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To Maine or Bust!
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Jun 14, 2009 5:11 am
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Car broke down in VA. Spent an extra day at my friend's house sorting things out. Am renting a car to get to Maine. This is suppose to be my vacation! At least I got stuck at a very pleasant place. My friends are more than delightful to hang out with and they live on a horse farm. I got to pet a friendly white donkey and see some deer. And I got to dispose of a dead bird that their cat brought in...
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My Car Got Rear-Ended Today
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Jun 4, 2009 2:34 pm
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I was just sitting at a red light minding my own business. Then, SURPRISE! A jolt out of the blue.
The other driver was very nice. Because neither of us saw any damage to the cars we did not call the police. But later my neck started aching.
Please pray for my neck. Thank you!!
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Arthropods for Fun
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Jun 4, 2009 2:00 pm
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I'm adding to my menagerie! Hopefully by the end of the month I'll be the proud owner/caretaker of two Honduran Curly Hair tarantulas and half a dozen Madagascar Hissing cockroaches. If someone had told me in my youth I'd be a the happy owner of arthropods & reptiles at midlife... I'd never have believed them!
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I Am Moving On
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Jun 2, 2009 12:47 pm
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I thought I had possibly found 'the one.' We met over a mutual hobby. He's a Christian. A minister I consulted admitted to not knowing him well but having a positive gut feeling about him.
And then Mars eclipsed Venus; he was looking at himself in my mirror [ please see previous post ] not paying a lick of attention to me. [ He's out of town on business so all recent communication has been by email. ] Twice I mentioned my recent black eye. Twice he did not acknowledge it. Several times I wrote about myself. Each time he thought I was really talking about him.
When I said 'physical' meaning something you can touch, in this case physical walls of a room, he thought I was talking about sex. When I talked about privacy he thought I was talking about sex. I was talking about not having strangers see me/talk to me - ya know, privacy!
Arg!
I've sent him a long email explaining the above. I doubt he will read it.
I am moving on. 
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Projection/Plank - What's Your experience?
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Jun 2, 2009 12:34 pm
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First a copy & paste:
What Is Projection in Jungian Psychology?
How Interpersonal Relationships Work
© Megge Hill Fitz-Randolph Jul 14, 2008
Interpersonal relationships are confusing because a lack knowledge of projection. Jungian psychology sheds light on improving this situation.
Projection, according to Carl Jung, occurs when a person sees in another qualities they themselves possess. This phenomenon goes on daily in most relationships and encounters.
Whenever a person is convinced that the awful qualities seen in another person have nothing to do with him or herself, a projection is mostly likely being engaged. This does not mean, however, that these qualities are not present. It merely means that they probably exist, to some extent, in the person observing them.
The Good News/Bad News Attraction
Another common projection involves envy. When a person envies another, more than likely that person already possesses the qualities in some unexpressed state. Whether observing negative or positive qualities, more than likely that person is engaged in projection and existing under a kind of spell. They are not seeing all that is. How to awaken from this spell and reclaim a true picture of a person or situation becomes an important task in self-development.
The good news is that a person already possesses those qualities they thought they lacked; the bad news is that that a person already possesses those qualities they thought they lacked. What attracts two people is that each possesses what the other wants. The secret is that what the other wants is already locked away in inside themselves. Unfortunately, the rule applies both ways. Whatever a person feels is safely locked away from view can be generally found alive and well in another.
Intimate Relationships
In relationships, both intimate and otherwise, these same principles apply. A person projects onto another whatever it is they need them to be. Regarding intimate relationship, the inner feminine/anima or inner masculine /animus is seen expressed in the other. That person to whom one is fervently attracted, therefore, is none other than the outer mirror for that person's inner self. The Beloved holds the space, so to speak, for what that person seeks inside themselves.
Understanding the difference between what is true and what is only projection can be a challenge. If a person or group of people has really “gotten under our skin” or the person or situation or thing really “gets to us,” that person is most likely caught up in a projection or spell of some kind. Likewise, that feeling of falling in love, albeit glorious, may be mere projection.
How to Tell the Difference
Whenever the emotions seem highly charged, more than what the situation might call for, this is most likely a projection. When family and friends ask “what’s up with so-and so?” and the person doesn’t seem to be thinking or acting at all clearly, their “head is in the clouds”, so to speak, these are good signs that a projection is lurking.
When this happens it is called being “hooked.” The other person or group has unknowingly provided the hook, but it is always the person or group (in other words the object of the projection), who has been caught. It is important to keep in mind, however, that this is not done consciously. Projection is always an unconscious act.
Withdrawing the Projection
Withdrawing the projections is the beginning of becoming whole or, what Carl Jung refers to, individuated. Those parts of the personality that have been caught up in projections start to return giving greater authenticity and feeling of well being. Love, too, is more richly realized as the projections are lifted. Becoming individuated brings a greater sense of freedom as a person feels more like themselves and thus more vibrantly alive.
Samuels, A., Shorter, B., Plaut, F. (1986). A critical dictionary of Jungian analysis. London: Routledge. Whitmont, E. C.. (1969). The symbolic quest: Basic concepts of analytic psychology. Princeton: Princeton University Press.
The copyright of the article What Is Projection in Jungian Psychology? in Analytical Psychology is owned by Megge Hill Fitz-Randolph.
End of copy & paste.
Projection is something I’ve noticed over the years. People most critical of something are usually the most guilty. My ex was cheating on me yet was the most vocal in condemning a married co-worker that had a girlfriend on the side. But it works on positive attributes, too, as stated in the above article.
Psychologists were not the first to observe this common human phenomenon. Jesus said in Matthew 7:3-5 (New International Version)
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.”
I trust Jesus. And I am guilty! I often think the leadership at my own church is elitist yet if I search my heart I must admit that I want to be recognized as ‘above the other believers.’ Plank!
Please tell me your opinions & experiences.
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What Good is It to Obey Scripture??
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Jun 1, 2009 12:20 am
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There is grace for the sinner. So why obey in the first place?? Am discouraged right now. I see people who ignore NT admonitions get great relationships. I hold to them and have nothing. I'm discouraged...
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Am Discouraged & Sleepless
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Jun 1, 2009 12:17 am
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I have recently had the worst possible Mars [ man ] / Venus [ woman ] communication fiasco of my life. The conclusion he jumped to was so far from the truth I was laughing all afternoon/evening. But he jumped to the worst possible conclusion about me. He thinks he is keeping my deep, dark secret. Problem is it is totally a figment of his imagination. I'll take any lie detector test out there!!! I emailed to point out the error and explain what I meant but he hasn't responded that he received it. I fear he may have deleted it without reading it. Ack!!!!
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Wet Grass + Loose Shoelace + Hill + Recycling Bin =
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May 29, 2009 5:54 am
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Black eye!
I slipped late last night doing the green thing by taking out my recycling for pick up. I banged the handle with the left side of my face. It hurts from my front teeth to my eye brow. I iced it but it still feels swollen.
My son acted the protector and was ready to beat up the... bin. 
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