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thetobeornot 51M
423 posts
10/28/2008 10:12 pm
The pain of regretting something


Broken relationships happen all the time. Oftentimes I deleted someone who didn't respond on messenger fast enough or I took their bad attitude as a reason to delete them.
Still today most do that. They may respond but when it comes to emails or on the net for some reason I'm one of few that focuses on one person and doesn't hesitate to respond.
Even in the chat room there are still a few who can conversate for more than an hour without a break. I can conversate for hours and maybe the whole day. The point is how much is anything really important when you hear about it.
Some will regret they didn't keep a certain friend or that someone is better off. There is also the playing favorites scenario and jealousy is right around the corner.
Are any of us prepared to lose someone we really loved. Is God there when we are at are lowest. Can anyone escape not being hurt by anyone?
Before 2007 I did really like some people, but it seemed when I appeared to lose them I didn't know when I lost them and I felt I lost everything then too. I realize now that those friendship relationships where I rarely conversated with them one on one, was mostly based on the attachment of just seeing them.
These were not immature things. I did like a few people to the point they were important to me, except the reasons I liked them were shallow and generic because they didn't really talk to me.
It was not until 2008 that I am at the point of knowing I can lose someone I really liked. I never had these thoughts of failure and lack of action to save anything. Mabye it's because I really can't save anything that is based on someone else's decision.
The point here as I heard a song sing is what exactly is success. I know it seems I went off the subject but how is that peopled are judged by their big accomplishments or their far out goals when there are people everywhere that are failing.
In the gospels success is measured by who humble themselves and has a sense of unworthiness about their life. It's not true success as people know it but the important factor here is what is inside each of us. As Jesus said out of the heart proceeds evil thoughts. Who are we? Can we change? Can we all treat each other better? It's all based on our inner choices. As Paul said those that are led by the Spirit are the of God.

Tropical_Man 67M
6389 posts
10/29/2008 4:27 am

I think living in the land of regret is just an excuse to not live today with what you do have


Hisgrayce 53F

10/29/2008 9:37 pm

Yeah, I agree. Sure, I have regrets in my life, but there is nothing I can do to change them. They have made me who I am today. We can only live life now for what God has planned for us - at work, for our kids, in our relationships and friendships. Live it so that tomorrow you will have no regrets for today.


thetobeornot 51M

10/29/2008 10:06 pm

I agree Tropical Man. Living in regret is not helpful, but it does show people are human and sensitive to people's hearts. Just like compassion. We can have compassion on the needy but there is no benefit dwelling on compassion as though it was something to live in.