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God's will He kept saying it's God's will for me to go back to him. I am hesitating now. Should i really give this marriage a last try? Or is he just tricking me back to him? He wrote beautiful letters and sweet words, but I just couldn't trust him any more. And whenever I think living with him again, I couldn't stop thrilling. He said in his Email: Although I have poured my heart out, I have heard nothing from you. Please get in touch with me as soon as you can... IF you are determined our marriage is dead and cannot be recovered; IF nothing truly good between us can redeem the bad between us; IF you are unwilling to give it a last try; IF you are willing to risk the future of yourself, and me; IF this time God is deaf to my prayers; I would give up everthing I have to minimize the pain of your choice; money is meaningless without a family to enjoy; I hate the evil of money which stirred up your suspicion and impulse that made all things so complicated. I remember you need house and - please take them all, plus other money. You need not struggle so much in your mind for the material possessions so as to show the imperfect sides of human being. This is the way I will redeem you again as I did before. I am sorry for all the bad but I regret there is no opportunity to remedy them just to show how I really care about this family within my heart.Please take good care of yourself and for me. Sisters and brothers, I need your advices, should I give him the last chance? He wrote beautiful words, but can I trust him? |
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words are indeed one thing.I dont like to make a suggestion in this, but this time I will. The way am perceiving this is that his desire is in regarding you. Your desire is in regarding God, are you doing the right thing. Thats what seems to be on your heart. Words, words are easy to say when one wants something and they are the ones who's actions have forced ones hand. Your hand has been forced. You made a decision. You also have shown that because of your faith the door is somewhat open. If you do want to reopen the door, my suggestion is at a distance and in time. He needs to understand the ramifications of his words and actions in your marriage that has lead you to leave in the first place. If you choose to reopen that door tell him its going to be over time. Spending time setting boundariesand also taking time so you can see that his committment and word mean more than what it has in the past. That is my advice. Christianity is not what would Jesus do, it is about what Jesus did do. Its about our blessing in the New Covenant. Its about abiding in him. Him living through us.
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Christianity is putting God, The Father first: both in one's own life as in the marriage (from both parts). Being led by the Holy Spirit (the Comforter) whom the Father would send in Jesus name, so He could explain all things that Jesus have spoken. (--> John 14:26) This will have its consequences and will give different fruits. When you both distinctly "hear" His voice in your spirit, it is indeed the voice of the Spirit! If you're not sure and confounded, (besides being other kind of spirits) it is just your own thoughts, feelings and emotions. The works of the latter are usually short-lived, while the works of the Spirit are durative and eternal. Good luck, sister! _____________________________________ That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the spirit is spirit. ( John 3:6 ) 
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You have gotten excellent advice here. If you decide to take him back then you should feel good about it. If you have doubts, then that alone is telling you something that you need to listen to. I don't know your situation, but God does. Have you and your husband gone to your pastor for marriage counseling? May God Bless You in ABUNDANCE
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Thank you all, sisters and brothers. I decide first of all I'll give him a "test" to see if he really means what he said and to see if the last try is worthy. Cause I had given the marriage so many times of "trying" and last summer when i first time left him, in the same situation, he asked me going back to him, I did give him the chance, but later more misarable...so I think, ok, this time, last try... ok, this time, really really the last try. but I just don't know what the real LAST time should be
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