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Right before I came to BC, I had a real blind date....you know a friend of a friend knows somebody, a fixer-upper kind of a thing!!! I had the courtesy of speaking to this blind date beforehand, which I thought was great. The guy had a nice voice and sounded decent. We actually had a few things of interest in common and everything was set for the blind date. On the day he arrived.....I was dressed in a beautiful short sleeved, form fitting red blouse that tied in the back, a pair of dressy black...ummm...sort of tight jeans, and cute/sexy-ish 3-inch sandal heels. We were to go to the movies and then dinner. My blind date gets to my driveway....steps out of the car and I couldn't believe his attire!!!! Here goes.....sneakers, scruffy/worn out black jeans, a cartoon shirt and cartoon cap to match. Certainly I felt one of us was overdressed while the other under-dressed. He told me he would be dressed semi-fancy as we would be going out to a nice restaurant after the movie. This is going to be a continuation story....to let you know what actually happened....but also to know how you might react in the same situation!!! Sooooooooo..........what would have been the best thing to do in this situation??? a. Say something to him? b. Say nothing, but dart away quickly and change to match his ensemble? c. Go out on the date anyhow, so it's embarrassing, it's not the end of the world...yeah he doesn't know how to dress....he needs a woman's taste and style? d. Tell him to hit the road? e. Other.....explain!! |
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8/3/2008 3:48 pm |
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. I'm bored, entertain me. Somehow I do not think I could dress much better than that? I guess I am in trouble? Huh? I never remember to shave either. Oh well? . . Continue to be faithful, deliverance is near, obedience must be seen, be an unconditional blessing as He continues to bless you. This time is short, serve Him well, serving all. Without exception. Know? Yes? ? .
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8/3/2008 3:58 pm |
Firstly- you are too good looking to worry about it. Secondly- I'm beting the clothing he wore wasn't indicative of the person he was. and 3rd- Only difference in the 2 outfits was how we might wish to have others "judge us" according to our covers.  Lastly- did he greet you as the beautiful woman you are--- or did he melt and get tongue tied just as I might have done? Perfection... Possible? Yup... IF ya wanna TRY.
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8/3/2008 4:20 pm |
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. I'm bored, entertain me. Somehow I do not think I could dress much better than that? I guess I am in trouble? Huh? I never remember to shave either. Oh well? . . Continue to be faithful, deliverance is near, obedience must be seen, be an unconditional blessing as He continues to bless you. This time is short, serve Him well, serving all. Without exception. Know? Yes? ? .
Meow ? .  Not dress much better???  What???? Well, if one is to dine in a fancy restaurant and not just grab a burger there's a difference in dress!! But, of course, "clothes don't make the man".....then again....perhaps it's a clue as to who the man truly is!!! I really don't mind casual.....but extreme casual and a fancy place.....not a good idea!!! Just a plain t-shirt and new jeans would be great!! But this guy indicated that he's been to the Opera, and a few other ritzy events.....one would have to believe he knows how to dress!!! Was it all just a lie??? Hmmmmmm.....
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8/3/2008 4:27 pm |
Firstly- you are too good looking to worry about it. Secondly- I'm beting the clothing he wore wasn't indicative of the person he was. and 3rd- Only difference in the 2 outfits was how we might wish to have others "judge us" according to our covers. Lastly- did he greet you as the beautiful woman you are--- or did he melt and get tongue tied just as I might have done? 2. You'd lose this bet for sure!!!! 3. Okay.....going with the judging....here's my quickest impression of the two..... HIM-unkempt/unbathed/messy.........ME-nice!!! 4. Awwww, Gordy, how sweet.......I have to admit, he did say I looked better than he imagined....too good for him.....and I looked like an angel. 
