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THE "N" LETTER WORD Today went into London to meet up with a friend for lunch. I took the underground tube train to go to London Bridge, where we met up. We had a lovely day, and when we parted ways, I went in the tube train to get home. The train had five stops, on the third stop, a man walked in, the seat next to me was empty. This guy looked at me and with no provocation just blurted out I hate sitting next to these N**** I was flabbergasted, and everyone around me looked at me for a reaction. Maybe they thought I would become a drama queen and let this guy sweat it out. I looked away and just pretended it never happened. I phoned my friend when I got overground to catch my last train home, and somehow they did not find the funny side of things..Well what can I say. That's life, other than the slander, I had a brilliant saturday. |
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9/25/2010 1:25 pm |
Abusers need no provocation. Most abusive people are narcissistic. Not giving him a reaction probably put a kink in his day of needing attention. Hugs
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i mam sorry you had to go thru that! sometimes people behave like that because they had a bad experience when they were younger. my boss right now is truly a vey good person,but for what ever reason he does get intimidated by Mexicans. so,at a moments notice he will get defensive with just the tinyest provocation. at first,i really was starting to dislike him,it looked like a clear cut case of racism,but then i was able to study his behavior and realized,it was fear causing his behavavior more than anything else. obviously somewhere along the line he had a bad encounter,with some who was,or some one who looked Mexican,maybe the guy was italian,maybe puerto rican,maybe jewish.somewhere along the line a dark skinned person,caused him a problem. its good that you didnt take it personal. 
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QUOTING:Siennasun I'm sorry that happened. I had a woman come into the office, request something outrageous, and then use the N word when I told her politely refused her. I told her to leave or I would call the police. end of story. It took some time for me to get over the confrontation. ______________________________________________________________________ Thanks for your respond, Well I am just suprised that he was a total stranger, and it was totally uncalled for. I have being on the receiving end of such abuse before, this is my second time, and I have to admit the first time really did hurt because maybe the person was a workmate and did not expect that from her and also was not called for. Also had to work with her for a while. Today was amazed it did not touch a nerve at all. Just left me suprised.
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Quoting Kayswhims Abusers need no provocation. Most abusive people are narcissistic. Not giving him a reaction probably put a kink in his day of needing attention. Hugs ________________________________________________________________________ Some of these outburts can not be dignifed by an answer, keeping quiet was the only way to go.
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QUOTING WHY O WHY Hi Jan, I assume the N-word is the word Nig...? Let me tell you a story please. I grew up in North Carolina and that word and the attitude behind it was very open back then. Things have somewhat changed since. But I grew up with that word as part of my vocabulary. Constantly hearing it. And then came a time when I was just in pain, the world is just so wrong. But be because of the people that word is directed at. So lost was I, so lost. Just joined in with the crowd, but something in me always told me that it wasn't right. I had black friends and treated everyone I met as an individual person. But I had that word in me. After I was saved I was freed from the concept of that word, but I still know that word and I hate it. I have been blessed with a wonderful Childcare lady. She only has my kids and the kids of her daughter. She and her daughter and her daughter's kids are black. My kids call her Grandma and call her husband Grandpa. She has helped raise them since they were old enough to talk. I sat in my truck one day going to pick my kids up and I was weeping. Thank you God, thank you God. For if my kids ever hear the word Nig..., they will think of their Grandma and Grandpa. They will never have to deal with this stain on their soul. They will see the word for what it is, a word of the devil. Instead of at one time using it and speaking it. I hope this doesn't offend you. Just thought I would share. ______________________________________________________________________ Thanks for sharing. It surely not a good feeling when someone send out such abuse. I could have made enough noise to get him arrested, but I took the way of ignoring, I thought to myself, my Lord knows I am just right the way I am. I do not need validation from a misguided someone who is probably hurting to be able to level such unprovoked abuse. it gave me peace of mind.
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Quoting onamissiontogod sometimes people behave like that because they had a bad experience when they were younger. my boss right now is truly a vey good person,but for what ever reason he does get intimidated by Mexicans. so,at a moments notice he will get defensive with just the tinyest provocation. at first,i really was starting to dislike him,it looked like a clear cut case of racism,but then i was able to study his behavior and realized,it was fear causing his behavavior more than anything else. obviously somewhere along the line he had a bad encounter,with some who was,or some one who looked Mexican,maybe the guy was italian,maybe puerto rican,maybe jewish.somewhere along the line a dark skinned person,caused him a problem. its good that you didnt take it person _____________________________________________________________________ Well I was never a drama queen BC and not one now. I can't imagine if it had happened to my friend, what would have transpired lol. I do not need validation of who I am from someone who obviously is lost.
