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Men To Avoid - Commitment-Phobe
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Feb 23, 2006 5:32 am
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This male of the species is perhaps the most hurtful, because he often truly wants a good relationship. He convinces you and himself this time will be different. However, as soon as you fall in love, he will become scared, distant, stop calling and worst of all tell you he doesn’t think he ever really loved you. That’s because his fear of commitment is so strong, he is unable to consider your feelings; all he can think of is getting out. This man leaves you feeling confused and like you must have done something wrong. You didn’t. He has a phobia, and it’s just as real as any other phobia, but knowing that won’t keep it from hurting when he leaves you.
Warning signs to look for:
1. In the beginning wants you more than you want him
2. Talks about his past relationships unkindly
3. Talks about how badly other men treat women, and how different he is
4. Works hard to convince you he’s serious about a relationship; gets serious much more quickly than is healthy
5. Spends whatever he has on you, much like the predator, playboy
6. Often a skilled lover, again lots of practice
7. Has an unhealthy relationship with his parents, in particular his mother
8. Father abandoned or distant from the family
9. Has broken commitments in the past, not close to his children or family
10. Has a history of short term relationships
To learn about the other types of men to avoid go to my other posts listed below:
Men To Avoid - On the Rebound
Men To Avoid - The Hero
Men To Avoid - Possessor, Obsessor
Men To Avoid - Predator, Playboy
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Men To Avoid - On the Rebound
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Feb 23, 2006 5:31 am
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This guy seems so sad and you are convinced that you are just the girl who can make him feel better and show him what true love is all about. Trouble is, he is still in love with someone else. You make him feel good with all your attention; you ease his shattered ego, and maybe even give him sex. Of course he feels bad for using you, and he may even really like you, but he will probably break your heart.
Warning signs to look for:
1. Has been broken up less than six months, and she ended it
2. Still lives with his ex as “just friends”
3. Is always available to help her with her car, plumbing etc...
4. Has pictures, notes and memorabilia of his ex still in his home.
5. Either talks about how he misses her and loved her, or about how much he hates her, both signs he’s not over her
6. Keeps her phone number on his speed dial
7. Keeps her email address
8. Circles her birthday on the calendar, and their anniversary
9. Has a “just friends” lunch with her once a week
10. Talks to her on the phone, sometimes for hours
To learn about the other types of men to avoid go to my other posts listed below:
Men To Avoid - Commitment-Phobe
Men To Avoid - The Hero
Men To Avoid - Possessor, Obsessor
Men To Avoid - Predator, Playboy
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Men To Avoid - The Hero
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Feb 23, 2006 5:30 am
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The hero can be a good guy who does not intend to hurt women, but he does. He sees himself in the position of saving the world. If you are in crises he will be right there to change a tire, fix your car, lend you money, offer support, but as soon as you are back on your feet he will find another damsel in distress and leave you broken hearted. So unless you intend to spend your life in crises keep this seemingly sweet guy as a friend, but never a boy friend.
Warning signs to look for:
1. You met him when you were feeling vulnerable
2. Seems especially responsive to your every need and want
3. Does not let you be an equal, he does everything for you
4. Is always available to help friends, old girlfriends and his most recent ex
5. Says things like “you can call me anytime even in the middle of the night”
6. Seems anxious to “fix” your life, send you to school, find you a better job...
7. Can’t say no to anyone
8. Has a history of being with dependent women, alcoholics, drug users, financial and emotional disasters
9. Complains that in the past women have used him for his money or that women do not appreciate a “nice guy”
10. Has red tights and a cape in the closet
To learn about the other types of men to avoid go to my other posts listed below:
Men To Avoid - Commitment-Phobe
Men To Avoid - On the Rebound
Men To Avoid - Possessor, Obsessor
Men To Avoid - Predator, Playboy
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Men To Avoid - Possessor, Obsessor
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Feb 23, 2006 5:30 am
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He makes you feel so wanted and adored it’s intoxicating at first and suffocating as time goes on. He will pay a lot of attention to you wanting to always know where you are and who you are with. In the beginning this feels like real caring but eventually he will become needier; his neediness stems from his lack of self-esteem and his possession of you becomes important to how he sees himself as a man. He will do anything to keep you. Write poetry, send flowers, send musicians to play at your window, and any other actions he thinks will tell you how much he loves you. Be warned: this is not love. If you do not respond to his attentions he may become violent and threatening. Never put up with this. Get away and get help, because he might not break just your heart, but your bones.
Warning signs to look for:
1. Co-dependent, Needs you, may say he can’t live without you
2. Controls you, may pick out your clothes, friends etc..
3. Treats you well, but is unkind to pets, waiters, and has a bad temper; this will eventually turn against you.
4. Subtly puts down your job, education, friends and family
5. Always wants to know where you are and with whom
6. Jealous
7. Overly attentive
8. Angry often
9. Distant from his family; or a mama’s boy
10. History of relationships ending badly
To learn about the other types of men to avoid go to my other posts listed below:
Men To Avoid - Commitment-Phobe
Men To Avoid - On the Rebound
Men To Avoid - The Hero
Men To Avoid - Predator, Playboy
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Men To Avoid - Predator, Playboy
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Feb 23, 2006 5:29 am
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This man is dangerous because he often sees himself as suave and debonair; a modern day Don Juan or James Bond. He does not see himself as a user of women, but as someone who is such a wonderful lover, and companion that he would be doing females a disservice if he were not to bed as many as humanly possible, sometimes bedding several at the same time. He is an expert at being a gentleman and choosing the finer things in life to impress and lure his prey. He may own a beautiful home, luxurious car, eat in fine restaurants, know all about wine and buy you expensive trinkets. If he does not have money, then he will do his best to impress you with whatever he does have, be it talent, brains or faux sincerity. He will be an expert at making you feel respected and admired. You will feel cherished and special, and the sex may be spectacular; you see my dear, he’s had a lot of practice. Then as soon as you fall in love he will make a hasty exit.
