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You close to your mom? Back in 1956 when I was 6 months old my biological father found me at my mothers girlfriends house as she had been out carousing apparently and he had not been able to find her for three days. I had not been changed in two days and had a bad rash from that. I also had not been fed. Much of the time I was just left alone. He was struggling finding work as he had just been a few years out of the Navy. He put me up for adoption. The foster parents that I stayed with adopted me. My mom was the greatest. My dad was quiet. He was in the battle of the bulge in WW2. His dad had died when he was 13. He helped run their farm, go to school and drove a local semi to help his mom and siblings. I guess that may be where I get my stubborn hard-nosednes. My adoptive parents both died of cancer. Mom in 1976 when I was 20 and my dad in 1979 when I was 23. Yeah to some that was a lifetime ago. But, missing them never changes despite time. I really loved them. I knew, from papers my parents had, the names of my biological parents. I met Stella in 1981. She lived 30 miles from me. It was strange. She would never be like a mom for me, but that was not what I was seeking. She pretended to be interested in the PTL club because she knew I liked that. I was married at the time to Brenda. Just married. I moved to Florida for good in April of 1982. Stella Had I kept in touch. My bio dad lived in Winter Haven. I met him in 1982. He always talked against her. I think she had let go of most of that. By the late 1990's things just changed for me and Stella. Its just strange. I knew she had lied about a lot of things, but I didn't care. Just wanted to be friends. Be herself, ya know? I hadn't been able to talk to her in 7 years since my dad, Dennis Sr died in 2001. I called. She stopped calling back. A few weeks ago, I had a flat tire and AAA was fixing it and it was maybe 9pm. I was bored so i called her, not expecting her to answer, but she did. We had a nice conversation. It lasted maybe 15 minutes. I had to go to talk to the AAA guy. Told her I would call her right back. She said ok. I called, she didn't pick up. It makes me sad. But long ago I realized how great my parents were that raised me and how fortunate I was that I was put up for adoption. However, there is now a void because of the strange behavior. Blessings Dennis |
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11/1/2008 3:58 am |
You certainly were blessed to have had such wonderful adoptive parents. A child needs a loving set of parents, seems like you had that. I do not know what to say about your bio mom and dad, though what was rare in 1956 seems to be the norm these days.
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I grew up with both of my parents, and most of my childhood I was convinced that I was adopted as I felt that I didn't 'fit' in. I was in a very abusive family situation and grew up without the love from either of my parents. I am so glad for you Dennis that you were blessed with adoptive parents that loved you like you were their own biological son. I am still not close with my parents. All these years have passed and they are the ones who are waling in guilt and shame, and still not able to 'let' me in. Just the other day, Ian and I were saying that we only have each other, and our kids. Our love is so deep and rich that it has bought much healing from the lonliness and deep need to 'belong' and be loved the way we love each other. So I don't feel this void in my life like I used to any more, PTL. I am very blessed to have Ian love me like he does, and unto the Lord. Apart from my relationship with Jesus, Ian is my bestest friend, my soul mate, my everything. Apart from my Lord and Ian I need nothing else. Blessings brother, Lou The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.
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Its amazing how it can make us think and feel isnt it? In my case it makes me sad if I dwell on it, but I dont think I really did anything wrong. She is just a strange bird is all. Her grandchildren she ignores for the most part. Its inexplainable to me. Self absorbtion I guess.
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