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savedphyli 67F
183 posts
5/16/2009 7:38 am
I Have a Problem with Married People

For the life of me, I do not understand why a married person would join this site, other than to find a man/woman. I can understand where two people meet on BC, get married and continue their friendships on BC. Or someone who is in the process of getting divorced. But I have received emails from so-called Christian men who just "want to be friends" who are married. Personally, if I found out my spouse joined a singles group, even if it was Christian related, I would be a little upset. Oh well. I've learned you discern people's character by their conduct, not their words. Enuf said.

If you don't know me you haven't missed much - but if you don't know Jesus you've missed everything!!

Rebekka_returns 77F

5/16/2009 10:31 am

Excuse me but does being married mean you're excluded from having friends? Female or male? I am married and I am here for friends and friends only. For the time being (for reasons I choose not to disclose) BigChurch is my church. I come here to fellowship with other believers and to share what God has done/is doing in our lives. I believe I have made some good friends here. One person I consider a friend is a man that is married to a dear friend of mine. And another man who is a friend of mine is also married and makes it plain he is happily married. Who made the rule that someone cannot be just friends with the opposite sex? My husband is free to read my profile and my blogs if he so chooses, I'm doing nothing wrong and have nothing to hide. I praise the Living God that He is my judge and only He.
Love and Hugs
Oh, one more say you have a problem with married people (the title of this blog) being here, well God placed me here and if anyone has a problem with that, they can take it up with Him.

Lord, keep one hand on my shoulder and one hand over my mouth!

LovebuginCT 68F
606 posts
5/16/2009 11:41 am

The only problem I have with married people being here is if they are here for immoral purposes...looking for someone that may be 'better' than the spouse they have. This IS officially a dating site, but it becomes the main source of fellowship for some, a sounding board for others and a romantic possiblity for yet others.

Let's all focus on the goodness He brings to us thru this site.[image]

Walking, and praising and trusting my Lord for the rest of my life

savedphyli 67F

5/17/2009 6:07 am

    Quoting  :

Yes I a entitled to my opinion as you ladies are. But, in my post I did say that I understood couples being a part of BC who met on here. The Lord does tell us to stay away from all appearances of inpropriety. You would not believe the amount of emails I get from married guys who want to be friends. I stay away out of respect for their wives.

If you don't know me you haven't missed much - but if you don't know Jesus you've missed everything!!

(William Watson)
18097 posts
5/17/2009 12:56 pm

does this mean i can leave now, hahahaha, cheers

May the Lord bless you and keep you

HeHasMadeMeGlad 53F

5/17/2009 5:56 pm

Wow...sounds like you pushed a few buttons savedphyli, the backlash from some makes me want to duck!

I see nothing wrong with a single woman having an ongoing friendship with a married man, as long as the man's wife is included. Personally, I don't trust married men that spend an inordinate amount of time schmoozing with single ladies online or otherwise...and I guess that applies to married women too.

The internet has become too much of a free-for-all in terms of temptation to cross the line and cheat on significant others. As always, we must scrutinize our motives.

So I expressed my opinion, which is similar to yours, savedphyli. So go ahead ladies, bring on the bitch brigade...I'll simply duck again!!