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who should come to whoom?  When in a long distance relationship, which do you think is more proper, the woman coming to the man or the man to the woman and why?
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8/14/2008 3:30 pm |
I think thats similar to your 'diggs' question...there are lots of variables. I've seen him move to her...and her move to him...and I've seen successes and disasters in either situation. Lotsa help, aye?
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8/14/2008 3:30 pm |
Good question. I would say it depended on one's finances.  Lord, keep one hand on my shoulder and one hand over my mouth!
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dont you think the man should pay either way? If he is going to lead
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8/14/2008 5:00 pm |
I agree, Dennis. Either the man should go to the woman or he should pay for her to go to him. It's part of showing he has the ability and courage to be the leader of the relationship. Nancy Let us share one anothers burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ
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me too and thanks Bro T
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I think a person finds someone close by and noone has to go.
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Well...there are a lot of variables; schedules, etc. My guy was at a conference, then visiting his children and I flew up there for the weekend...it was the only time to do it while he was on leave, without putting off meeting for some time. The cost was split, and he covered everything once I got there. I think there is give and take in all aspects of a relationship. We have also talked about picking an interesting half way between the two of us and driving there, spending the day together and having dinner before driving home. Sometimes one person's schedule for is more flexible and it makes sense then for that person do to the traveling; don't think it matters whether it's the guy or the gal. I know when he comes down here I'll fix meals, etc...I don't think it should be a financial burden to either one of us to be together...again, give and take. He is no fool if he should choose to lose the things he cannot keep to gain what he can never lose.....Jim Elliott Deena 
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Mia uoting Tropical_Man:-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- dont you think the man should pay either way? If he is going to lead -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- That's hilarious! What am I gonna do with you?
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Interpetation think a person finds someone close by and noone has to go.I think that also is a good alternative.
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Deena:Well...there are a lot of variables; schedules, etc. My guy was at a conference, then visiting his children and I flew up there for the weekend...it was the only time to do it while he was on leave, without putting off meeting for some time. The cost was split, and he covered everything once I got there. I think there is give and take in all aspects of a relationship. We have also talked about picking an interesting half way between the two of us and driving there, spending the day together and having dinner before driving home. Sometimes one person's schedule for is more flexible and it makes sense then for that person do to the traveling; don't think it matters whether it's the guy or the gal. I know when he comes down here I'll fix meals, etc...I don't think it should be a financial burden to either one of us to be together...again, give and take. I think that is also a very good approach. However some ladies with Children may only be getting by
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Dennis I am a believer in the man talking the lead in that area. If the relationship is blossoming then the man is the leader and he should make the effort. If the relationship grows and eventuates into marriage then the right leadership has already been established. I also believe in give and take, and if there is a lack and the woman travelled, then the man should make sure things are covered. I also believe that the man shouldn't do all the work. I would like to think that it would bless the man and show him that the woman cares and loves him to travel to him, and bless him where he is at. In the end though there is no hard set rule, and each relationship will differ from the next. Myself personally I would need him to lead regardless if he came here or I went there. Long live chivalery!! Blessings brodder The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.
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Louennis I am a believer in the man talking the lead in that area. If the relationship is blossoming then the man is the leader and he should make the effort. If the relationship grows and eventuates into marriage then the right leadership has already been established. I also believe in give and take, and if there is a lack and the woman travelled, then the man should make sure things are covered. I also believe that the man shouldn't do all the work. I would like to think that it would bless the man and show him that the woman cares and loves him to travel to him, and bless him where he is at. In the end though there is no hard set rule, and each relationship will differ from the next. Myself personally I would need him to lead regardless if he came here or I went there. Long live chivalery!! Blessings brodder I agree and I think it can only help a situation
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