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Would You Marry Someone from Another Race? |
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1 post 4/12/2006 6:48 am |
Why should this be an issue? Are you a racist?
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dear sister in the lord jesus christ jean marriage god the creator made man and woman displaying his full image each is made for the other the unity of husband and wife is of gods creative will from him came the love and grace which enable them to grow together in life [gen12v26 matt19v4-6] marriage is contracted in the lord received as a divine vocation acknowledged with humility and thanks giving and sanctifield by the word of god and pray [1tim iv4-5] we know our lord and saviour is love and love covers all so when 2 people are in love they are in harmory and love is christ thees are my thoughs on race dear sister may he always cover you in the spirit of the most high in jesus name amen
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4/12/2006 12:52 pm |
Why should this be an issue? Are you a racist? I like all the flavors myself!
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4/12/2006 7:24 pm |
Yes I would. God is not concerned with the outward appearance but the heart. So, I think the heart is the issue. Where is their heart.
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4/12/2006 7:38 pm |
I do not settle limits on God I want whatever he has for me... Gwen
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Yes, I would. As the Lord leads. " We are fearfully and wonderfully made." Psalm 139:14a
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outside which race, the human race, is there any aliens out there for me, hahahahaha May the Lord bless you and keep you
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4/13/2006 12:27 am |
This sounds like an easy question......(love is colorblind)...however, lets back up a step....what if the families on both sides are adamantly opposed to the marrage?.....dum-da-dum-dum ....much prayer needed here!. Or don't we consider the feelings of others?
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4/13/2006 2:19 am |
I would marry whom God has for me. In saying this tho I am not attracted to Asians and Indians. Sorry guys. I like them, have no problem with them. But am not physically attracted to them. But who knows what God has in store 
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I am the second "no" vote. I don't know who the first vote "no" was. ...but before I get blasted, I am not against others marrying from different races...my 3rd son is engaged to a Korean girl who is wonderful....two of my favorite nephews' father was a Japanese-black who was a highly-decorated military man, buried with the most moving and powerful military funeral I've ever witnessed. He was a great man. So, no, I am not predjudiced. I'm just being honest. Does that make me bad????????
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4/13/2006 12:35 pm |
If the marriage is "made in heaven", as the saying goes, then colour is of course not an issue. I was amazed in India how the pretty Christian girls clamoured around me to ask about my three unmarried sons!!!
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4/13/2006 12:49 pm |
Inside is way more important that the outside.
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4/13/2006 5:44 pm |
You cares what color a gift from God is? I would just be grateful that God chose to give me the gift of love.
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4/13/2006 7:20 pm |
One of my best friends is from Kenya, Africa and I have known her since 1992. I told her about a year ago that of anyone I know she would be at the top of my list for marriage but she stated she wouldn't marry a white man because of the problems that would be involved. I don't care what color they are just as long as they treated me and my daughter good and they were sold out for the Lord. John
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4/13/2006 7:43 pm |
I like that  I found out though I was from Venus- wanna date?  LYNNIE
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I am pretty mixed up! I am not quite sure if this is a matter of black and white or human and other world but if I can have a relationship with God who loves and treats me with the utmost respect, I can certainly marry someone on earth whose heart is with God loving and respecting me no matter what race they are. And if I didn't, I would still be pretty mixed up; because I am half Okinawan Japanese, one fourth American Indian, and one fourth Irish. I would hope I was what God planned on when my parents met!
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4/14/2006 10:00 am |
Yes, I would marry a man of another race. Especially if he is going to treat me with respect and love me and my children.
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4/14/2006 1:06 pm |
Ooh absolutely, that shouldn't be an issuse otherwise we aren't able to move on. Plus you can't help who you fall in love with and if it's the right person for you God sure will let you know.
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4/14/2006 4:13 pm |
I am one of the no votes . Not because I am prejudice or a racist. I have very many close friends whom I love dearly who are of a different race. This is just a personal preference for me. I congratulate Dennis on his forthcomng marriage and I pray God blesses his life abundantly.
