and I know I His perfect timing. The world we live today is centered around "What About Me"... people can get so easily caught up in this that it becomes almost second nature to betray someone, especially if they don't have Christ in their life. Its even harder to accept when this person supposedly knows Christ (as was the case with my husband) and yet are able to easily break the bond of trust. I praise God for His love, His mercy and His grace...His never ending "trophies of Grace"! that have kept me standing! Trust in the Lord and lean not unto your own understanding...