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 8/3/2008 4:31 pm |
I might get a little shocked at first, but I think I would tend to overlook what he was wearing and try to focus on the person he was. I used to be so visually dependent but these days I kind of prefer to look from the inside out. I think I did myself a disservice many times in my past by looking at the outside first. Coz most of the men I met who looked the part, didn't act the part, know what I mean?   PenelopeCaptive of Hope
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8/3/2008 4:37 pm |
well its only one date. some things a man can change, such as his sense of what really works. . Anyone that would do that is a nerd. First impressions are important. I think its the mans' responsibility to share beforehand with the woman what the dress for the evening should be.Oh who am I kidding First dates are important to set the tone for a relationship. For me, dress jeans or khaki's with either a polo style shirt or a button up shirt is proper. I prefer a casual slip on penny loafer with even a sock less approach because hey...this is Florida. It works down here and sock less is good if you wanted to take a nice walk on the beach after dinner or a movie to just unwind a bit. My answer is C because I would rather have a little bit of embarrassment than take away the dignity of the other person. If it were me Lisa, I would have set up plans, because having some sort of plans is important to making an evening smooth. It also wold tell you that You matter to me, as well as you knew my life had some security and merit to it. So if you lived here in Deltona I would tell you how I planned on dressing. I would invite you to Stavros Bavarian Restaurant in Daytona. They have the absolute best Pizza in the World. It is a mom and pop store that has been in the area for 30 years and the same person has been making the pies since the store opened. Its family oriented and the customer base is etched in stone. They make you comfortable there which is very important on a first date Afterwords, we would go to a movie. I would look for some sort of romantic comedy or a chick flick which I happen to like those. The reason is that a couple can bond in these type of movies. By bonding I mean letting down a few walls and being able to talk later. A woman can tell in these kinds of movies if a man has a sensitive side and is considerate of others regarding life's aspects. If both of these moments went well, then a suggestion of a walk on the beach would be offered. If accepted it would be taken as a possibility of another date because I would know you were enjoying my company. Ok, How would I approach it when I came to pick you up? This is one of the most important times and I think people miss out on that. I used to try and be real nice about this. But this is the place where you are either put in a Yes, Maybe or Brother zone. Unless you look like Tony Danza, a hand shake and a smile does not cut it. If you are an average Joe, then you can be tossed in the brother category immediately. If the attraction isn't there then thats ok, just go and have a nice time and be yourself. I would get out of my car and come up to the steps and ring the door bell. I would step back a little and wait for you to come out. I would immediately notice all the trouble that you had went to in preparing for the evening. I would not refrain from telling you how nice your hair looked and what an nice outfit you have on. In one hand I would have a small bouquet of Wildflowers,as wildflowers would represent my appreciation of your beauty. In the other hand I would have a small box of Guadiva Chocolates with a fancy ribbon attached as a appreciation of your willingness to spend time with me. Once accepted I would give you a little hug and the slightest peck on your cheek. This is a sign of "I am interested in you, and I respect you" As we would leave I would mention that I really like opening doors for her because I am an old fashioned guy that believes in a Lady being treated special at all times. So I would seat you in the car and makes sure you felt safe and honored during travel. You would know that you were honored and treasured all night. Anyway, thats my answer Lisa
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8/3/2008 4:53 pm |
When I was in college, I took a class, "English Literature". The professor came in and I actually laughed because he was, well... kind of homely looking. I ended up loving his class and his personality was above any I have ever been around. Truly, you can NEVER judge a book by its cover. I would think your guy is probably one heck of a guy ~ but you would never know it if you were stuck in the attire shock!  Me? I would probably laugh and say, Oh, give me 5 minutes ~ I will be right back. Then come back in the same type of clothing. But then, I would do that now but maybe not when I was younger. She loves much He who forgives much~
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8/3/2008 5:00 pm |
yeah, say something to him, but that is my opinion. he should have dressed more indicative of were he was taking you, unless it was some roadhouse for ribs and a beer.
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8/3/2008 5:49 pm |
c. If he thought he looked fancy why embarrass him? At least you get an idea of his personality beforehand, he sounds like a fun guy. Unless someone else bought the clothes for him, then hmmmm welll not sure. Was he not showered? Ewwww that part has to change if he wants to see me again But he could have run out of time too and hoped he didnt smell too bad, we know guys cant smell themselves Luv is patient, kind, unselfish, hopes 4 the best...
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8/3/2008 5:54 pm |
I might get a little shocked at first, but I think I would tend to overlook what he was wearing and try to focus on the person he was. I used to be so visually dependent but these days I kind of prefer to look from the inside out. I think I did myself a disservice many times in my past by looking at the outside first. Coz most of the men I met who looked the part, didn't act the part, know what I mean? I can overlook much, but if a person doesn't put on their "Sunday best" so to speak no matter to what degree...hmmmmmm, that means something.......I mean, I'd really give someone kudos if they did their best rather than just roll out of bed and grab anything, cuz, they don't care. But yes, I know what you mean.....you can definitely look beyond the clothes and a little bit more.....I did do that and often do!!
