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Tropical_Man 67M
6573 posts
11/29/2010 2:44 am
Sold Out


The one thing that I always think about when it comes to relationships or anything that is going to require a lot of differing efforts is this. Count the cost. Is this what you really want in life? My ex-wife is a prime example to me of someone who does not count the cost.. Right now she is going to school in a field, that with a bad economy is a bad idea. i wish she would have went a different direction, but it is her life. It is her decision. However more than likely, all she has ahead is more debt with little to show for it. I want her to succeed. I want her to be at peace in life and flourish. It does not look like anything will ever happen based on past track record and what is going on today.



We can live in our dream worlds which are often a house of cards, or we can take a realistic look at where our lives are. The dream world is an easier place to be. It can take us away from the stresses that follow us in everyday life. Yet at the end of the day, are they a deterrent from reality, or a part of a plan to realize a dream? Its kind of weird but in most cases our friends will not say anything, but they just sort of go along with our dreams with the thoughts that we will figure it out someday that it is not going to come to fruition.



I see relationships come and go. They usually fall apart because the cost was not really invoked into the situation. Expectations and presumptions were, but not reality. So they operate in the illusion of what they think things should be without working within the framework of what the real needed functions are. Sold out. Sold out means you have looked at the strengths and weaknesses of the other person before you decide to enter into a permanent relationship. You have made a decision that I love this, I can tolerate that. But above all things I commit to making this work in the good and in the bad. Yes it takes two. It takes two people counting the cost and realizing that there are some things you will cherish and enjoy in your partner. There are however some things that you will not.



Here is the sand in the shoe. If you counted the cost from the beginning, and made a commitment to work through this type of stuff, then you either do something about it or you have lied to yourself and you make it an excuse to be unhappy. The sand in the shoe isn't as big of a deal because you knew that sand was there. You either continue to work with these little situations or you use them as an excuse to end something. But then, who is at fault? Who is being dishonest? If you counted the cost, then you would continue being willing to deal. Quitting is easy. Commitment frowns on quitting.



We love romance. We live for intimacy, whether it is with God, family, friends or a spouse. But in each case is commitment to excellence in the relationship, or it will reek with brokenness. If we give half of ourselves to God, family, friends and a spouse, how can we expect much in return. Count the cost.



Be Blessed