Warning signs to look for:
1. Gets lots of “business calls”
2. Sexually skilled, seductive, but seems distant
3. Works hard to impress you
4. Talks a lot about his accomplishments, “conquests”
5. Admires James Bond, Hugh Hefner, and those types of men.
6. Is unavailable certain evenings
7. Will not let you drop by his home or work
8. Wandering eyes, checks out all the other women in a place
9. Smooth talker, knows all the right things to say
10. Has a history of short-term relationships
To learn about the other types of men to avoid go to my other posts listed below:
Men To Avoid - Commitment-Phobe
Men To Avoid - On the Rebound
Men To Avoid - The Hero
Men To Avoid - Possessor, Obsessor
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Men To Avoid
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Feb 23, 2006 5:28 am
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I don’t usually post stuff I find on websites, but I think this is stuff we women really need to be aware of, so I am making an exception. I found this on the Webguru website.
Men to Avoid
Most Women enter into a relationship with the best of intentions; often giving their time, love, and attention to a man who will break their heart. Although relationships are never fool-proof, there are some warning signs that women can be aware of before giving their hearts away to a man who will break it. Most not-ready-for-relationship men will fall into one of the following five categories. Go to one of these other posts to learn more about that kind of man.
Men To Avoid - Commitment-Phobe
Men To Avoid - On the Rebound
Men To Avoid - The Hero
Men To Avoid - Possessor, Obsessor
Men To Avoid - Predator, Playboy
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How Shocking!
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Feb 22, 2006 3:16 pm
Mood: shocked,
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The Barna Group, a Christian poll organization, recently took a survey to find out how many people who say their Christians actually have even a basic Christian world-view. Guess what! Only 9% of people in the United States who say they are Christians in this country believe in the basic doctrines of our Christian faith, such as the virgin birth, Jesus dying on the cross for our sins, heaven and hell! How disturbing is that? And we call ourselves a Christian nation? I just stood there with my mouth open when I heard that on the radio today. What has this country come to? I am still shaking my head over this one.
Hebrews 3:12-14 says, “See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness. We have come to share in Christ if we hold firmly till the end the confidence we had at first.” I would encourage you all to take the time to go and read this passage in context, the complete 3rd and 4th chapters of Hebrews would be great. This verse makes it clear that we will not share in Christ if we turn away from God.
It is becoming more and more clear these days that people want to be called Christians. That is cool to them! However, they don’t want to believe in Christian doctrines. Woe to them!
Lord, please keep me firm in my faith by Your grace. Don’t allow me to develop a sinful and unbelieving heart. Cause me to hold firmly until the end to the confidence in Christ that I had at first and still have, in Jesus’ name, Amen!
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Another One Bites the Dust
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Feb 22, 2006 2:43 pm
Mood: courageous,
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Remember my post of a few days ago, The Man Of My Dreams? Well, the answer is"No, he is not the man of my dreams!" What a shock, right? Oh well! I've gone through a couple of days of the blues and tears here, but am ready now to pick up and continue on now.
While I was in my mini-depression, I was questioning God about why He was taking so long in bringing me my man. I was okay being single for the rest of my life. God is the one who said He wants me to be married. So, why couldn’t He just do what He was going to do quickly? Well, He very gently reminded me that it took decades for Abraham to realize the promise of Isaac! Ouch! That shut me up quickly! He told me to trust Him and not try to do things on my own or I will end up with an Ishmael on my hands! That is the last thing I want!
So, I am back to being okay with waiting upon Him. I know He loves me and will not make me wait one second longer than He has to in order for me to meet my new husband that He has for me. I get sad and lonely sometimes, but those things are nothing compared to getting married to the wrong man and being miserable for the rest of my life.
Thank you all for your prayers. My prayer to God concerning this was that He would either make it clear to both of us quickly that we were meant to be together or that He would get him out of my life quickly. So, God took him out of my life quickly. Thank You Lord for answered prayer!
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More On What Romance Is
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Feb 21, 2006 12:42 pm
Mood: grateful,
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I have been thinking about the post I made earlier on romance, What Is Romance?. I was reminded about what a wise African gentleman told my ex-husband and me once. He said that a wise man starts making love to his wife first thing in the morning instead of waiting until they crawl into bed at night. He said that the man does that by saying he loves his wife several times throughout the day, touching her (without it leading to sex) several times a day, listening to her when she is talking, etc. If a man does this, he will have a wife that can't wait to get to that bed at night to show her appreciation, admiration and love for her wonderful husband. I think David Malumbo was a very wise man, and I think he practiced what he preached because his wife was one of the happiest women I ever met and they loved each other like crazy. Thank you, Dave, wherever you are now, for your words of wisdom to me!
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What Is Romance?
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Feb 21, 2006 5:50 am
Mood: thoughtful,
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It seems to me that romance is not a difficult thing to grasp. It is very simple. What is romantic to a woman is when a man does something for his woman that he would not consider important to him just because he knows that she needs that. How hard is that? It can be a simple as getting her a blanket to snuggle up in or a cup of hot soup when she is sick. It could be listening to her intently when you don't really care about the subject she is discussing, just like she listens to you intently when you discuss the latest baseball standings, etc. It could be hugging her and telling her you love her, even though that is not something that you need to have done for you. It is about doing things that melt her heart out of a motive of love rather than sex. So, romance is about sacrifice. Isn't that what men are called to do for their wifes, just as Christ sacrificed Himself for us? Romance is all about actions without regard for your feelings, just like real love is about actions without regard for our feelings!
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