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Signs someone is lying
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Nov 20, 2009 1:29 pm
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Hard to tell in print if someone's lying.
However, this article by Ranya Fattouh for Glamour gave good tips for signs of face to face lies. It confirmed what I had wondered about one person.
Although she aims at men (and does some male-bashing which I don't appreciate), this is also useful for lies women might tell when dating.
1. Your gut tells you something is wrong.
If you feel like something is off, it probably is. "It may not be exactly what your imagination is suggesting, but we don't experience knots for no reason," says Brenda Della Casa, author of "Cinderella Was a Liar: The Real Reason You Can't Find (or Keep) a Prince." Most women know they're being lied to long before they actually admit it, but they don't immediately act on their intuition. "Women tolerate a lot of excuses," says comedian Steve Harvey, author of "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man." "A guy that always has an excuse or lie as to why it didn't happen, why it couldn't happen, why it won't happen, is no good."
2. The details don't add up.
"Generally, liars mess up and change a detail in their story," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a New York City-based clinical sexologist. Ask yourself: "Does this really make sense?" says Robert Feldman, author of "The Liar in Your Life: The Way to Truthful Relationships." "Look beyond what he's saying and try to be an objective observer of his behavior."
3. He suffers from TMI (or TLI -- that's Too Little Information!).
Guys who lie tend to give too much information or keep very quiet -- be cautious of both. "You know your guy and you know when he's not acting like himself. If your guy is chatty and suddenly he's not, something's up. If your guy is very quiet and suddenly he's giving you too many details, something's up," says Jenny Lee, coauthor of "Women Are Crazy, Men Are Stupid."
4. He refuses to get personal.
Most people who are comfortable in a relationship are open to sharing details of their lives. If a guy is unusually distant and keeps almost everything about himself secret, he's probably holding something back. "Don't be fooled by a guy who says 'that's too deep; I don't want to discuss that.' Good guys will appreciate the depth of your questions; liars will run from them," says Harvey.
5. He starts covering his tracks.
If your guy is constantly deleting his browser history or shutting down his email, or if there are numerous occasions where it's impossible to reach him, you might want to get out of there -- fast. "If you're with a guy who carries two cell phones, but one of them never rings, or if he only pays in cash or immediately heads for the shower when he gets home, those are all major red flags," says Nancy Dreyfus, author of "Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love: Relationship Repair in a Flash."
6. He's super defensive."If you find that he pauses a lot when responding to your questions, becomes overly fidgety and defensive, or can't look you in the eye, be suspicious that he might not be telling you the truth," says Kerner.
7. He repeats his story.
"Men tend to say the truth just once," says Howard J. Morris, coauthor of "Women Are Crazy, Men Are Stupid." "It's the truth, after all. It doesn't need to be repeated three times."
8. He constantly blames you.
Although it's natural for a guy to be a little testy when interrogated, if you notice that he's always shifting the blame so that you look like the guilty party, question his motives. "If every concern you have gets twisted around and thrown back at you, he's pulling a classic guilty-man move. Keeping you on the defensive keeps him out of trouble," says Della Casa.
9. He has an answer for everything.Watch out for excuses that are very buttoned up, a little too perfect, and rehearsed. "If you find yourself making sense of something that doesn't make sense or making exceptions, stop yourself," says Dreyfus.
10. He makes the lies seem like no big deal.Liars have an advantage because what they say is what we want to hear, and they know it. Even if he's feeding you little lies that make you feel good about yourself, remember that they are lies. "It's hard to constantly be thinking, Is this the truth, is this not the truth? Even if it seems innocent enough, someone who lies about little things is going to lie about big things," says Feldman. "If you do stay in the relationship, rebuild trust slowly and be clear that if he lies again, it's over."
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Sabbath..
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Nov 18, 2009 8:16 pm
Mood: contemplative,
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I just thought of something today.
I wonder if early Jews that accepted Christ as Messiah started worshipping on Sunday to protect themselves from being discovered by Jews. It looks less suspicious to go to a house on Sunday than on Shabat.
They *were* risking a lot to accept Jesus back then.
Sorry. No comments on this post as it's caused so many fights. I just wanted to throw this out there.
The answer to Sunday worship may be as simple as that.
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Catholic friend
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Nov 15, 2009 2:59 pm
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Just spent time today with a woman in her 70's, a strong believer in Christ AND a devout Catholic. 
I believe God can work and move in any denomination that acknowledges Jesus as Lord. I've seen that over and over.
Lutherans:
ritual of infant baptism
Catholics:
rituals of infant baptism, confession, purgatory et al.
Baptists:
rituals/traditions of no alcohol use, certain types of dress and hair cuts as more holy conduct.
