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I remember when I first joined BC and I read a few profiles I actually came across a few men who indicated that they hoped to find someone who would take care of them. It caught my attention because I wondered what they actually meant by that. I know for me, as a woman, it means things like.....if my car broke down and I called my guy...he'd say, okay, baby, don't worry, I'll call a tow truck, or say, I'm on my way! That he'd get rid of or keep away from me bugs, spiders, snakes, mice, bats, or other creepy crawly things. That he'd let me cling on to him during thunder and lightening storms as they highly terrify me. That he'd make me feel safe wherever we went. That he'd be someone I could be proud of as that would make me feel secure in our relationship. That he'd take care of me when I got the sniffles....really take care of me and wouldn't make me feel like I was a great burden to him. And finally, which is the biggest of all, that he would love me as God intended love between two of His people!! It means other things too to me, but these are just some of the ones that come to mind at the moment!! So what does it mean to you?? |
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 8/17/2008 6:30 pm |
Well...that pretty much covers a big part of it!  Love you sister! Bloom Where You are Planted
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8/17/2008 6:30 pm |
Lisa, those are pretty good answers, except I like thunder and lightning storms, although he could still snuggle with me during one... ....but he would let me cling to him while flying in a plane, cause that's what gets to me.....And you're right, the best thing would be for him to love me with a godly love!  Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness!
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8/17/2008 6:33 pm |
Oh, all of that. Mostly, though, that he would make sure that I always feel secure when I'm with him --- day or night. Nancy Let us share one anothers burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ
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8/17/2008 6:40 pm |
sounds good to me, i actually found a couple of those women that said they would take care of me and the babies at the time, hahahaha, still wonder from time to time why i did not accept that gracious offer from them, hahahaha, cheers May the Lord bless you and keep you
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8/17/2008 6:47 pm |
Well...that pretty much covers a big part of it! Love you sister!Hope you're having a great weekend!! 
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 8/17/2008 6:49 pm |
I think you covered all of it, Lisa!!  He whispers through the storm......"I am with you....." 
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8/17/2008 6:51 pm |
Lisa, those are pretty good answers, except I like thunder and lightning storms, although he could still snuggle with me during one... ....but he would let me cling to him while flying in a plane, cause that's what gets to me.....And you're right, the best thing would be for him to love me with a godly love! With Godly love......yep!!! 
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8/17/2008 6:53 pm |
Oh, all of that. Mostly, though, that he would make sure that I always feel secure when I'm with him --- day or night. Hope you're weekend have been blessed!!!
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8/17/2008 6:57 pm |
Well, I'm the designated bug/spider killer at our house, even when there was a hubby around. And I LOVE storms! The louder the better. But, the idea of what you're saying is right - the attitude of paying attention to what matters to me and taking care of those things! The morning coffee made, the car taken care of without my asking. My ex-husband said when I called him with a breakdown "You're an adult, call a tow truck!" Would like something better than that next time, thank you very much!! Susan aka Red God gives the very best to those who leave the choices to Him. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine...to Him be the glory. Eph 3:20 Find me at my screen name, blogspot and the usual ending. See ya there! Where I For Everything There is a Season Halloween Pics from Work
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8/17/2008 7:09 pm |
sounds good to me, i actually found a couple of those women that said they would take care of me and the babies at the time, hahahaha, still wonder from time to time why i did not accept that gracious offer from them, hahahaha, cheers Hope all is wonderful in your life!!!
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8/17/2008 7:20 pm |
I think you covered all of it, Lisa!! Hope your weekend has been a bit fun!!!
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8/17/2008 7:25 pm |
Well, I'm the designated bug/spider killer at our house, even when there was a hubby around. And I LOVE storms! The louder the better. But, the idea of what you're saying is right - the attitude of paying attention to what matters to me and taking care of those things! The morning coffee made, the car taken care of without my asking. My ex-husband said when I called him with a breakdown "You're an adult, call a tow truck!" Would like something better than that next time, thank you very much!! So next time.....he'll be perfect for you, cuz, God's got His hand it in!!!
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8/17/2008 7:27 pm |
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. Sawed of shot guns are great for the pests you mentioned. I promise the ones I would shoot, would NOT come back. The rest is easy if that is all there is to it. That sounds what guys should be good at? Find a mature man of God though, that should help even more. . . Continue to be faithful, deliverance is near, obedience must be seen, be an unconditional blessing as He continues to bless you. This time is short, serve Him well, serving all. Without exception. Know? Yes? ? .
