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Jacqui1000 60F
141 posts
9/22/2013 1:06 pm

Today, though I am praising God for saving me from yet another mistake, I am also disappointed and angry.

Why do men lie?

Why do they, as married men, get onto a dating website and misrepresent themselves?

While this latest disappointment may claim he is currently "separated" and "in the process of a divorce," he's far from it. I sat and listened to nearly twelve hours of stories about his wife. And about his first, ex-wife. I tried a few times to get a word in edgewise, but he would reply with "Yeah, anyway," and continue on with his dialogue as if I'd never said a word. Utter and complete self-involvement.

I was shell-shocked and exhausted by the end of it all. I'm glad that there was no attraction--at least on my part.

How many times do I need to tell men that if you're attached in any way to someone else, you're not for me.

So many things turned out to be lies (He's a confirmed Lutheran--in fact, he's little more than an atheist. Definitely NOT for me.). So many things were misrepresented (He still considers himself to be very much married, yet he's on more than one dating site.) The entire get-to-know-each-other day was a lesson in do-not-trust-men.

Sad to say, this has raised the bar even higher for the next guy. Sorry gentlemen who are on the square, but it's true. The jerks ruin it for the rest of you.

"If the doctor told me I had six minutes to live, I'd type a little faster." — Isaac Asimov

Jacqui1000 60F

9/22/2013 4:17 pm

Hi Blue Air and thank you!

This guy was from a paying over-50 website and claims he's also on e harmony. So much for a paying site giving us a better chance at meeting a good man, huh.

"If the doctor told me I had six minutes to live, I'd type a little faster." — Isaac Asimov

Jacqui1000 60F

9/23/2013 4:04 pm

Hi Racefan I am so very sorry to hear of your experience with such a vile man. There are some truly awful people out there. How can we, as Christians, who aren't to judge, know who we can trust and who we should run a mile from?

I just found this quote on Facebook and thought it apropos.

"Give but don't allow yourself to be used.
Love but don't allow yourself to be abused.
Trust but don't be naive.
Listen to others but don't lose your own voice

Even for all my bad "worldly" experiences in my life, I tend to be far too trusting. I take people at face value, which means I'm easily lied to. However, that being said, I only give enough rope for someone to hang themselves and once that is done, I'm done. I can move on, but it still disappoints me that there are these men out there with no morals, scruples or truth in them. Very sad. Again, I'm sorry for what he put you through.

"If the doctor told me I had six minutes to live, I'd type a little faster." — Isaac Asimov

Sojourner06 59M
1768 posts
9/24/2013 5:34 pm

Hi Jacqui1000

Tell me what is the difference between to judge, and to assess??



I Can Explain It To You, But I Can’t Understand It For You

Good News For Christian Man ABP


Jacqui1000 60F

9/25/2013 2:01 am

While you may perceive me calling a spade a spade as judgmental, my assessment would be far more harsh. As a trained lay counselor, I would assess this man as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder, mainly due to his pattern of behavior, but also underscored by his own claim that he has no empathy for others. Red flags all around either way.

"If the doctor told me I had six minutes to live, I'd type a little faster." — Isaac Asimov