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4/14/2006 11:39 pm |
my personal opinion: there are many different kinds of love and I think the color of someone's skin is a silly thing to be concerned about we really are so beautiful...so many variations like a field of beautiful multicolored Dutch tulips however, CULTURAL issues can be difficult to gap I would tread carefully if I were dating someone from an entirely different culture than my own Mark was raised in Japan and is VERY bicultural and such a beautiful blend he is, too I think the HUGEST issue is communication...and honesty if you are committed to this, I wouldn't see a hinderence, no matter WHAT the "differences."
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4/14/2006 11:54 pm |
I have dated and married someone of a different race. God loves us all its whats in our heart that counts. In all fairness interacial dating isnt for everyone because of the issues involved, If its not somthing you are prepared to deal with it could turn out to be less than the fairytale you hoped for. One thing I do have to say is make sure youre really into it and its not just a fantasy.
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Why should this be an issue? Are you a racist? (Maybe you had something else in your mind like asking how many people find other races difficoult to tolorate with, because some people even among Christians are rasict.)
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I think this is more a broplem in America, I come from Scandinavia and so many people in Europe and Scandinavia mix with different races, its not a big deal????
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Jean is not racist in the sense that your thinking, but she is racist in that she wants a black man over a white man. I like all the flavors myself! she is not ready for it. My self I stll look for an other black man to my life, not because white is not for my taste, but I have black kids.
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4/15/2006 7:03 am |
Hi Reallysaved and co. Re. different races: Personally I can handle a 200m sprint, but if I loved a female hurdler I'd see no reason not to marry her. Seriously though, my home town is 99.9% pink. I don't know many people from other races. (but if you'd like to email...) It has been touched on here that the couple's parents or culture might pose problems. But equally that may be the case if I, as a white Brit married a white American or Australian!! Must get back to wallpapering!
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4/15/2006 6:25 pm |
I am in agreement with Dundeal. There is only one race the human race. However, two different cultures uniting will bring struggles to a marriage. But so will different socioeconomic levels, male and females differences, dysfunctional home life, and different philosophies of life. But in a marriage a close relationship with Jesus Christ and dying to self (removing the sin of selfishness) is ultimately what will keep a couple together. And some good Christian counseling before you get married is a must.
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4/15/2006 6:32 pm |
I dont know what happened with my last post text was bigger oops.... anyways I wanted to add something. Ive always dated outside my race, Not all my family or friends agree,but I cant change who im attracted to, suit them. Now that im a believer If I married again It would be according to Gods will, hes know what flavour I like....
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A person should be judged by his or her character, not by skin color so I do not feel that if you were going to perform this marriage for them that this should be an issue. All of us should be careful not to show favoritism to some, nor be prejudiced or racial to others. It is shown in James 2 in verses 1 and 9. A Christian's standard for selecting a mate should always be to find out if the person they are interested in is a Christian as it is stated in 2 Corinthians 6:14. Faith in Christ, not skin color, is the Biblical standard for choosing a spouse. Interracial marriage is not a matter of right or wrong, but of wisdom, discernment, and prayer. I believe that any couple choosing to marry outside their race should be aware and properly educated about culteral differences if any may exist between the two parties. There issues will likely be more related to what others may think about it than the due diligence they have done and found to be acceptable. (¯`•♥•´¯) ¤`•.♥.•´ ¤ (¯`•♥•´¯)
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I am not prejudiced. I have dated several men of different races. I do see differences in color;I am not color blind. I just happen to prefer men with darker skin. As my friend Rod would say - lighten up a bit! I really wondered, Is the skin colour the atraction!!!!how,how!! Should'nt one get atracted in the person???? The thinking and behaviour, -skin is only surface???!!!!Maybe I do not get others motives, mine is/was pure. There is nothing exotic in different skin colour, but different people are exiting. What people mean exatly here, when they ask to 'lighten up'??? Do you want to say to someone you are stupit or living in darkness?? Is it insult or engouragement???? Or do you want to presure down someone or qualify the person lower than yourself???? Educate me if I am ignorant.
