My Ideal Person
I have discovered at least a few of the reasons why there are so many lonely (not single) people out there. So many of us look at the big picture, but never pause to appreciate the detail in the small, almost whisper soft brushstrokes the artist used to make the image on the canvas come to life. Another is the theory that opposite's attract. Tell me, what could possibly be so terrible about falling in love with someone who shares a vested interest in what makes you, you? Your values, interests, needs, and beliefs? Could this be why so many have a fear of being alone? Imagine what it would be like to be accepted unconditionally for who you are. Voicing a requirement that ardor be returned doesn't even dignify a comment here really, but to say, an apple is an apple, all the way to the core. I believe it's true that if you can't love yourself, you can't love anyone else. Not seeking a Mini Me. But rather it's mutual acceptance and tolerance that's key, here. Happiness comes from within, not in searching for one's validity from another. I can't tolerate being just right and then being told, but if you'd only just....Look, leopards can't change their spots. They can sit and spray paint them, (yeah, I find that visual quite hysterical too). But eventually all those spots just come bleeding through by degrees. Another thing I thought to mention is, that although I may not like football or driving around in the mud, I would never complain if he did and wanted to go to a game or get the truck dirty. I'd most likely be right there alongside him and even help him wash the truck afterward. I love to watch Nascar myself, and enjoy watching my kids play ball as well. If he didn't like to read, I wouldn't expect him to deny me my pleasure, or attempt to force any of my interests on him as a condition of our happiness together. A man, with an open mind, would definitely be refreshing though. A man that has gotten tired of walking around the mountain, has bumped his head enough times on life and relationships and wants something pure, honest, and satisfying in every area of his life, and that will last for an eternity. I won't settle for less than the kind of raw chemistry between us, that together we both know we are of far more value than apart. We would compliment each other, complete each other. I am comfortable being me. I need a man who is also comfortable with who he is. I realize that I'm human, therefore I err, I have plenty of faults and weaknesses. Thank God I'm almost out of characters, cause I could complete a whole new category on that one! LOL But it is all a part of the human condition, what makes us who we are. I cannot make a future with a man who isn't honest with himself as well as everyone else... I am down to earth and open, he must be also. He's simply as comfortable in jeans and bare-feet, as he is dressed to the nines to attend a wedding. I have nothing to hide from, nor hide from you, I just expect the same. Keep in mind, no farmer I know of ever planted a bean and harvested corn . I'm blunt and to the point, yes. But I have found, that is the only way from the very beginning. Things happen in life, but it's still life, and I'm really glad that God loved me so much that He let me live and gave me choice in it. Bottom line would have to be: I'm just me, you just be you, we'll get to know each other, and go from there. No one can judge a book by it's cover, nor put into words in the little space provided here what, exactly in every aspect they find repulsive, attractive or acceptable. Sure, the usual list applies; picking your nose, scratching, belching the alphabet lol, couldn't resist that one, (but now you know why I expanded my search from the mountains, where I reside, and why I'll never go on a blind date, or do a friend a favor by just coming along because 'he's perfect'. 'You date him then' I say! .Then there's kindness, attractiveness, a healthy sense of humor, affection, understanding, passion, compassion, personality, and wit. The list goes on and on and on but what I really want is just a really great man with a real heart, just like mine, my 'bestest' friend. Now, if you've hung in this long, I am the lady, you're the gentleman, you take the lead. Talk back, email me to counter, if you will my appeal (smile).