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his diggs or yours if you got together with someone from BC, would you want to live in his home or yours? Is it best to get a new place so it feels like ours? |
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8/14/2008 12:46 pm |
Well, I don't think that I can predetermine that. If and when that happens it would be a joint decision depending on variables.
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I agree with Hellen. May God Bless You in ABUNDANCE
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good answers, and it is a tough decision. 
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8/14/2008 2:27 pm |
Aww, thanks!  Now, how come its all the women that are telling me that?? Mebbe I shoulda showed more cleavage!! 
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Helen, how is your recovery going?
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8/14/2008 2:39 pm |
Helen, how is your recovery going? So, I'll continue to do just distance walking as I have been since this whole thing started. Thanks Dennis.
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You are welcome Helen. Just keep with the program they have given you
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His Susan, wouldnt you all want a new place if possible that could be called ours?
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Joybells: Dennis, I think one of the things it would depend on is the work that either one does. Which one can leave their job, which one can't. Who is able to be more flexible. Of course there are many other variables as Hellen suggested. This is just one that I thought of right away. I agree but I am wondering if the situation presented itself, wouldnt you want a home that you purchased together or rented together that you could call home? Thanks
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Whoever has the hot tub!! LOL Seriously, if I was in love with the guy, I'd go where ever he'd want to be. However, the love of my life would also consider that Texas has a great economy and no state income taxes. This is such a tough question being that I have to look at it from the standpoint of even wanting to be in a long term relationship which right now is the farthest thing of my mind. I would think we would need to communicate fully over what was best for the relationship and any children that might be involved. And well, if he wouldn't even consider my thoughts or my son's needs, then I wouldn't want to chase him the world over anyway.
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I likely will end up living in his home and selling or renting mine; doesn't matter to me if you purchase it together or not as long as the heart attitude is that the home is ours. I do like the idea of doing some decorating/redecorating together; even if the home belonged to the other person prior to marriage, redecorating or getting some items together helps to give it that "our home" feel. He is no fool if he should choose to lose the things he cannot keep to gain what he can never lose.....Jim Elliott Deena 
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OC: Whoever has the hot tub!! LOL Seriously, if I was in love with the guy, I'd go where ever he'd want to be. However, the love of my life would also consider that Texas has a great economy and no state income taxes. This is such a tough question being that I have to look at it from the standpoint of even wanting to be in a long term relationship which right now is the farthest thing of my mind. I would think we would need to communicate fully over what was best for the relationship and any children that might be involved. And well, if he wouldn't even consider my thoughts or my son's needs, then I wouldn't want to chase him the world over anyway. Very good answer !
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Ideally, I think it should be a new place with no ghosts from the past. That way you have an equal playing field. I know many women who have moved into HIS place and feel like they are competing with past wives. And the man seems to stay in the same mindset he has always been in because the environment stays the same. That said, you do need to consider practical issues as well like Joy mentioned. Who has the better job, the better retirement, etc.
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Aww, thanks! Now, how come its all the women that are telling me that?? Mebbe I shoulda showed more cleavage!! The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.
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Preferably a place that is new to both of them, starting off together. But it also depends on the circumstances they are in etc. I once moved 1000kms to marry. I left everything behind and our security depended on his care for us, which became zilch! 5 years down the track I would be hesitant to do it all over again unless the Lord rewuired that of me. Anything can happen when you are in the will of God and that you are both happy with the decision what ever that may be. One thing I had thought of was that whether you live, you should buy a new bed particularly if it was shared with a previous partner as the marriage bed should be pure. Old fashioned I know, but I make no appologies, lol. Blessings bro The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.
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Deena likely will end up living in his home and selling or renting mine; doesn't matter to me if you purchase it together or not as long as the heart attitude is that the home is ours. I do like the idea of doing some decorating/redecorating together; even if the home belonged to the other person prior to marriage, redecorating or getting some items together helps to give it that "our home" feel.Thats a good attitude
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Pelicandeally, I think it should be a new place with no ghosts from the past. That way you have an equal playing field. I know many women who have moved into HIS place and feel like they are competing with past wives. And the man seems to stay in the same mindset he has always been in because the environment stays the same. That said, you do need to consider practical issues as well like Joy mentioned. Who has the better job, the better retirement, etc I agree with you...I like the dual nesting
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Helen I agree with Lou
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8/14/2008 9:05 pm |
No no Helen! Never think that you have to show clevage in order to gain attention. That would cheapen the beauty that God has placed in you and make a man see you for reasons other than who you are! Blessings my dear sister, Louise 
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i was juuuuuuuust joshing!!! din't ya see the tongue in my cheek??? The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.
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LOL
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LOL Mia
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I think so much has to do with (1) whether or not one or both parties have been married before and (2) whether or not they have shared the home with a previous spouse. In my instance I have not been married and my guy has been divorced for many years, not living in the same state as his exwife...the home he purchased last December he purchased on his own, as have I. I would have no trouble moving in to his home if married. We have discussed decorating styles, likes/dislikes...even took me to look at/give approval to some paintings he was wanting to purchase for his home. Again, so many variables...and I think it is hard to say for sure until you are in the situation, weighing all options, finances and feasibility, etc. He is no fool if he should choose to lose the things he cannot keep to gain what he can never lose.....Jim Elliott Deena
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Deena: I think so much has to do with (1) whether or not one or both parties have been married before and (2) whether or not they have shared the home with a previous spouse. In my instance I have not been married and my guy has been divorced for many years, not living in the same state as his exwife...the home he purchased last December he purchased on his own, as have I. I would have no trouble moving in to his home if married. We have discussed decorating styles, likes/dislikes...even took me to look at/give approval to some paintings he was wanting to purchase for his home. Again, so many variables...and I think it is hard to say for sure until you are in the situation, weighing all options, finances and feasibility, etc. Once again good wisdom and thought Deena
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