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4/16/2006 3:02 pm |
i voted not sure, because 1.) lately i am not sure if i will ever marry again, and b.) i dated an african american woman somewhat seriously, and: it was very difficult...i would have to really be sure about someone before i'd do it again. regardless of your views, people of this world can be very intollerant of such things. even the people who approved were over-nice to make sure we got that they were for us. when someone is over compensating, over patronizing, it can be disturbing in the almost same way as dealing with those who scorn you. and then there are those that scorn you. whenever we went out to dinner, we either got the best seat in the house and way too much attention, or we got the worst seat in the house and no attention at all. it seemed to always be that way, people either loved us too much or hated us too much. her family was horrible to me, my family over compensated and was patronizing to her. several times black men got physical about it with me, and several times white women got really catty with her. and then there were many straight up cultural differences that were hard to reconcile. there were many things about our upbringings and histories that neither of us could fully comprehend about each other. you know how when someone says "you know?" and you totally don't know? this may seem like a small thing, but there were many things that were really important to me that she didn't get. and visa versa. the bottom line is that there were a lot of pressures on our relationship that continually made it harder than it should have been. relationships can be very hard anyway, and i always felt like ours always had a lot of things going on that i just didn't need to deal with. i just wanted to be in love, and wished the world would just leave us alone. the relationship ended mostly because she was a control freak, and i was out of control. however, i think that the societal (is this a word?) forces opposing us had a lot to do with how easily we both let it go. had we married and had children, i would have always feared for them greatly. like it or not, this is still a very racist world, a very racist country, and those who go all up in it's face will be quickly and constantly reminded of that. wrong as that is, it is the way it is.
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Ok sis reallysaved, I apologize If hurting you. maybe my strong opinions make it to look like that, never meant to do hurt. Sorry again. I am very sensitive person myself, but in opinions I usually say things out and not to offense but juts point out my few. All the poll, people take it from here I love people, like discussion, do not know english much more than language, maybe using the expressions wrong way then.(lighten up-I don't get it at all.) So thats also the cultural difference what one need to take into consideration, when marrying. (My ex did hurt me a lot with words particularly, maybe not meaning to do so, but the cultural difference...
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4/17/2006 2:05 am |
IS God a color? then why does love have to be? I don't care if that other person was green, if our love for each other was mutual, and the timing was right, then why should I care what other poeple say or think? that goes for parents or kids.Those are the two major factors that caused my Black wife and myself to divorce.I was to blind and stupid to not be in love with her, when her love for me was strong.Instead I took advantage, as if she would always be their.I had caused to much damage to the marriage to save it, by the time I woke up and realized how much love I actually had for her it was to late.We dined in some of the finest restraunts, went to some of the nicest clubs and stayed in four star hotels.Both in Black and White or even Latino neighborhoods, You think I was going to let anybody ruin that moment? No chance. I would take care of it from our first step in or on the grounds. By walking in with my head held high, her arm around mine,and staring anybody who looked my way right in their eyes, not shy or embarrassed, but with pride and self confidence. I wasn't looking for trouble, but it was known that I was not going to back down from it either.All this before I accepted the Lord into my heart.Now with Him inside of my heart and on my side, I'll be walking even taller with more self confidence and the pride of who He is inside of me. Yeaaaah Got to Praise Him, for His Mercy and Grace endure for ever, and it's not even based on the color of your skin. THANK YOU FATHER for YOU are GOD,and GOD All Alone.AMEN
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4/17/2006 6:02 pm |
I said no, I wouldn't but it is not because I am a racist. I have dated a couple of black men in the past and have always been attracted to people with darker skin than my own. And I think biracial children are so beautiful. The reason I say I wouldn't marry someone of another race is because of the cultural differences that often cause problems in mixed race marriages. If I knew without a shadow of a doubt that I was accepted into their family in spite of all my "white" ways, and that they would be comfortable in my family (some of whom don't fully understand other cultures) then I would. My brother is married to a Mexican/American and while he is accepted, for the most part, there is still some conflict and he does feel uncomfortable being with his wife's family. She feels comfortable with some members of our family and not with others. Racism and cultural differences are two different things, I think.
