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paintingthesky 61F
12 posts
7/26/2014 9:02 am

What does this say about human nature?

After receiving multiple messages from BC members claiming to be intrigued by my profile, ready to launch an earth shattering romance, and more than eager to engage outside of BC---at their personal goodle address, of course...I decided to try something different. I placed this message on my profile page:

Please note: Unless you mention 'Levi' when you message me the first time, I will assume you haven't read my profile and I will not respond.
I'm not looking for long distance relationships. If I am greeted with 'Hello Dear' or 'Hi Dear,' I will delete your message without reading it. American men do not address a woman they've never met as 'dear.' If your English is impeccably presented in your profile, but broken when you message me, I will not respond. Sorry. No offense intended, those are all just red flags for me. The sad truth is that if you are actually reading this now, you are probably a sincere gentleman and you do not represent the men to whom my message is intended. Sigh.

Subsequently, I am happy to report that 2 out of 9 included "Levi" in their messages. Although one of the two made it clear that he was not "wild and crazy interested' in me LOL (this totally made me smile), I did feel that though sparse, sincerity might still exist.

I've since changed my main profile picture to a non-flattering silhouette photo and I don't think I've had a single view, let alone a message. I've surmised that at the age of 51, I should have a better understanding of men in general...but the truth is that the word 'general' is probably unfair when describing any group of people. And maybe we're all superficial on some level...myself included...Certainly not a characteristic of which I am proud and if I've learned nothing else of value from my little experiment, I think I will be more attentive to the silent signals my own behaviors and attitudes are projecting to the world.

Blessings and Be Well.

Sojourner06 60M
1768 posts
7/26/2014 3:26 pm

Hi Levi.
So, have you responded to those two poor chaps, who passed the test of yours?

Just for understanding your Post better, I looked up the word "Inquest". Now I am looking for the coroner...

No, I think it's understandable why you don't want a lot of scammertypes to send you messages each and every day. I have daily some young women age between 25 and 35 who view my Profile and then Hotlist and or Wink me.
Most of them could be my daughters; and a lot of those Profiles doing that are Scammers with a stolen profile.
I am at two of the dating sites of the "Friend Finder" cooperation, and been that for almost a year.
In that time I have reported a bit more than 1.200 profiles, that have been removed. Mostly "women", but a few of them have been "men".

Be aware it is possible to go to "My Account" and turn "let people see you have visited their profile" on and off.
Maybe you already know that...

We are having two Profiles blogging here, who likes the expression "TOO FUNNY". It's the same person behind, and do take a little care with them...

Besides all that: Welcome to the Blogs; fasten your seat belt and enjoy your stay here.



I Can Explain It To You, But I Can’t Understand It For You

Good News For Christian Man ABP


paintingthesky replies on 7/26/2014 6:06 pm:
I did respond to one...the other, ahem, indicated that he was not crazy wildly interested in me so...I didn't really see the need. You actually made my day with that comment...I loved it. Thanks for the blog welcome also. : )