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Tropical_Man 68M
6573 posts
1/16/2012 3:01 pm
Can Divorced Christians Remarry? Absolutely!

* I think this is a very good article. Sometimes the translation of one word means everything. This is taken from the website divorcehope. It is worth reading. I believe the Heart Of God is found here.

Can divorced christians remarry? Yes, of course! Forbidding someone to remarry after they're divorced is bad doctrine. Marriage after being divorced is our heavenly Father's heart! (Take notice of a wrong translation of only one single word (apoluo) that p

Divorce and Remarriage

“Now the Spirit [of God] expressly says that in latter times [the days we live in now] some will DEPART FROM THE FAITH, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, speaking lies ...FORBIDDING TO MARRY…” (1Timothy 4:1,3).

“Forbidding [someone] to marry” after they have been divorced is a doctrine of the devil. The Bible is not saying that these people who hold to this belief are not true Christians, but that they teach out of ignorance — they don't understand God's heart in the Scriptures. Understanding God's heart only comes from the Holy Spirit revealing Him to us. Whenever we do not understand God's heart in the Scriptures, we have departed from sound doctrine.

This Scripture could not be talking about forbidding to marry in general. Nobody would listen to such nonsense preached. The desire that God put in man to have a companion and partner is too great, especially if they were married before. In order that we don’t fall into “...immorality, let EACH MAN have his own wife, and let EACH WOMAN have her own husband” (1Corinthians 7:2). “[For] IT IS NOT GOOD THAT MAN SHOULD BE ALONE…” (Genesis 2:18a).

The erroneous doctrine of forbidding one to marry after a divorce has been preached and taught in many churches. It has violated the conscience and hearts of those who’ve been divorced, driving them into a constant state of confusion and negatively impacting their lives. The only way for these people to come out of that confused state is to leave the church, and many have done just that. Not only do they leave the church to remarry, they also need to be able to make the right decision to divorce when it’s necessary in order to save themselves and their families before all is destroyed.

In order to understand that there IS marriage after divorce, we will examine the Scriptures in Matthew 19:3-12 focusing on the usage of the Greek word, apoluo. The Greek word apoluo that’s translated “divorce” or “to put away” is a general word. Its primary usage is: to “send” (apoluo) someone home when it’s getting late.11 When two people are leaving each other there is a “separation.” Apoluo is a separation in general, which does not involve the “legal” aspect of a permanent separation like a divorce. The common usage is seen in the Scripture “When it was evening, His disciples came to Him, saying ‘This is a deserted place, and the hour is already late. SEND (apoluo) the multitudes away, that they may go unto the villages and buy themselves food’” (Matthew 14:15). The Greek word apoluo doesn’t have a legal aspect to it. It’s just a common word that means, “I’m going to go” or, “away from, to separate.” Because of our wrong beliefs about divorce, this key word was purposely translated (incorrectly) so it would not conflict with our beliefs.

When used concerning a marriage it means a separation and NOT a divorce. If a spouse separates intending never to return, then the next step comes into play; the spouse obtains a “certificate of divorce.” This is what the confrontation between Jesus and the Pharisees (the religious lawyers of His day) was about in Matthew 19:3-12. The legal question was, “Do you just separate, OR do you separate AND give a certificate of divorce?” The Greek word used for divorce in these Scriptures means, to “send away” or separate from, NOT a finalized legal divorce.

The lawyers of God’s law tested Jesus. Their motive was to justify when they only separated from their wives and remarried without ever getting a divorce. They asked Him if God accepts a separation to get remarried without a divorce certificate for just any reason. Jesus responded that when a male and female come together in a marriage union, “...they are no longer two BUT ONE…” (Matthew 19:6a). Because the couple is still united, He doesn’t want “man” (the marriage partners) to just separate from each other and get remarried without a divorce. A SEPARATION ALONE DOES NOT BREAK THE MARRIAGE UNION. IT TAKES A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE, ALSO. So the question was NOT, “Can a spouse DIVORCE their mate for any reason,” but “Can a spouse get a SEPARATION from their mate for any reason and then remarry while just separated.”

