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ICorinthians13 66F
726 posts
4/2/2008 1:08 am
TIME TO MOVE ON


I was given to understand that I was dropped from the band because I walk with a cane.
Looking back, I wonder...
The lead singer in the band was the person who made the decisions.
She had a great voice---for singing rock music.
But the lead guitarist had been pushing for more blues-type music, and the lead singer's voice couldn't quite do that.
I can.
And when the lead singer wanted to bring the bass player to her knees when they had a disagreement, I wouldn't go along. I said that maybe what the bass player needed was love.
Looking back, I'm wondering whether I became a threat to the lead singer's power. I hadn't tried to do such a thing. It hadn't even occurred to me until someone else pointed it out to me today.
The person who spoke to me feels that something even more---jealousy---might be involved.
That had definitely never crossed my mind.
Jealousy? Someone might be jealous? Of ME? But---that's ridiculous!
Isn't it?
I wasn't competing!
I was just doing my best!
This was a Christian band. Could this be true? Could I have been dropped because of, as one person put it, 20 percent impatience with my "handicap", and 80 percent a mixture of jealousy and a threat to the person's sense of power?
Ya know, I'm still upset about not being in the band, but the idea of someone being jealous of me---I almost feel like laughing about that!
But today was a good day. Why? Because I was able to ask God to bless the band. I know I have forgiven the people who hurt me. Last night I released the anger to God and asked him to forgive me and to take the anger and bad feelings and flush them away for me. It still hurts. But I'm not going to ruin myself with helpless anger and grudges. It isn't worth it.

ICorinthians13 66F
617 posts
4/2/2008 12:26 pm

    Quoting crucified777:
    my dear sister,
    know this that before they did this to you JESUS knew they would do this to you. if i were you i would ask myself what does the heavenly father want me to do?then do what HE says..the LORD is testing you.
    if you take a can of coke and shake it what would come out? the
    coke that is in it right? so then my beautiful sister if you are the can and now you are being shaken,what will come out? will it be:
    anger,bitterness,resentment,bickering,malice backbiting, or will it
    be LOVE,JOY PEACE IN THE HOLY GHOST.you decide,are you going to let GOD get the GLORY or are you going to let your flesh get the best of you
    i got my money on the HOLY SPIRIT IN YOU TO WIN

    BE BLESSED.....ROMANS 8:18-19
Thank God we have His Spirit in us, huh?
Without Him, I'd still be tied down to all that resentment.
By the way---thanks for the vote of confidence, that I'd make the
right choice. Right now, I'm kinda low on self-confidence. Prob'ly
seems silly, huh?


ICorinthians13 66F
617 posts
4/2/2008 12:18 pm

    Quoting  :

Exactly. It was like hitting my head against the wall, then saying,
"There, see how mad and hurt I am?" It didn't do anything at all to
the other people, but it left me in pretty bad shape.


ICorinthians13 66F
617 posts
4/2/2008 12:12 pm

    Quoting sonia1964:
    You go girl. That is the spirit.
Thanks. I've appreciated many of the things you've written,
but don't always say so.


ICorinthians13 66F
617 posts
4/2/2008 12:10 pm

    Quoting ILoveCoffee:
    Hi!

    I love your attitude.

    Most wouldn't be as forgiving as you.

    Blessings to you...

Thanks, but believe me, it took a lot of prayer. And some well-timed blogs written about anger and forgiveness. A lot of people gripe about the arguing and stuff on bc, but I'm blessed by a lot of the people here, including you.


ICorinthians13 66F
617 posts
4/2/2008 12:06 pm

    Quoting Happy49er2:
    The Lord will greatly bless you as you pray for the band. H
Thanks. The main thing I've wanted, since I was 8 or 9 was to serve God musically. Now I'm on a worship team where the leader says I'm an answer to prayer, so at least I'm being used.=) That's what we want, right?


crucified777 60M

4/2/2008 9:54 am

my dear sister,
know this that before they did this to you JESUS knew they would do this to you. if i were you i would ask myself what does the heavenly father want me to do?then do what HE says..the LORD is testing you.
if you take a can of coke and shake it what would come out? the
coke that is in it right? so then my beautiful sister if you are the can and now you are being shaken,what will come out? will it be:
anger,bitterness,resentment,bickering,malice backbiting, or will it
be LOVE,JOY PEACE IN THE HOLY GHOST.you decide,are you going to let GOD get the GLORY or are you going to let your flesh get the best of you
i got my money on the HOLY SPIRIT IN YOU TO WIN

BE BLESSED.....ROMANS 8:18-19

Choose life,So that both you and your seed may live


sonia1964 59F
1344 posts
4/2/2008 4:31 am

You go girl. That is the spirit.

Hi there, just had to pop in to say hi.


ILoveCoffee 56F

4/2/2008 2:53 am

Hi!

I love your attitude.

Most wouldn't be as forgiving as you.

Blessings to you...


One in Jesus

Christina

ILoveCoffee


Happy49er2 75F

4/2/2008 1:36 am

The Lord will greatly bless you as you pray for the band. H