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8/17/2008 7:58 pm |
I would like a guy that will move mountains to fulfill my heart's desires, within reason of course! Small mountains Going on a road trip Thanks giving ideas
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8/17/2008 7:59 pm |
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. Sawed of shot guns are great for the pests you mentioned. I promise the ones I would shoot, would NOT come back. The rest is easy if that is all there is to it. That sounds what guys should be good at? Find a mature man of God though, that should help even more. . . Continue to be faithful, deliverance is near, obedience must be seen, be an unconditional blessing as He continues to bless you. This time is short, serve Him well, serving all. Without exception. Know? Yes? ? .
Meow ? .
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8/17/2008 8:02 pm |
I would like a guy that will move mountains to fulfill my heart's desires, within reason of course! Small mountains Yes, yes, yes....they can!!!
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8/17/2008 8:05 pm |
I agree.. I have always wanted someone to make me feel safe and secure..Provided for .. spiritual leader of the family. Fix it guy.. I haven't had that blessing yet either. Right now I don't even have anyone to call for help. Doing as much as possible myself..and I am NOT very anything "inclined"...LOL
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8/17/2008 8:38 pm |
I like the small stuff. My last boyfriend was actually really good at taking care of me. He would rub my feet, my back, take out the garbage. One day I came home from work to find him in my bathroom scrubbing the floor!! It was amazing. The best, most wonderful thing I liked was when he would do something like gently move the hair from out of my eyes or if he was holding my hand to kiss it. To me, those are the things that I like and that I consider to be taken care of. I guess because they're things that I liked and he did them. Hmmmmm.....now I'm all sad again.  BUT, on the mean side.....I took our youth group skiing one winter and long story short, tore my ACL and a bunch of other stuff. I came hobbling home, in really bad pain. My friends had to carry me in. I called my ex- because he was down at the bar, to tell him that I needed to go to the emergency room. He was very irritated and told me to tell my friends to take me that he was too busy. What a guy!! Hey girls, he's still single!! What a catch!
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8/17/2008 9:12 pm |
To me its not about what they can do for me, but what I caqn do for them.
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8/17/2008 9:17 pm |
I want... emotional and physical support. Physical would include material assets though I'm not looking for a rich man, just one that works and is careful with resources. Rich would actually be a negative. I like creepy crawlies so I won't let him touch those! Thunderstorms are cool but if he would want to snuggle just for the fun of snuggling, I'm there! But should I be looking for a caretaker or should I be looking for an opportunity to care????  Follow Him!    Dance as a Metaphor Now Accepting New Members... My Favorite Secular Magazine Article from 2007 - Autism & Pentecostals
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8/17/2008 9:24 pm |
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. Being disabled, it may be a bit more than "normal", but it takes 2 to make a whole, does it not? I need a best friend. I need a prayer partner. I need an accountability partner. I need someone who wants to be served. I need someone who will teach me how to understand them. I need someone who will teach me how to love them. I need someone who ... But without God being first and preeminent in both lives, who needs any of it, for it will not work anyway. . . Continue to be faithful, deliverance is near, obedience must be seen, be an unconditional blessing as He continues to bless you. This time is short, serve Him well, serving all. Without exception. Know? Yes? ? .
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8/17/2008 9:33 pm |
I wouldn't want a relationship where we couldn't take care of each other.
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8/17/2008 9:42 pm |
Well...if I saw a man's profile that said...Looking for someone to take care of me...I would mumble to myself and say...Baby, keep right on looking.  Seriously, I'm blessed beyond all measure with my Jim who makes me feel safe, so loved, so treasured. I can't quite figure it out how so independent I was and thought I did not need this pampering. I was complete without him. Now....well...I'm one spoiled brat...more please....heap it on!! A girl like me can get used to flowers, cards, cooking, and well....you know...feeling safe, etc. I think I need a bell...you know the one that says "Knock three times on the ceiling if you want me".....Oh, oops, that was a song....OK...you get the picture. Beth
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8/18/2008 10:09 am |
Awwww...Susan....YIKES.....I don't like that!!! That's just very mean!!! But I went through similar stuff with my ex as well...horribly mean, mean stuff. Men can be absolutely wonderful.....so then why do they gotta be mean to us???? And it's the small stuff that seem so huge to us!!! They can be our heros....but they get selfish and uncaring!!! Hmmmm...me no likey that!!! So next time.....he'll be perfect for you, cuz, God's got His hand it in!!! Nancy Let us share one anothers burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ
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8/18/2008 12:20 pm |
The main 'taking care of me' part that I'd like from a man is someone who is strong and devoted to Christ, who can pray with me, study with me and help me to grow in my Spiritual walk. I've never had love or help from anyone in doing anything, if things get done it's always been because I did them. It might be nice to have someone around to share some of the work load, but I think I'd go through a long adjusting period getting used to it. I don't think I would ever be able to get used to anyone trying to pamper me though...that would be tough.