Pentecostals:
traditions of no alcohol use, no movies, no makeup on women, certain types of clothes for both sexes as more holy conduct.
Methodists
traditions/rituals of infant baptism, fuzzy on born-again doctrine and others.
SDAs
rituals/traditions regarding food and day of worship.
Jews
countless rules, rituals and traditions.
...And where did your faith's ritual/tradition roots start?
All our doctrine started from heretics (also known as "Christians") from the Jewish faith.
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My Experience with Donations
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Nov 1, 2009 3:02 pm
Mood: contemplative,
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You know, all the denominational talk here got me thinking about my experience with receiving donations.
When I worked in Christian radio ministry, our bosses had a little reminder on who was really paying us.
"Thanks to the W*** listeners."
I remember when I got my first paycheck, it really hit home. I went about paying bills and eating a McDonald's lunch thanking God for each listener that made that possible.
I thanked Him for their (usually) sacrificial giving so I could have a paycheck in what I enjoyed to do so much.
The last question I had was what denomination or their personal beliefs were.
I didn't ask if they made their money as bartenders or as Black Jack dealers in casino or if they smoked or were divorced or had homosexual tendencies or if they had ever sexually abused anyone or if they had an abusive temper.
Nor did I think about how they were dressed and whether it was appropriate for a Christian or wonder about their language or their personal habits or whether they were given to gluttony or had porn stashed around the house or their personal computer.
All I knew is that they supported our outreach and wanted to be a part of what God was doing with our radio station.
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If we could do this in the church; be grateful for each individual and see them as created in the image of God and LOVED DEARLY by Him, would our church change for the better?
...Or would you see it as a change for the worse?
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Prayer Request for Mental Health Community Here
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Oct 28, 2009 10:33 am
Mood: angry,
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My previous prayer request is related to a general need for the mental health community in Portage County, Wisconsin.
For many decades, the health care providers in this area have referred the chronically (or private pay) mental health clients to the free clinic, "Portage County Health and Human Services".
PCHHS has lost its funding for psychiatric services and has to cut half a million from their budgets.
Unfortunately, the commercial providers won't pick up the slack, despite the free profit ride from the state for decades. It seems to me they've been cherry-picking the best, more high functioning clients for years!!
Please pray for the people affected by this!
I'm not that bad off. I can survive without meds, and I have a car to drive places.
There are others who are completely disabled, and I'm sure this is hitting them hard.
Please pray for all of us. Without adequate mental health medication management, some people become low functioning. It's really hitting a vulnerable group hard.
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boobees
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Oct 26, 2009 10:02 am
Mood: mischievous,
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So what did you think you were going to see......
it's HALLOWEEN time
(Let's see how many hits this post gets!!  )
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DUI in a La-Z-Boy?
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Oct 23, 2009 11:09 am
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Yep, it actually happened....
Sounds like a misplaced Wisconsinite!!!
Here's the associated press version:
DULUTH, Minn. — A Minnesota man has pleaded guilty to driving his motorized La-Z-Boy chair while drunk.
A criminal complaint says 62-year-old Dennis LeRoy Anderson told police he left a bar in the northern Minnesota town of Proctor on his chair after drinking eight or nine beers.
Prosecutors say Anderson's blood alcohol content was 0.29, more than three times the legal limit, when he crashed into a parked vehicle in August 2008. He was not seriously injured.
Police said the chair was powered by a converted lawnmower and had a stereo and cup holders.
Sixth Judicial District Judge Heather Sweetland stayed 180 days of jail time Monday and ordered two years of probation for Anderson. His attorney, David Keegan, did not immediately return a call for comment.
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Older Blog Posts
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Oct 22, 2009 9:10 pm
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Hey All,
I just had a chance to read some much older blog posts (from 2006). They were the sweetest things.
This one by Wormdust showed such understanding and sensitivity.
SexHomosexuality
So, old timers, what are YOUR favorite old blog posts? (The ones that encouraged your faith, not the confrontative ones.)
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Not sure what to title this....
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Oct 17, 2009 4:55 pm
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Was thinking about the debate on the Purgatory thread of angel_q92.
A scenario came to mind.
Do we ever remove money from the offering plate because we don't agree with the person who's giving?
Have any of us ever handed back a donation because of the beliefs of the person giving?
...Or do we assume they agree that our work is for Christ and they are giving to support that?
In my eyes, the things posted in blogs are people's offerings to God. It's okay to say we don't agree...definitely, with all gentleness and respect to the person.
It would also be great if we all remembered that the person posting has a heart to give to the work of Christ.
In my eyes, angel came across as if she was simply trying to give what she thought was a gift to help our relationships with Christ.
Just my 2 cents.
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