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4/18/2006 10:22 am |
Hi, you can call me Ree. This is going to be long, but I hope you will enjoy reading this and that it will bless someone, in Jesus' name AMEN. I've dated different races growing, I went to mixed schools, so pretty much my friends were always a mixture of wonderful folks. I thank God and I'm sitting here realizing it now it is truly a blessing when God has made you open minded so that you can get along with people of any race. I was reared in a family that never made skin coloror ethnic background an issue, in fact I'm a pk (preacher's kid) so I thinking even now I'm glad the preacher never had any race issues, in the church growing up there were preachers, guest speakers, and visitors of many other races that came and visited and even some very famous white actors to boot. My father is 76yrs and my mom 74yrs. young, so you can see from both their ages they both were rear in very racist times. Even still my father worked for and was very very good friends with a white gentleman and his family. My mom comes from the black side of a pretty well known white family. And sometimes there were problems concerning race for each of my parents, but they however have never been racist or predjudice. My family has several mixed marriages, last year my sister who is black, married a white man, both are Christians, pretty much 99.9 percent of both families are happy for and support them and both families are truly not predjudice or racist for the 1percent who are...my prayer for them is that they will have a close encounter of the JESUS kind and get deliver, saved, washed in the blood of Jesus, and then go out all over witnessing and ministering to other their wonderful testimony. Amen? Amen. I always tell my sister, because my brother-in-law works a job were some of the guys are predjudice and racist and sometimes try to start trouble, they need Jesus and they love themselves,so don't worry about them, pray and let God handle them. My sis and brother-in-law they try to keep it on downlow sometimes when dealing with the job, they don't hide it they just don't volunteer this info...hey my brother-in-law doesn't care or like hiding this cause he loves my sister...I tell her there is going to come a day, again when no matter what color we are that, because we love Jesus, because we are Christians we are going to have to stand up for Who we love, we can't hide it then and we will be persecuted even be killed for our love of Christ. I know God has a plan and a purpose for all of our lives, and a destined, preordained mate for each of us I believe He the Lord, has a ministry for us alone as individuals and as couples together for His will, that the light of Jesus will shine in us, to be witnesses for Him, to the ministering and saving of souls... Salvation is for us to share, because there will be other inerracial couples just like us, who'll need to know Jesus died to save them, we must share God's love this great love, grace and mercy, so we've got spread it share it as a couple too, is not just about us, there may people considering dating, marriage to other races, that may use us to show it is of Him, when others even so called Christian try to discourage them. hey "Let God Be True and everyman a Liar". Amen! God gave us His Holy Spirit for a Reason.Let Him lead and guide you to all truth. God knows exactly what He is doing when giving us our mates,no matter what the persons race, color, ethnic background if this God's will and if He puts you with a mate of another race, He will reveal everything to you ,He won't leave you colorblinded(smile) ....you say you love GOD then Trust Him.... others may never like or accept your relationsips for friendships, dating, or even marriage even those closest to you, sometimes you have to give up all to follow Jesus Christ, to be obedient, if it is His perfect Will requires...and to me it seems more important to be obedient to GOD and not worry or care what people again even family say, think, or do they can't save your soul. I think we all should strive to please God the One who is Love, and gave His love and the One who die for us in the first place. I know God knows everything and He knows all that He has planned destined and ordained for me and you even our soul mate.......... Would I be friends with, date, and even marry another race if it is God's will for my life "YES" because I trust "HIM"...........sorry for being so long Be Bountifully and Beautifully Blessed in Jesus' mighty Name...I love you all Ree
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4/18/2006 9:43 pm |
Yes. My childhood dream was that I would marry a woman from another race and have what I called, "World Peace Children."
