My Ideal Person:
I have had my share of losers in my life. In a way, that is my doing since I attracted them. I felt as if I needed to have a guy treat me as if I was less because I was. I felt as if I needed someone who I had to take care of. I felt as if I did not deserve better. As healing has taken place within my life, I have learned that is not true and that I am beautifully made and uniquely perfect. God made me who I am. Yes, I have done things that God would not have wanted me to do and I put myself in those positions because I was going against God's will. Despite all of my beautiful flaws, God will use them in His own way. About two years ago, I decided that I was going to get my life on track when it came to guys. I would not lower my standards to not be alone. I deserved better. I deserved someone who loved me, the way God loves me. I decided to make a list of what must be in a guy before I would date him. It started out as a joke and was only two pages. Only two months later, my pastor preached about how we do need to have a list for picking out our mates as well as others in our life. Yes, he did stress that we need to be realistic and he explained it in a much better way then I would ever be able to. But he told us of the story were a servant was sent out to pick a wife for his master. He had a list and it obeyed God's guidance. Since then, I have expanded this list of mine. I will admit over a year ago I did finally have a date, but he did not match this list. He was a nice guy but not the Christian man that I needed. One day, he will make the perfect match for another lady. I still must deal with the bitterness I feel towards my other exes but God is helping me in His own way. I have been told that I am being unrealistic in my list. But most of these traits must be listed due to the fact they were not most of the guys I picked for myself. Please let me know what you think. It doesn't mean I will listen but I will ponder. Order has nothing to do with the importance. So here they are…
Educated
Up to date on the news
Well travels and understand other counties and respects their traditions and ideas. --- This does not mean he believes just respects.
Patriotic is a big must.
Involved in the community
Funny --- due to the fact I love to laugh, but he must get myself of humor.
Gentleman like
Dresses well but understands looks aren't everything but play a key role in how people take you.
Loves kids and wants kids
Debates well but fairly, no cheat shots. I must admit sometimes I do, but I am honest about it.
Treats me as his equal but can know when to pamper me like a queen
Cleans – actually cleans and not hid things but understands things can be out of place. I also must admit since school and things became hectic with work and church added on and now the move coming up my house skills suck.
Cooks and respects that I am a vegetarian and will not force me to change. I love to be in the kitchen but hate cleaning up so doing dishes will be a huge plus.
Values family
Enjoys yard work --- I hate mowing grass because of my allergies but enjoy flowers and gardens. It would be nice if he would mow the grass for me.
Likes art, music, books, plays, and museums --- I respect knowledge and beauty. I am not a coinsurer and I don't act as if I am one but I would love to share these experiences with someone.
Doesn't demand me to do as he does and allow me to be me
Not a big sports fan --- can like a few but won't put me aside or the family to watch his games
Volunteers with me at church and be actively involved in the activities
Christian – non denominational --- not swaying from the Word and only the Word, not adding extra lines between the lines
Must have a job that is respectable (such as nothing being of criminal activities)
No criminal history
No drugs or big drinker
Socially active, but I am not saying a social butterfly
Likes house parties and BBQs, enjoy hosting Get-togethers
Plays games such as scrabble or karaoke contests
Not afraid to be "stupid"
Helps out around the house
Enjoys and will help with home improvement
Not too hairy, I'm hairy enough for a woman so we may have ape children!
Trust me enough to let me shave him
Must cuddle at times
Let's me have my space
Will make breakfast in bed
Will hold my hair if needed to when I am sick and comforts me during the recovery
Will run me baths and enjoy them with me
Wash my hair and back
Playful wresting but knows when to stop
Thinks I'm beautiful
Feel safe and free enough for him to have control
Loves outdoors and gardens
Huge animal lover and activities
Man of the house --- I may try to take this position from him since I have always been in control since I found myself
Strong enough to protect me but won't control me
Accepts me for who I am despite all of my flaws
Accepts the mistakes of my past and the punishments that I must endure because of it
Understands and helps me deal with the pain of the crimes commented against me
Enjoys a lazy day of just being with each other
Camping, fishing, boating, and hiking --- I just don't want to catch a fish, eat it, or clean it.
Not afraid to say what's on his mind or allow me to voice mine
Not intimidated by my independence
Respects me for me
Will allow to me hyphenate my names since I have made a place in this world by my last name and will loss it if I trade in my name for his only
Understands my past is my past but I have made a name for myself and that I do have bad memories as well as wonderful ones but that is what makes me who I am today
Honest --- I believe in honest even if it is the bitter truth --- his word must be his word
Financially smart – knows now to manage finances and credit --- My credit is good but because of school and small income in my mind I have a nice big debt right now.
Understands the concepts of opening up doors but also knows when to treat me as a lady and an equal
Life values and morals are the same as mine
Good hygiene is a must!!!!
Doesn't make fun of me because of my limitations, is willing to help and work with the situation

Favorite films: What Dreams May Come

Favorite musicians or bands: Enigma, Deep Forest, Moby, Enya

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Please describe your faith. How important is your faith to you?
I am going and struggling trying to know God and allow Him to be the center of my life. I find myself pushing Him aside as I struggle with my daily life. I long for Him to be the center but I am scaried of allowing Him to take control and be the One in my life. He is my All and All, but on the back burner which He should not be. I need someone of more strength in my life to keep me on track since I am still a babe in His way.

Why is a Christian relationship so important to you?
A Christian relationship is someone who will understand me, give me strength, and guidance. We all must have fellowship to stay strong and directed in God's ways.

Where did you grow up? Where have you traveled? What are some of your favorite places to visit?
I have lived in the South, Central, North, and East of the US. I have also traveled all over the US as well. I have lived in Turkey, Italy, Bosnia, and Germany. I have travel to even more than that. My favorite place is where there are mountains.

What are your favorite activities both at Church and outside?
I love to sing so being on the Praise and Worship team or singing of any type. I'm not at all saying I can, but God says to make a joyful noise!

What is your day like? Describe your daily routine.
Sleep (very little), School, commuting, homework, and work. Don't have time for anything else!

What are some of your personal and spiritual goals?
Right now it is only getting my BS in a science degree and a MS in Forensics. Sooner or later a relationship which will lead to marriage.