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My response to Mia- and to any woman who has been through this This is what Mia posted regarding her current situation... and what follows is my response: I won't go into detail here right now but you people make sure you check out all aspects of an individual's life before you walk in there, all sweetness and light, and don't take anybody's word for gold until you have the evidence in your hands that tells the truth. Take from my experience and learn from it. There is no hope for me at this point but there is hope for you. People can hide alot of things and some of these hidden things are major, life-changing, life or death. It's that serious. Do your homework and don't be ridiculous or stupid like I was. I have a story to tell and it's not pretty. I'll give details privately if anyone wants to know but I am just admonishing everyone to stay alert, be careful, don't take anyone's word as gospel no matter how much you want to trust them. I have found that there are a myriad of ways to check a person out, their background, etc. And believe me, people don't change, I'm living proof of that. Be careful, folks, look out for yourselves and your family. God or not, it is a cruel world out there. This is a warning to everyone, please heed it and take the appropriate steps so that what happened to me doesn't happen to you. _____________________________________________ Mia- I am sorry you've had to travel down this road- of course there were some warning signs, but our emotions can sometimes cloud our judgement and make us so oblivious. So many times you don't really know something until you know it- and that sucks- it really, really sucks. Hind sight is almost always 20/20 but by then it's usually too late and the damage has already been done. I have been in similar circumstances and I was married to him for nearly ten years- you can get past this, but it's hard. I went through divorce and a couple of years of counseling individual and group therapy and it has helped me tremendously. It probably won't take quite as long for you to get past this because you are able to see right now what it took me almost ten years to learn... Please do not allow the valuable lesson you have just learned here to pass you by. I can promise you- if you do you will try to find a way to justify everything that has happened- then in time all hope really may be lost. There is some wisdom for the pain, but I have been on my own for nearly seven years now- since 2001. Yes, it's still hard to trust, but time and counseling have been a big help- plus good friends. You may love him but for both of your sakes please don't try to save the relationship. If Ken is ever going to learn anything from this- it's something he needs time for NOW apart from everyone to learn on his own. Please do not try to enable him through this- Please let this go now while you are still able to see the ugly truth of it all. People who will hit and abuse you are sick and they need help- let him get the help he needs. If you don't I can pretty much guarantee that you'll just keep repeating the same painful and abusive cycle with him again and again- Please don't put yourself through that. You need time, peace and healing God bless you with all of that and so much more. -Sharon  God's love reaches all- growing means thinking outside the box... love one another |
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11/29/2008 5:46 pm |
Amen! I just left a comment on Dennis' blog about not being able to be married after almost being killed by my ex. He did not wish to dwell (live with me in peace) with me, and I wasn't bound to him. God hates murder too. I hope it will help. I've never told it on here. But I thought I needed to now. Blessings Mia, Sharon, and Wendy. Thanks for posting this. Blessings, Robin and Thomas   "Love is Patient..."
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11/29/2008 2:57 am |
Hi Skystar, I can see that you are a woman who knows exactly what she`s talkin about coz i`ve been there too. Not with Ken but with a very violent man who just couldn`t see that he was doin anything wrong. I`m with you girl. Mia Must get out Now n not live in the hope that she can change things coz we both know she can`t. As for you dear lady, it`s not to late. Please don`t think it is. Although it`s so very hard you Can rebuild your life. Step by painful step You will n with God`s help you can be assured that with His love n presents it will happen. Yeah it takes a very long time but live in the light girl n the scars will heal. Peace and Love to you, Wendy  Show me the way Sweet JESUS. Lead and i Will follow.   
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