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I'm a divorced Mom with two great - one in high school and one in middle school. Being a single parent is, of course, a big part of my life. After all, if I mess up raising my then nothing else matters much. But being a parent isn't all that I am. I like dining out, reading, going to the movies, flea markets, spending a lazy hour or two in a coffee shop reading the Sunday paper, taking a nice nap on a rainy Saturday afternoon, and spending time with friends. My life is good but I find myself wishing that I had someone special to share it with.
If you asked my friends they would say I'm funny, loyal, hard working, good in a crisis, and have an incredibly positive attitude. Those are all great qualities but when I write them it somehow sounds like I'm filling out a job application. :( I guess I'd have to say I'm shy at first but after a short while and I start to feel more comfortable I warm up quickly.
I think its important to have a positive outlook in life, to see the glass as half full instead of half empty. Life is too short and full of too many blessings to dwell on the negative. I enjoy my job very much but it doesn't consume me. I have lots of interests and hobbies and have a good balance to my life. When I'm home alone and my are with their Dad, I like to read, relax, have dinner with friends... whatever strikes me at the time. I'm not the kind of person who minds "alone" time. Sometimes I find it even necessary, a way to recharge my batteries. I mostly enjoy modern country music, some Christian music. I like the way that a lot of country music today incorporates Christian themes yet still sounds modern. I also like Mercy Me and Point of Grace.
We attend services most Sundays and my are involved in the youth group at church. I taught Sunday school for many years when my were younger. I've tried hard to teach both my that it's important to give back, to give time and effort to others. No matter how little it might seem you have there's always a way you can help someone else. Sometimes even just a smile and a kind word can make all the difference to another person who's feeling down. It's the random acts of kindness in the world that are so very powerful.
I've found myself really yearning to grow closer to God these past couple of years. I've found great inspiration in the book, The Purpose Driven Life, and enjoy reading such things and contemplating them in relation to my life. My relationship with God continues to grow and evolve and I enjoy it more and more each day.
My Ideal Person
While I suppose you could say I'm "romantic", I'm not crazy with it. I'm more of a practical romantic person. In this crazy world we live in romance is in the little things - like remembering just how I like my coffee or just calling to say hello because you wanted to hear my voice.
I'd like to meet the man - and I know he's out there - who's my soul mate. I know that God doesn't plan for me to spend the rest of my life alone. I'm not looking for "Mr. Perfect". I think he has a great sense of humor, a positive attitude, and a healthy relationship with God. I also think he's someone who enjoys helping others in whatever way he can. He's someone who share my interests - not all but most - shares my view on life, and wants to build a relationship.
I think some of the most important qualities in a relationship are communication and respect. Yes, there has to be that spark, that indefinable something that no one can identify or put in a bottle to make us all irresistable. But once you get beyond that there has to be communication and respect. I also think that one of the best tests in any relationship is whether or not you can be together in the same room and be comfortable NOT talking. Maybe I want to read and you want to listen to music or catch up on the evening news? Are we comfortable doing that or does one of feel the need to talk or entertain the other? Can we just BE together and be totally comfortable with it? Does that make any sense? I hope so.
Of course, my children are very, very important to me. I've been single for five years and have spent that time focusing on the adjustment of becoming a single parent and seeing my kids through a difficult time in their lives. We're a package deal. They do spend a couple of days each week with their father but they spend most of their time with me. Maybe the man I'm looking for is a single parent as well and is also dealing with the unique things in life that single parenting brings?
I'm not a complicated person and I'm not desperately searching for a husband. I just think there's someone special out there that I haven't met yet, someone looking for the same things in life that I am. I truly believe that God wants me to share my life with someone special and that together we'd make a better whole than the two halves we are right now.
If this interests you, I'd love to hear from you!
What are your favorite television shows?:
The West Wing, Desperate Housewives (yes, it's a vice), The Amazing Race, Seventh Heaven
Favorite films:
JFK (by Oliver Stone), Apollo 13, Ghostbusters, Miss Congeniality, A Beautiful Mind
What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Too many to name.
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