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Do you make the pope smoke or walk away a winner? Good Morning Everyone! I just wanted to share an observation from this morning and see what your thoughts are on the subject. As many of you know I work with a two men that could make the pope smoke. Well this morning when I arrived one of them was on his normal grind. Whenever his wife's does something wrong he sets into him, then spends the next morning going back over every fight he has had with any of her and discussing with increasing volume about how they will not get away with this again. This morning he was running over fights from over 5 years ago! What motivates this sort of behavior? How far removed from it are we? More to the point am I guilty of this? I know as I was sitting here I was thinking, "This man just makes me want to reach out and touch him....hard about the head and shoulders...repeatedly." Sure his routine is pretty pronounced and very annoying, but do I...do we do this in our lives? Perhaps on a more subtle level? I think the answer is yes...for all of us. I catch myself time and again, looking closely at the men that enter my world...saying...I will not work myself into the ground to support another cheating man again...no man will ever beat me again. You know what, Nope I won't knowingly allow myself to get hurt in those ways again...BUT how much am I hurting myself by not letting go of things and allowing people to be themselves instead of shadows of my past? Do you need to drag the past into your future? I recall as a being hurt badly by someone in my mothers church. I was so scared of people and angry...really truly angry. I carried the offense of this one man into my future tearing my life apart, running away from God and my values because of the actions of this one man. Yes, that ONE person did me harm...but I allowed the reach of his harm to last after the days and weeks of his tyranny ended. After that period of time...he no longer was inflicting pain on me..but I was inflicting it on myself. When I look at the people that enter my world with suspicion because one man did this or that to me...I am giving the person that harmed me power to hurt me through myself time and again. That is why we are new creations in Christ...old things have passed away...all things are made new daily...moment by moment. Take the good with you....leave the bad. Let go of it...no matter how hard that may be to do. Let it go. Lay it down. HE saw your hurts...HE counted your tears....HE knows your trials....HE wants to heal you. He can only do that for us if we lay it down and then LEAVE it down. It's a very hard thing to do...but if we don't then we diminish HIS ability to heal us and give us the best HE has to offer. |
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3/27/2007 6:49 am |
Amen Roberta. I really try to leave my burdens with the Lord but every once in a while I take them back and then I see myself getting angry all over again and I know OK I have had enough time to give them back to the Lord. God bless you my sister in Christ. John 
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3/27/2007 7:50 am |
Amen Roberta. I really try to leave my burdens with the Lord but every once in a while I take them back and then I see myself getting angry all over again and I know OK I have had enough time to give them back to the Lord. God bless you my sister in Christ. John
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3/27/2007 7:53 am |
Rhonda, you are so sweet. I really appreciate your prayers because some days its real hard to be positive of anything other than the fact that I am positive they irritate me. LOL
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3/27/2007 7:58 am |
Thats right Pat. You are such a kind and loving spirit, it is always such a blessing to me when you are around here.
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3/27/2007 8:24 am |
May God bless you richly in this life.
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3/27/2007 10:44 am |
My niece's husband, well soon to be X husband, will not let go of stuff that happened years ago. He still throws it back in her face. She called me today in tears because he came over and started throwing crap in her face that she has overcame and repented from and received forgiveness about. She just wants it to end and I don't blame her. I remember days like that when you are soooo far removed from hell yet it messes with your mind everyday, until ya did all that you could do and then God says, "Enough is enough". And he takes care of it. But then we tend to "remember" and that can be good or bad and that would be your choice or our choice. We can remember hell as it was and fight the torment all over again or we can say Thank God I know where I came from, I know I'm not where I should be but thank God I'm not where I was. Wow sorry got on a roll  I think I was preaching to myself thereLYNNIE
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3/27/2007 11:34 am |
My niece's husband, well soon to be X husband, will not let go of stuff that happened years ago. He still throws it back in her face. She called me today in tears because he came over and started throwing crap in her face that she has overcame and repented from and received forgiveness about. She just wants it to end and I don't blame her. I remember days like that when you are soooo far removed from hell yet it messes with your mind everyday, until ya did all that you could do and then God says, "Enough is enough". And he takes care of it. But then we tend to "remember" and that can be good or bad and that would be your choice or our choice. We can remember hell as it was and fight the torment all over again or we can say Thank God I know where I came from, I know I'm not where I should be but thank God I'm not where I was. Wow sorry got on a roll I think I was preaching to myself there
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3/27/2007 3:46 pm |
Amen! I like this. You are right! So many times we lay things at the feet of Jesus and as we leave, we pick them all up again. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow may not come! Today is a gift, that's why it's called the present. Leave things from yesterday in yesterday. What is under the blood is under the blood.  Elizabeth
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3/27/2007 7:57 pm |
Robyn, In the past, I've been guilty of bringing the "before" into the "now"...but this time I decided not to repeat that fatal error, which is why I didn't date AT ALL for 3years after my divorce. I decided to deal with my own issues so no one else would have to (except the friends that were my confidants...who were my angels during this time, none of which are here on Big Church)...and I do believe that the past is firmly where it should be...in the past. I've noticed that most people I have been talking to ARE carrying that baggage with them...and can see what I was guilty of doing before...I'm certainly not perfect buy any means but I am glad that I am not carrying that burden, too. I believe the key, for me, was my self-professed epiphany of His Gift of Choices... I do pray that all can come to acceptance...and have the burden lifted also.. Blessings, Shelley 
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3/27/2007 11:47 pm |
Lynn, you have nothing to apologize for. There is allot of truth in your words and your speaking from a place of obviously fresh emotion. I will keep your niece in my prayers. I know how hard it can be to deal with someone that is holding you emotionally hostage the way you describe. May the Lord deliver peace to her heart and mind and allow the pain to become a distant memory for them both.  LYNNIE
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I know.... I find myself in this trap, ...ehhh, a little to often for my liking, but eventually, God has His way.... and then of course there are also those times I find myself in a bit of a tug of war... While I think it's easy to get caught up in what has happened to us in the past, I think we can (if & when we allow ourselves) learn and grow from those experiences, if we remember to forgive those who have done us wrong. Not easy by any means, but certainly not impossible when we allow God to work in our lives. Hugs, Sue
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