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Tropical_Man 67M
6573 posts
8/16/2008 5:43 am
What does it take to be considered stalking?


In your opinion, what does it take from another persons' actions towards you for you to feel like you are being stalked? What would you do if that happened to you?

Interpretation
(Darlene G)
57F
1316 posts
8/16/2008 6:39 am

You mean on the internet or in real life?


Noah235 66M

8/16/2008 7:56 am

This is not the modern issue we sometimes think it is. When I was 14 I was a very shy boy {still am really } and because I was too shy to ask a girl out I phoned her up - only to find when she was answered that I was even too shy to talk to her over the phone! In a panic I hung up but a little while later, thinking she might be scared of getting a caller hang up like that {there had been some incidents reported in the local news at the time} I phoned again and confessed it had been me.

A little while after that a couple of my friends came round and said they had been getting some stick from this girl who thought I had phoned from one of their houses! So I rang a third time to get my friends "off the hook" {nice pun huh }. This time I really HAD dropped myself in it because she came round to my house herself {backed up by an army of friends!} and created a big scene at the front door {lucky my parents were out at the time }.

I think the point I am making is that there are two sides to every story. Although I was only 14 at the time I'm sure in this day and age I would be called a 'stalker' although it never was, and never would have been, my intention to do any harm. Even if this doesn't answer your question, Dennis, I hope you and the other bloggers have at least got some enjoyment laughing at my teenage chat-up style!!

Peter


"Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth"

2 Timothy 2 v 15


floridagal2 66F
1960 posts
8/16/2008 9:06 am

Well if it is truly stalking I would call the police. A few years ago I had a man in his car cut me off nearly causing an accident; when I honked my horn to let him know (in case he didn't) that I was there he blocked me, got out of his car and came back to mine ranting and raving and trying to get me to roll down my window (I did not of course)...the next day I was on my way to work on a busy 6 lane road in Orlando when he pulled his car up right next me and gave me an evil smile and wave (obviously he had been watching for me; there is no other way this could have happened by accident in busy work traffic). Just so happens I did the physicals for several police departments and mentioned this to one of the lieutenants; he said that the first incident could possibly be just "road rage" but that when he waited for me and pulled up next to me the next day he crossed the line to stalking; I had the guys license number, gave it to him and he said he would take care of it...never was bothered by the guy again. There are some crazy, evil people out there...you can't be too careful, nor take things too lightly.


He is no fool if he should choose to lose the things he cannot keep to gain what he can never lose.....Jim Elliott


Deena


Tropical_Man 67M
6389 posts
8/16/2008 9:09 am

it can be both the internet and real life


Tropical_Man 67M
6389 posts
8/16/2008 10:08 am

you are always welcome here


Louisiana 57F
1177 posts
8/16/2008 6:37 pm

Itt has taken me a long time to finally realise that my former husband has been stalking me. As I live so far out of the main town and he never appears here I just thought that it was a coincidence that I saw him when I went shopping etc. This calculating man knew when I was due to be in town and where my fav hot spots are and he either appears or rings me saying that he can see me etc. The hard thing is that I just wont see him the once, it could be more than that. In recent months he is worse as he realises that our marriage is final and he is not coping with me being strong and moving on etc. He is now resorting to using his young kids to ring me on different mobiles in the effort that he will cohearse me into going to him. Although I know this is stalking, I don't feel threatened by him. I don't feel that he is dangerous, just possesive and doesn't like to take no for an answer. If at any point I was fearful in that way I wouldn't hesitate by going to the police. I am really looking forward to signing those papers and being untied to this man. Blessing Dennis for today

The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.


Louisiana 57F
1177 posts
8/16/2008 8:37 pm

    Quoting  :

Awww Jeffy that counts me out then doesn't it? lol Blessings to you

The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.


Tropical_Man 67M
6389 posts
8/16/2008 8:58 pm

LOL


GraceStillAmazes 64F
870 posts
8/16/2008 11:19 pm

    Quoting Louisiana:
    Itt has taken me a long time to finally realise that my former husband has been stalking me. As I live so far out of the main town and he never appears here I just thought that it was a coincidence that I saw him when I went shopping etc. This calculating man knew when I was due to be in town and where my fav hot spots are and he either appears or rings me saying that he can see me etc. The hard thing is that I just wont see him the once, it could be more than that. In recent months he is worse as he realises that our marriage is final and he is not coping with me being strong and moving on etc. He is now resorting to using his young kids to ring me on different mobiles in the effort that he will cohearse me into going to him. Although I know this is stalking, I don't feel threatened by him. I don't feel that he is dangerous, just possesive and doesn't like to take no for an answer. If at any point I was fearful in that way I wouldn't hesitate by going to the police. I am really looking forward to signing those papers and being untied to this man. Blessing Dennis for today
What you've described would scare the living daylights out of me!

I've had a stalker--I would change my email address and he would find it, I changed my phone number twice, I've changed my screennames. He just found me again last week, and sent an email. He's been clearly told to leave me alone more than once. But I live in another state now, so I'm not worried, just a bit creeped out.


Tropical_Man 67M
6389 posts
8/17/2008 4:15 am

you need to turn all that into police, they will do something about it