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The Macho Myth The Macho Myth by Barbara Rainey Ephesians 5:33 Let the wife see to it that she respect her husband. One day Dennis gave me a list of what he considered to be the needs most men have: Self-confidence in his manhood; To be listened to; Companionship; To be needed sexually by his wife; To be accepted and respected. Counselors and pastors would give you similar lists, based on their experiences. And you know what this tells me? The "macho man"-self-contained, independent and invulnerable-is a myth. To bolster Dennis's confidence, I try to encourage him by being his best friend. Every husband wants his wife to be on his team, to coach him when necessary, but most of all to be his cheerleader. A husband needs a wife who is behind him, believing in him, appreciating him and cheering him on as he goes out into the world every day. The word "appreciate" means to "raise in value." When I give Dennis words of praise and encouragement, I raise his value, not only in his eyes but in mine as well, and that builds his confidence as a man. The psychologist William James said, "The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." And Charles Swindoll adds this: "We live by encouragement and die without it. Slowly, sadly and angrily." When is the last time you told your husband you appreciated him? Prayer: As a wife, take your husband's hand and express to God your appreciation for him. Discuss: As a husband, share with your wife the times you have felt most appreciated by her. Ask your husband how you can be his "cheerleader." |
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