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Yes, I would definitely marry outside of my own race. I know quite a few inter-racial Christian couples. They are some of the strongest Christians I know. Interfaith marriages would be more of a concern to me than inter-racial. I am glad to see a lot of open-minded people on BC. Randi
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4/20/2006 5:49 am |
Yep definitely would. God will lead me to the person, wherever he comes from. Looking forward to seeing who it is and meeting this wonderful person, whoever he is. Ruth
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Shoot, I'd marry Yendor..... as long as he could keep me laughing
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4/20/2006 1:41 pm |
I noticed the military has been mentioned. I am retired from the military and I have many friends who have come home with filipina and korean etc. wives. Their marriages were just as solid as any others. I am used to it after many years of being part of their lives. We military folks are very close, seeing as how our lives depend on each other. As for myself personally, I have seen many attractive women of almost every race, but I have to admit a particular fondness for latina/hispanic women. My brother and also my brother-in-law have hispanic wives. They have great marriages, but unfortunately my own marriage is ending. So, any cute hispanic ladies out there want to go out sometime??? LOL!!!
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Wow! Rockyg's experiences really saddens me. Each and every time I see an interracial couple, I feel really encouraged and think to myself that there is hope after all.....that it is becoming more acceptable. What I don't know however, is what that couple actually goes through everyday. Rockyg said: "like it or not, this is still a very racist world, a very racist country, and those who go all up in it's face will be quickly and constantly reminded of that. wrong as that is, it is the way it is" HOW TRUE AND HOW SAD!!! I have dated interracially and I must say that I am truly blessed (THANK YOU LORD!!!!) that my family and friends are ALWAYS GENUINELY very supportive of me. I cannot relate to people when they say that their family and friends opposed their interracial relationships. My last relationship(among previous interracial relationships) was with a white guy and my family absolutely genuinely loved him because it wasn't about skin color. They just want me to be happy. Whenever he was around my brothers, they considered him "One of the guys". I could not separate them. They hung out, played basketball, played cards, watch the games, joked, laugh, in fact I joked with him all the time that he liked my brothers more than he liked me and vice versa. It was hard to see him as a white guy. He was JUST ONE OF THE BOYS!! Eventhough we are no longer together today, he still hangs out with my brothers sometimes. Now on the other hand, when we went out to eat, society reminded me that I was a black girl hanging out with a white guy by the funny looks we'd get. I don't understand why what people do with their lives and who they choose to date can offend so many people. I just don't understand it!!! I am going to marry the person whom God has chosen for me and you know what? I hope he is white so that I can offend more close-minded people on this planet!!!!
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Hello there! In my whole life, I never had any relationship with my own race, which I don't know why. It seems that they are not attracted with me (lol).By the way I am an amerasian but consider myself a filipina. I am divorced (was married to an american) but still wouldn't mind being married again to a caucasian.Whoever God prepared for me, that's the important thing. I look at the heart of the person and I pray he whoever he is will look in my heart too. Thanks!
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4/27/2006 12:20 am |
I just got out of another Christian website. When he found out I was latin, he stopped communicating with me immediately. I haven't heard from him since. I wasn't holding this information away from him but I just didn't think about it because it didn't matter to me. Now that I know it does matter to some Christians, I will tell them what I am so they don't waste their time if I am not the color they are looking for.
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5/20/2006 11:59 pm |
Society needs to grow up, and grow out of these unBiblical taboos. The only restriction the Bible lays on Christians, is that they should not wilfully marry outside the faith. My latest girlfriend IS from another race. And I'm old enough to be her father.
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