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friendship i don't have a lot of really good friends. it seems that most people close to me have really let me down at one point or another and then i put up a wall. to be true, that has even happened with a lot of my family, and certainly in my marriages. is this wrong? i really try to not be unforgiving, i know in my heart that i need to forgive every wrong as god has forgiven me. to me, it seems more an issue of trust. do we really have to continue to trust those that violate us? i don't think so. do me once - shame on you. do me twice - shame on me. face it, there ARE some really messed up people in this world. even the ones that seem to be genuine can really surprise you. i am afraid that i write people off too quickly and too unequivocally. i am THE worst for messing with others' comfort zones, i know that i dish it out, so i really try to take what i get in return. however, there are lines that friends should not cross. friends do not lie to each other. if there is something one friend needs to tell another, no matter how painful, they need to tell them. friends do not keep secrets. i suppose that it might help me to consider paul's advice that friends don't keep records of transgressions. i tend to write them in indelible ink and review them in my heart over and over. 
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1/20/2012 4:09 pm |
high hopes *jumps.* rowan is a bad thing.  hi seinfeld. i am big on animals too. they never go two face
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1/20/2012 5:53 pm |
you are talking about your friendship with gavin here, aren't you? but EVERYONE thinks that gavin is such a good guy.
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1/21/2012 6:14 am |
rekto, i mention NO names here. i was speaking from my heart. hi race car
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1/21/2012 6:16 pm |
thank you noobie. the holy spirit has told me it is ok to guard my heart. i never tied those scriptures to that fact, but they do fit. i am also sure that god NEVER intends for us to allow others to knock us around...physically, figuratively, or emotionally
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1/21/2012 8:57 pm |
in my case, the friend in question is continuing thier abuse and has no intentions of repenting or apologizing. i really need to look out for myself.
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friends do not lie to each other. if there is something one friend needs to tell another, no matter how painful, they need to tell them. friends do not keep secrets. i suppose that it might help me to consider paul's advice that friends don't keep records of transgressions. i tend to write them in indelible ink and review them in my heart over and over. That is where 'speaking the truth in love' comes into it, loving people enough to tell them the truth.. There is so much scripture that tells us how to be, in ALL situations, but I have come to realise that forgiveness does not mean you have to associate with certain people, it also is when you are not going over it in your mind all the time, rehashing things.. forgiveness isnt something we 'feel', it's a command, it does NOT mean we have to like the person OR their actions, BUT we leave it to God to deal with them, we cant change people, we can pray for them and then let it go and let God.. One thing God loves is when we are honest, even in our imperfections. He created us for His good purpose, for His good plan, everything is for a reason and everything is for a season.. I have come to realise that not everyone is there for always, people come into our lives and then go again.. that's life.. There is a funny ad on tv at the moment.. Cheer up, life sucks, we're all going to die, embrace it! Cheers Rocky! He loves you! 
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I knew a guy once who said "the more he knows people, the more he loves his dog" My lil dog loves me, every morn she is waiting for me to feed her, she wants to get my pat bfore her food, she sits and quivers and makes lil noises, I pat her and talk to her, but you can tell she really wants her food, so I say "get your food" and she goes to it, she gets her food warmed in a bowl and she gets the best food.. But obedience to me and getting my love matters more than the food.. and I think that is awesome! Think there is something to be learned here.. 
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1/22/2012 7:07 pm |
yeah, i need to quit going over it in my heart so much. part of the problem is that i still see the person every day and they are not repentant in the least. i want to beat them up
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I know how you feel, but I guess these things are sent to try us, amen.. some people make me feel so mad I wish I had a bazouka to blow them away! But then I talk to God about it, and realise that all things work together for good for those who love God and are called.. At least we are real, admitting our failures and doubts, He loves us for that, amen!! Cheers
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