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Quoting Thedrifter Do you know who Linda Randle is....??? From this picture of you, you two have a physical resemblance. And I'd say from you words a spiritual one. You add a great dimension to the dialogue _________________________________________________________________________ Thank you for such a lovely comment. I don't know Linda Randle?
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Oh baby girl, I'm so sorry this happened to you and I'm so proud of you for the way you handled it.  Live like there's no tomorrow Laugh when you feel like crying Love like you've never been hurt
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9/26/2010 3:53 am |
Colour means nothing about a person except for colour I never hear people say, gee I don't like yellow flowers or blue birds. People are just weird.
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Quoting philopatir There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with people with black skin..They are the most lovable people on earth.I have stayed with these people of God while i was in the states almost 4 years ago and will say it was an experience i will treasure for the rest of my living life..Most Christlike people in my old church are black and they are all very appreciated by all.We have family friends from Kenya and we adore one another..Heaven will be full of black people because they have lots of love to give..I'm very,very sorry you had to endure this my dear sweet sister,and you handled it exceptionally gracious...I LOVE YOU SISTER ______________________________________________________________________ True, we are lovable lol, but I suppose it is always hard to truly appreciate other people from other races unless one is willing to get to know them. Do you realise a lot of people just don't know, we use knowledge mostly mis guided about another races and judge them on that. I was just like that, and when I took the trouble my life was changed. There are good and bad people regardless of races but we should always endeavour in giving everyone the benefit of that doubt. It works for me always.
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Quoting two cents Oh baby girl, I'm so sorry this happened to you and I'm so proud of you for the way you handled it. ________________________________________________________________________ Thank you sis, it seemed like an appropriate way of handling it.
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Quoting HelsRisenRejoice You are awesome. You handled it well. I sometimes instantly pray for some like that. Boy, that spirit just has to flee. Power in the blood and in the name of Jesus. ________________________________________________________________________ Thank you sis, very true power in the blood in the name of Jesus.
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Quoting Matthew31272 Colour means nothing about a person except for colour I never hear people say, gee I don't like yellow flowers or blue birds. People are just weird. ______________________________________________________________________ Colour is still an issue, on both sides. If people took time to learn to go beyond the colour, most will be surprised with how they would feel and even react. I for one am never going to have misguided people decide how I will react and feel and will not also apologise for who I am. Yes true colour is only magnified and scrutunised when it comes to people.
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9/26/2010 8:52 pm |
Quoting Matthew31272 Colour means nothing about a person except for colour I never hear people say, gee I don't like yellow flowers or blue birds. People are just weird. ______________________________________________________________________ Colour is still an issue, on both sides. If people took time to learn to go beyond the colour, most will be surprised with how they would feel and even react. I for one am never going to have misguided people decide how I will react and feel and will not also apologise for who I am. Yes true colour is only magnified and scrutunised when it comes to people.  but I just see a colour - there is nothing to it other then what I can see. Close my eyes and colour goes away - it is Gods paint - He made it, He used it and what He made is good - so colour is not the issue - it is the heart that is the issue.
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Quoting Matthew 31272 I know it's still an issue but I just see a colour - there is nothing to it other then what I can see. Close my eyes and colour goes away - it is Gods paint - He made it, He used it and what He made is good - so colour is not the issue - it is the heart that is the issue. ________________________________________________________________________ I totally agree with you Matthew, it's the heart condition that needs to change. There is no amount of darkness that can extinguish the inner light. The sad thing is that we spend a lot of our time trying to control the environment around us. The task is to control the environment within us. Unless we do manage this and understand where we stand as people, we will be tortured souls.
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9/28/2010 10:17 pm |
Quoting you Hazel There is no amount of darkness that can extinguish the inner light. The sad thing is that we spend a lot of our time trying to control the environment around us. The task is to control the environment within us. Unless we do manage this and understand where we stand as people, we will be tortured souls. Oh, that's good.... thanks for sharing that. I will keep that to read again. The world is full of lost mean ppl, isn't it? I think you handled it great... I love what my little step daughter told me when I told her she is so pretty. "I am indian, and I'm golden brown!" She is just beautiful. All my husband's daughters are. Blessings "deep thinking" sis in Christ.    "Love is Patient..."
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Quoting chrissy56 Love see's NO colour... some people are just set in their OLD WAYS all we can do is Love Em Back with a SMILE and a God Bless You Brother.... know what's this is like as had many racial comments having a coloured Daughter... Keep him in your prayers Sister one day he WILL see the light and yes the right....and apologize when next you cross paths.... Hug ______________________________________________________________________ Thank you for the encouragement , I will be glad to see you in 2011,
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