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8/19/2008 5:19 pm |
I think that the little things matter such as Flowers and Love notes for no other reason than To say "I'm thinking about you" or "I Love You!" Which come to think of it is a Big reason to do so! Sitting outdoors at night watching the stars and Snuggling, Sometimes chatting up a storm or quietly listening to the sounds of nature...Sometimes you can also learn more about someone in silence than in words! Someone with a tender heart and who enjoys serving others from the heart rather that obligation...Volunteering at a soup kitchen with each other for example. Someone who challenges you to grow in your walk with the LORD and Vice Versa... Such a long list of "little" Things that can add up to a "Grand" Relationship! I must admittedly say that I am not the greatest "Fixer-Upper" of technical things, Etc...But I also recognize when something needs to be properly fixed by a professional and know how to dial the phone to find someone qualified! Great Post Lisa! """**~~Before Honor Is Humility~~**"""
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8/19/2008 7:01 pm |
I think that the little things matter such as Flowers and Love notes for no other reason than To say "I'm thinking about you" or "I Love You!" Which come to think of it is a Big reason to do so! Sitting outdoors at night watching the stars and Snuggling, Sometimes chatting up a storm or quietly listening to the sounds of nature...Sometimes you can also learn more about someone in silence than in words! Someone with a tender heart and who enjoys serving others from the heart rather that obligation...Volunteering at a soup kitchen with each other for example. Someone who challenges you to grow in your walk with the LORD and Vice Versa... Such a long list of "little" Things that can add up to a "Grand" Relationship! I must admittedly say that I am not the greatest "Fixer-Upper" of technical things, Etc...But I also recognize when something needs to be properly fixed by a professional and know how to dial the phone to find someone qualified! Great Post Lisa! That's a very nice list for starters of the little things!!! P.S.....I like the colors you use....they brighten your comments page!!! Nice!!
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8/21/2008 11:36 pm |
Was having a coffee with some friends (two married couples) a single mum, and one couple, Richard and Lorraine. Lorraine was saying that she didn't like being at the womens conference because she wasn't with Richard... aawww - now this couple have been christians and married forever, they are now in their early 60's... she then went on to say that in the mornings Richard goes out at gets the cappuccinos and then they read their bible together and pray and this is how their day starts... I want that!!!! There was more and the other couple were similar in that when they are apart they just don't fell 'right'. But for now I'd do with someone who would come and take the heavy stuff away that I can't carry....  One thing I have desired of the Lord, that will I seek: That I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the Lord, and to inquire in His temple. Psalm 27:4
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8/22/2008 10:06 am |
I have some good christian friends, who have been married for 45 years. I watch them and think 'that's what I would like to have'....they look after each other, they are patient, they are kind and they laugh a lot together...they encourage one another and support each other through difficult times. The most wonderful thing about them is that they selflessly serve others..when I was going through a rough patch a few years ago, they gave of their time to help me practically in my home, they helped me paint my kitchen and gently encouraged me to help too. It quickly put me back on the road to recovery...they are like parents to me(mine are now deceased) and they love unconditionally. Individually they are lovely people, in partnership they are even lovelier 
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8/22/2008 3:37 pm |
Mmmm... It's better I don't say anything this time... I like though what Pete said!
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8/24/2008 8:37 pm |
I think that the little things matter such as Flowers and Love notes for no other reason than To say "I'm thinking about you" or "I Love You!" Which come to think of it is a Big reason to do so! Sitting outdoors at night watching the stars and Snuggling, Sometimes chatting up a storm or quietly listening to the sounds of nature...Sometimes you can also learn more about someone in silence than in words! Someone with a tender heart and who enjoys serving others from the heart rather that obligation...Volunteering at a soup kitchen with each other for example. Someone who challenges you to grow in your walk with the LORD and Vice Versa... Such a long list of "little" Things that can add up to a "Grand" Relationship! I must admittedly say that I am not the greatest "Fixer-Upper" of technical things, Etc...But I also recognize when something needs to be properly fixed by a professional and know how to dial the phone to find someone qualified! Great Post Lisa!
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8/25/2008 8:00 am |
Certainly someone who challenges me in my walk with the Lord. Mostly though someone who was solid in the Lord and in His ways. Blessings The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.
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8/26/2008 10:40 pm |
For me, it would mean a partner who would support me in fulfilling Gods purpose for my life in every way and for me to do same for her. Ocean blue, yes men can be wonderful and so can women! You should fly sometime soon. You will get hooked! ReadingandRoses........care to tell us what you told him when he asked you to call a tow truck! I guess you called the tow truck to take him away! Haha
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