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SHOULD I BE CASUALLY DATING SEVERAL GUYS? I recently went out with a female friend and the subject of dating came up. She asked me if I had been on any dates from bigchurch and I said yes, but only once because of my innate curiosity and I wanted to prove to myself that I could do it. She felt I should be dating at least five guys simultaneously and I said that my problem is I feel weird about dating several guys and am afraid I'll lead guys on and hurt their feelings. But in theory I think I would like to be able to do this to protect myself from becoming committed too soon to the wrong kind of guy. So am I hopelessly old fashioned to just date one guy at a time to see where it goes or should I be casually dating several guys at one time and comparing their strengths and weaknesses? Should dating guys be like trying on different pairs of shoes? Ladies and gents cast your votes... |
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12/3/2007 3:56 pm |
..the goodbye kiss.. a series of small, slow pecks and a big hug. So now I'm really wondering if he is moving from friend in his mind to something else? ..I'm not experienced... I believe the word is naive... Ever seen a buzzard peck to see if dinner is alive and able to resist being gobbled up whole? Methinks he seems a tad hungered! (Can't blame him though. You do look quite tasty! )
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12/3/2007 8:32 am |
So what is intimate physical contact? Is a peck on the lips intimate or does it have to be a more lingering kiss or several slow kisses? Hmm... good question! C'mere and let's figure this out.  Seriously, I think the idea of finding someone interested in the same things you are in a group is a really good way to meet the right one. If you want to see several at first to get a feel for them, you need to be very up front about simply wanting to meet several guys and not being ready for serious dating. The kissing part is maybe like a 'racy' video. If you hit the slow or pause button, or rewind it two or more times, there is a problem!
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well here is a thought....is the Holy Spirit going to bring you a bunch to sift through or is he going to place something on your heart about what is best for you? reason I state this is because are we looking for someone that satisfies our flesh or is brought to unite our spirit?meaning who is in control of the search? us or the Lord * Sin is sin. Careful what comes across your lips & out your finger tips!!! * We are all the Body of Christ. Let's treat each other as such, with the same respect we give to HIM!! * Relationship advice: DO NOT make someone a PRIORITY, when they ONLY make you an OPTION!! * A woman's heart should be so lost in God, that a man has to seek HIM in order to find her!!
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well here is a thought....is the Holy Spirit going to bring you a bunch to sift through or is he going to place something on your heart about what is best for you? reason I state this is because are we looking for someone that satisfies our flesh or is brought to unite our spirit?meaning who is in control of the search? us or the Lord
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I couldnt do it.......I dont think most people could. My thought are this, if a man is really interested in YOU, even in the get go, do you think the ones with self dignity will mind being just one of the fish in your pond? I do not think you will find the ones that will consider you a treasure of their heart. But the ones that play 5 at a time wont mind either because they are doing the same thing. In my opinion, playing the field like that shows a lack of Character and not an openess to what the holy spirit wants in your life. as Ken said, being friends is one thing, but even then its touchy because spending time with thoughts of "maybe" is still pushing it. I think we need to take them one at a time or it becomes a game.
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lol @ skanky Sorry, but couldn't help myself. I'm SURE that is not what she means but just had to laugh at that word usage. Haven't heard that word used in a long time. I am a one guy girl myself but I guess if you didn't make a commitment to anyone or feeling like he isn't making one towards you and it's just getting to know you casual stuff. I guess. But no, you are not hopelessly old fashion. I don't know how to do it any other way. I'm told the same thing. That I had been faithful for 20 years to one man. I should be dating several and not tying myself up with others. I don't know how to change. You get any ideas how to, let me know but honestly, sweet, I'm pretty much done dating. I'm leaving it up to God. My focus now is my walk with Jesus. I tend to mess up when I make decisions on my own. I am new to dating believers though, so.....I'm new at this too! Messed up the first one real bad. So, I do believe I am done making decision on my own. * Sin is sin. Careful what comes across your lips & out your finger tips!!! * We are all the Body of Christ. Let's treat each other as such, with the same respect we give to HIM!! * Relationship advice: DO NOT make someone a PRIORITY, when they ONLY make you an OPTION!! * A woman's heart should be so lost in God, that a man has to seek HIM in order to find her!!
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11/30/2007 9:41 pm |
If the dating just consist of doing things together to get to know the person and there is no intimate physical contact, then simultaneous dating is no problem. If there is intimate physical contact then that would be considered skanky.
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