When a husband just leaves his wife for another woman without ever giving her a certificate of divorce, this keeps the wife in limbo. She could not go back to her husband because he doesn’t want her; and she couldn’t “go and become another man’s wife” as Moses commanded because she is not legally divorced (See Deuteronomy 24:1-2). If she did remarry without a legal divorce, she and the man who married her would be committing adultery. This is why Jesus said, “...whoever separates (apoluo) from his wife, except for immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is [just] separated (apoluo) commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9 My Translation).

Because the Pharisees’ hearts were so hard “They said to Him [Jesus], ‘WHY then did Moses COMMAND to give a certificate of divorce AND to put her away [separate]?’” (Matthew 19). They agreed with the part of the law that said that you could leave your wife, but they didn’t understand that it was not right to keep their wives from getting remarried. A spouse with a hardened heart will not give the other spouse a divorce. They will want to control the person. A person who truly loves unconditionally will always give you a way out: an option not to love.

So it is with God; He always gives us the choice to not love Him. As we choose to love Him, it’s true love. At times the reason a marriage isn’t a truly unconditional loving marriage is because the partners feel that there is never a way out, if needed. If the marriage partners knew that there was a godly way to escape from a failing marriage it would give the couple the freedom to “choose to love,” even when it’s not convenient.

Jesus said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, PERMITTED you to divorce [separate from] your wives, but from the beginning IT [being separated without a divorce] WAS NOT SO” (Matthew 19:. Notice in verse seven that Moses COMMANDED them to give a certificate of divorce AND to separate (put away) their wives. But in verse eight, because their hearts were so hardened against their spouse, Moses PERMITTED them to just separate without the husband giving the wife a certificate of divorce. The reason Moses commanded that a certificate of divorce be given was to guarantee that the wife could get remarried. Simply, Moses commanded to give a certificate of divorce AND to separate. But because of the hardness of their hearts, Moses permitted them to separate only. The permission to separate and remarry without a divorce was limited to immorality. If the wife was unfaithful, the husband could leave without ever being “officially divorced” — by giving her a certificate of divorcement, and go take another woman as his wife. But if there was no immorality involved, the husband could NOT separate from his wife without getting a divorce first. If he didn’t get a divorce and went to live with another woman or got remarried, they were committing adultery.

“Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed [for selfish reasons]. Are you loosed [divorced] from a wife? [In my opinion says Paul, the Apostle] do not seek a wife. BUT EVEN IF YOU DO MARRY, YOU HAVE NOT SINNED; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned” (1Corinthians 7:26-28a). Notice that the “virgin” AND the person “loosed [divorced]” are both put in the same category — they have “not sinned” by getting married. BOTH THE PERSON WHO WAS NEVER MARRIED AND THE PERSON WHO WAS DIVORCED ARE WITHOUT SIN IF THEY MARRY.

Deuteronomy 24:1-4 tells of a situation where a man married a woman and then divorced her. This woman then married another man. The Scriptures go on to state that if the second marriage ends by her husband writing “...her a certificate of divorce ...OR if the latter husband dies…” (Deuteronomy 24:3,4), she could not remarry the first man she divorced because she had already married someone else. Therefore, if our spouse dies, or if we were divorced, we can get married again. Divorce and death are equal before God. The only stipulation in this Scripture is that if this is the second marriage, we cannot go back to the first spouse and remarry them because we married someone else after we divorced them.

The Hebrew word: shalach is the equivalent of the Greek word: apoluo.

There are many critical keys in this book regarding divorce, remarriage, submission, interracial marriage and relationships

oneten 61M

1/17/2012 8:06 am

If "divorce and REmarriage" is "God's heart" for us- then why marry in the first place? Why make VOWS TO GOD then tell ourselves God approves of us breaking our vows to HIM and the person we purposely chose and accepted "until death do us part"?
Your doctrine of divorce and remarriage as posted here is itself- the doctrine of devils. Shame on you for saying sin is ok.

Tropical_Man 68M
6389 posts
1/18/2012 3:19 pm

because we are human. If we were perfect, Jesus never need come.You dont get life do you?

Tropical_Man 68M
6389 posts
1/18/2012 3:22 pm

Galatians 3:1 O foolish Galatians! Who has bewitched you that you should not obey the truth, before whose eyes Jesus Christ was clearly portrayed among you as crucified? 2 This only I want to learn from you: Did you receive the Spirit by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith? 3 Are you so foolish? Having begun in the Spirit, are you now being made perfect by the flesh? 4 Have you suffered so many things in vain -- if indeed [it was] in vain? 5 Therefore He who supplies the Spirit to you and works miracles among you, [does He do it] by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith? -- 6 just as Abraham "believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness."

