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This bothers me Call me old fashioned, but what is with so many so called "Christian" women today and why they will not wait until marriage to enter the physicall relationship? Yes, ladies, I am celebant until that day. How can you possibly get to know someone "intimately" if you bi-pass what the Lord taught on how to marry? If we are to take care of our "Temples", doesn't that mean to turn away from sinful behavior? I smoke and am trying to quit, just so you don't think I'm being hypocritical, but what is the deal? You do all the gym work, make up and everything else, but ugliness rears its' head from the inside? What man wants a woman who is engaging with many others and what woman would want the same? I'd like some input, because if that is all you are looking for, an empty and unfulfilled life you shall have. Purity, is in the heart, and the heart must belong to Our Lord to be pure. Don't you want your marriage to be Blessed? Matt 
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i have been celebaty for past few years,a true christian is in world we do not partake of worldly things we are suppose to abstaine from them if he have the heart of christ in us.
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6/13/2005 9:37 pm |
Yes, that is so beautiful and so right. The Lord wants us to resist the temptation of the flesh. When in a Godly relationship it is an awesome thing when both people are obedient to God's Word and have respect for one another as well as the Lord. We are to reverence the Lord and to please Him. When in a relationship we need to guard ourselves against tempation until marriage. Then when you marry the one that truly loves the Lord and loves you, you become one in the eyes of the Lord and the Lord is pleased. The Lord then can bless the marriage for the obedience He is pleased with. There is nothing more beautiful than being obedient to the Father!
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Hmmmmmmm, well, let ye who are without sin cast the first stone! I speak for myself and my own experiences, no need to explain it to you or any others I do not know. I appreciate your comment, but remember, try to reflect your own experiences without interjecting them on me. God Bless, Matt ><>
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Old fashioned...mmmmm You get an A+ grade on that report with extra credit points attached. Wish more men had that attitude. (¯`•♥•´¯) ¤`•.♥.•´ ¤ (¯`•♥•´¯)
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It was refreshing to hear a male speak that way. Marriage brings the two souls together and it would be wonderful to be equally yoked.
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2/24/2006 12:36 am |
Well, my input seems quite "after" your initial thoughts Matt. I have a good Christian man (also Lutheran) I purued as a friend on another sight, we have been friends (only good, support friends) for over 2 years. We have participated in study groups together, share spiritual walks and goals and mostly we keep one another accountable for our dating behavior. We both feel that God puts men and women together to help with talents and perspectives....so while we are in God's waiting room, why not practice the communication and support behaviors tweaking our skills for our future marriage. He helps me around the house and I prepare dishes for him to take to pot lucks and family gatherings. We often share activities with both our kids helping to prepare them for a time when a blended family may need to happen then they can reflect back and build on previous experience too. There is no personal physical touching or attraction, just general love, respect, and admiration as you would a friend of the same sex with. We do privately share scenarios we are faced with and communicate our temptations and brainstorm ways to resist them. We know one another's families and help as sounding boards for one another. Having a covenant to be "born again virgins" or celebate are based on our beliefs in Biblical text. Knowing that we have to be accountable for our actions to a omnipotent power should be enough to help Christians control their behavior, but realistically we are human and suceptible to err. Hence the accountability covenant helps us stay on our charted course awaiting the mate God selects. Now, if I just can stay out of God's way so He can do His thing! I often challenge myself on how Godly my own behavior is exploring the internet as the vehicle to the right someone, is that my will or God's? Another challenge I raise to me is based on internet dating, ...is it okay for me to initiate, after all what a magnificent feeling to be chosen by the right someone. Hmmm! Kind of like: Which came first the chicken or the egg? But earnestly, I agree with Matt, if we have experienced positive sexual relationships in our prior marriages...we can only imagine how magnificent it will be when God provides us with a new marriage partner to love through to eternity. Working with elderly and talking with people who have been married 60+ years and what they attribut that too is awe inspiring. Loss of a spouse (regardless of death, divorce or whatever) is never easy. Cherishing and respecting the love of your life on a continuim is part of God's purpose for us. He loves us unconditionally and the opportunity to explore sexual desires in the union of His love and commitment shared as your reason for being is something I invision as bringing additional depth and intimacy to marriage which will lead into eternity. All of that aside. If we ask our children to follow God's promises, what kind of role model are we if we don't walk the way we talk?
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I agree with you 110%. When married you are to be virgin's to each other. 
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7/23/2006 4:59 am |
It is great that a guy has the appreciation of God's desire for a couple while dating. Don't let anyone discourage you in your moral stand. Joyful. What God does in our lives during the waiting period is just as important as what we are waiting for. John Ortberg CHRISTIAN WAYS TO REDUCE STRESS
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1/17/2007 8:19 pm |
WOW! This is truly incredible. I didn't think there was anyone out there that felt that way anymore. Yes I believe this is the way God intended it to be. You really hit the nail on the head with this one. Every guy I have dated in the past several years, thought that I would give it up easily because, I have been divorced for so long. God will deliver us if we listen to Him. Praise the Lord, and thank you for your posting. Absolutely wonderful words. Donna
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2/9/2008 7:18 pm |
Hello there Matt, This is a very valued post my friend, even before becoming a Chrisitan I have always valued and respected when it would be acceptable for me to have a sexual intimacy with a partner, maybe like you mentioned Matt...whether its of some old fashion beliefs I own. I have always owned my inner strength and I have never had much of a problem at all controlling who I would like to be Intimate with, as I married the man who was my first love, even though this was short lived because of a sad car accident after 4 years of our marriage, I still value this same belief on intimacy with someone and I am very comfortable with this, I have met and let go many men who would not wait to learn all about me, I believe they missed out big time as they obviously only had lust on there mind, I want to learn and know all about him before I submit myself, and enjoy a intimate relationship in Marriage....Gods Way!  You are a very precious and valued Man Matt, you differently will recieve many rewards in Heaven....as you show only Gods Love! In Gods Grace Ashley
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