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so ladies.... how do you let a guy down? Lets say you have met someone, perhaps you had been in contact for awhile and you have decided he is not "the one". How do you feel about telling him and how do you handle it? Do you just hope he catches your drift, or do you have your own way of telling him?? |
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Mia just tell him, straight up, in a kind and nice way. I'm not a mind reader and I expect he wouldn't be either.Being upfront is very good. Less pain in the long run.
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Chrissy says ONTINUE THE FRIENDSHIP IN A WARM CARING WAY....UPFRONT AND HONEST IS THE BEST WAY...but usually I don't have to do anything as God always answers my Prayers.... If they are NOT of His Will He removes them from my path... Prayer always works best Denis.. Gods Guidance and Protection Chris xxoxo Very well stated. I just find it interesting how people deal with this stuff. I think no one really wants to hurt someone elses feelings. How is it in Aussie land?
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8/14/2008 6:48 am |
what chrissy says is what I usually do, I continue the friendship in a warm and caring way, I've found out that the best thing to do is to ask God for help in this situations as well, He does remove them from your path and protects you from their anger and resentment. It's hard to tell someone that you know in your hart that, even do they love, you know that it is not going to work out. Life is an adventure.
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8/14/2008 7:25 am |
Gently..a heart is a fragile thing  Lord, keep one hand on my shoulder and one hand over my mouth!
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two more excellent thoughts 
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Straight up, same as Mia, had one incident where the guy liked me and I did not feel inclined.....I felt bad but he could not take a no...he kept trying to win me(or bribe me more like it)and sooooo I had to be very firm...he is still mad at me...but what can you do??? why I did not like him??? He took me to a movie and announced to every one around us that he was paying, he always was showy in public.....cant handle that...pride is very ugly. Bleck..... Isaiah 42:8 " I am the Lord; that is my name! And My glory I will not give to another, nor My praise to graven images."
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I am sure Jeff will get over it
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 Isaiah 42:8 " I am the Lord; that is my name! And My glory I will not give to another, nor My praise to graven images."
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Rather go on a date with Gordey.  Isaiah 42:8 " I am the Lord; that is my name! And My glory I will not give to another, nor My praise to graven images."
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imho with really good communication it would be talked about all along... I am not looking and not open to anything like that presently but I like to think that folks try to be honest and then zing!!!! hmmmmmmmmm it's not easy.....lol in God, I trust
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it can backfire on you
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good points Susan
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8/14/2008 3:15 pm |
Good topic Dennis. I'm glad I've met God's best for me, because I had just dealt with this issue, and I was honest the whole time. And the guy was really mean to me, and made me out to be a really bad person. I understand the let down, but I have never done that to a guy who had to let me down. I'm glad I won't have to deal with this again with anyone. Even when you are honest all along, that you still do not know if they're the one, and you're keeping it just friends, they can be really hurt and angry. Very tough situation all around. I don't have the answer for sure. Blessings, Robin   "Love is Patient..."
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The difference is that Gordey, for all his rudeness, is genuinely ignorant but Aslan, he knows what he is doing and that is scarey. Isaiah 42:8 " I am the Lord; that is my name! And My glory I will not give to another, nor My praise to graven images."
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Thanks Robin and blessings to you and your relationship
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I am sorry Kim. Gordy is at the bottom of the human genes pool to me. I just try and ignore him as much as possible. No gret matter there. I like Jeff much better. I know he is saved.
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Neither has that Jeff!!! Dennis is being silly! Isaiah 42:8 " I am the Lord; that is my name! And My glory I will not give to another, nor My praise to graven images."
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LOL...i was pointing to her nemisis Asian.
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I try to put it in a way that does not make it feel like a personal rejection of them...that I have prayed (and I do) and don't feel God is indicating the relationship is to be more than friends and that I pray that God will bring that special someone for them soon; and ultimately it truly is about God's will and God's best for both parties. He is no fool if he should choose to lose the things he cannot keep to gain what he can never lose.....Jim Elliott Deena 
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Well, we will have to agree to disagree on that one Dennis.....you just cant add human effort to the atonement, not even your mesley little faith. Isaiah 42:8 " I am the Lord; that is my name! And My glory I will not give to another, nor My praise to graven images."
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Deena: I try to put it in a way that does not make it feel like a personal rejection of them...that I have prayed (and I do) and don't feel God is indicating the relationship is to be more than friends and that I pray that God will bring that special someone for them soon; and ultimately it truly is about God's will and God's best for both parties Very well put Deena!
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Always, always upfront but in love and kindness. The Lord requires us to love our brothers and sisters regardless of our relationship with them. If we practice that kind of love in ALL circumstances we would be building up the body, and edifying each other in the Lord. Blessings dear brother The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.
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8/14/2008 9:55 pm |
Honesty. Simply that.
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8/15/2008 12:20 am |
Thanks Robin and blessings to you and your relationship "Love is Patient..."
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Thank You HisGrace and also Robin!
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