We are under Grace

oneten 61M

1/19/2012 3:38 pm

No- you are NOT under grace as continued sinners. You CHOOSE SIN over grace.
As the NT also says- shall we sin the more so that grace shall abound the more? GOD FORBID.
Indeed. GOD FORBADE IT. God said STOP SINNING. God did NOT say- "go ahead and sin all you choose to-"

Your type of doctrine of grace is satanism. The doctrine of "divorce and remarriage is God's will" is what Satan wants you to believe.
I say go ahead and believe it and do it and teach it.
Hell ain't half full yet.

Tropical_Man 68M
6389 posts
1/19/2012 7:13 pm

You are like the Prodigal Sons brother. You do not understand God's heart at all.Welcome to religion.

Tropical_Man 68M
6389 posts
1/19/2012 7:14 pm

Its God's word. 2nd chances

Tropical_Man 68M
6389 posts
1/19/2012 7:16 pm

You take scriptures out of context to TRY and make a point that in the context of the new covenant is not applicable

oneten 61M

1/20/2012 5:54 am

Do what ever it takes to STOP SINNING. If that means you DO NOT EVER MARRY so that DIVORCE is never an issue- BEAR YOUR CROSS.


Satan says that crap- and YOU repeat it. I tell you to STOP SINNING- Just as GOD SAID- and you tell me SATAN IS BETTER.
As I said- heep on the highway yer on- hell ain't half full yet.

Tropical_Man 68M
6389 posts
1/20/2012 6:21 am

Pauls Words:

Rom.7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

4 Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.

5 For when we were in the flesh, the motions of sins, which were by the law, did work in our members to bring forth fruit unto death.

6 But now we are delivered from the law, that being dead wherein we were held; that we should serve in newness of spirit, and not in the oldness of the letter.

Tropical_Man 68M
6389 posts
1/20/2012 6:21 am

It is finished

Tropical_Man 68M
6389 posts
1/20/2012 6:23 am

Notice, when Paul gave the illustration of the relationship between a believer and his Savior, he was illustrating a TRUTH by using the example of a man, who knew or had the LAW, how that he was under subjection to the LAW (like a married woman is subjected to her husband). As long as the LAW has dominion over the man, he cannot “marry another”. However, the man is free to “marry another”, that is, to Christ Jesus, only when he is dead to the LAW (through the Body of Christ). So, being released from the law, the man is now able to serve in the new way of the Spirit.

Therefore, how could this example of Paul's be used (by the preacher and many others like him) to form a doctrine that an unsaved divorced woman cannot remarry? Being unsaved, the woman must be a sinner as all man and woman are born sinners. So, does it matter if she should marry and divorce as she likes? After all she has already been judged: “For the wages of sin is death” (Rom.6:23). A sinner commits all kinds of sins. Can the LAW given to Israel be used to judge her? Why is the preacher using the Law and even the Bible to judge such a sinner when she knows nothing about its Author and the Savior who loves her? What a strange preacher.

If she is an Israelite woman who knows the LAW then she would be judged by the LAW. Then again, the Bible has concluded that “ALL have sinned and come short of the glory of God”.

oneten 61M

1/20/2012 11:21 am

Notice that SIN IS SIN. If as you teach- there is NO LAW as you are proclaiming- then adultery is not an issue so divorce is unnecessary since the marriage is part of the "LAW" to begin with. Therefore tropicalman- the MARRIAGE IS INVALID TO BEGIN WITH since the law which no longer exists can not apply to those whom you teach. No "marriage" under the law, and NO DIVORCE UNDER GRACE OR LAW since there is NO LAW to be broken anywhere in the first place. As IU said- Satan uses the BIBLE (through YOU ) to claim souls.
You can quote Paul and any other sinner about SIN BEING LAWFUL and I'll stand here and tell you to QUIT SINNING.
If you DO NOT SIN- there is no reason to worry about the law.
So QUIT SINNING. That is what PAUL WAS SAYING. Sin is always a CHOICE. Just SAY NO TO IT.
Now tell me I'm wrong and YOU GO AHEAD AND DEFEND SIN DENNIS. That is what you are doing. DEFENDING SIN. That is not covered under "grace".