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8/3/2008 6:01 pm |
I would take a moment to change, and head off dressed just like him too. I wouldn't not form a judgement until the evening was coming to a close. I like Dennis' idea of how to be on a first date, though. Prayer needs? Prayer warrior? Join Prayer Family group
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8/3/2008 6:01 pm |
well its only one date. some things a man can change, such as his sense of what really works. . Anyone that would do that is a nerd. First impressions are important. I think its the mans' responsibility to share beforehand with the woman what the dress for the evening should be.Oh who am I kidding First dates are important to set the tone for a relationship. For me, dress jeans or khaki's with either a polo style shirt or a button up shirt is proper. I prefer a casual slip on penny loafer with even a sock less approach because hey...this is Florida. It works down here and sock less is good if you wanted to take a nice walk on the beach after dinner or a movie to just unwind a bit. My answer is C because I would rather have a little bit of embarrassment than take away the dignity of the other person. If it were me Lisa, I would have set up plans, because having some sort of plans is important to making an evening smooth. It also wold tell you that You matter to me, as well as you knew my life had some security and merit to it. So if you lived here in Deltona I would tell you how I planned on dressing. I would invite you to Stavros Bavarian Restaurant in Daytona. They have the absolute best Pizza in the World. It is a mom and pop store that has been in the area for 30 years and the same person has been making the pies since the store opened. Its family oriented and the customer base is etched in stone. They make you comfortable there which is very important on a first date Afterwords, we would go to a movie. I would look for some sort of romantic comedy or a chick flick which I happen to like those. The reason is that a couple can bond in these type of movies. By bonding I mean letting down a few walls and being able to talk later. A woman can tell in these kinds of movies if a man has a sensitive side and is considerate of others regarding life's aspects. If both of these moments went well, then a suggestion of a walk on the beach would be offered. If accepted it would be taken as a possibility of another date because I would know you were enjoying my company. Ok, How would I approach it when I came to pick you up? This is one of the most important times and I think people miss out on that. I used to try and be real nice about this. But this is the place where you are either put in a Yes, Maybe or Brother zone. Unless you look like Tony Danza, a hand shake and a smile does not cut it. If you are an average Joe, then you can be tossed in the brother category immediately. If the attraction isn't there then thats ok, just go and have a nice time and be yourself. I would get out of my car and come up to the steps and ring the door bell. I would step back a little and wait for you to come out. I would immediately notice all the trouble that you had went to in preparing for the evening. I would not refrain from telling you how nice your hair looked and what an nice outfit you have on. In one hand I would have a small bouquet of Wildflowers,as wildflowers would represent my appreciation of your beauty. In the other hand I would have a small box of Guadiva Chocolates with a fancy ribbon attached as a appreciation of your willingness to spend time with me. Once accepted I would give you a little hug and the slightest peck on your cheek. This is a sign of "I am interested in you, and I respect you" As we would leave I would mention that I really like opening doors for her because I am an old fashioned guy that believes in a Lady being treated special at all times. So I would seat you in the car and makes sure you felt safe and honored during travel. You would know that you were honored and treasured all night. Anyway, thats my answer Lisa But I'm curious how guys actually feel when they try to impress a woman and she just isn't at all impressed with them....he's given her flowers, candy, bought dinner, etc......and she just says no thank you to a second date. I do think about guys feelings and I guess that's why I do go out with them in the first place rather than just saying no, but then what, when my first reaction was really I don't think it's going to work between us.
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 8/3/2008 6:06 pm |
Well, Lisa: here's my story... When I first started to join BC, I chatted with so many people. There was this one particular guy that came to Jacksonville, NC and wanted to see me. So out of curiosity, I said, Okay, but I was very nervous! He did not have a picture on BC! So, I didn't know what he looks like. When I met him, he drove this beat up car that had a busted window. He had a long hair, in pony tail. He was dressed up alright ~ and has this well groomed mustache that was curled on both sides. He talked very loud. It so happened that he did not have any money at that particular time. He stated that he used up all his money for the gas, (came all the way from Virginia) so he just have a few coins to buy himself a cup of coffee. I offered to buy him dinner and he can order what he wants, and not to worry about it ~ I got it covered. But he declined and he bought himself a cup of coffee, out of the coins he got in his hands. So, our conversations began. I felt very uncomfortable. I did not expect it to be like that...but I was determined in my heart to leave him a good impression and act like what he thought I was all along ~ a "nice" Christian lady. To my surprise, it turned out to be a great blessing as he began to share his life and his street ministry. But what a big lesson the Lord had taught me that day ~ NEVER TO JUDGE A PERSON BY HIS OUTWARD APPEARANCE! SMILE! glo  Teach me your way, O LORD,and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. I will praise you, O Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify Your name forever. (Psalm 86:11,12)
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8/3/2008 6:06 pm |
When I was in college, I took a class, "English Literature". The professor came in and I actually laughed because he was, well... kind of homely looking. I ended up loving his class and his personality was above any I have ever been around. Truly, you can NEVER judge a book by its cover. I would think your guy is probably one heck of a guy ~ but you would never know it if you were stuck in the attire shock! Me? I would probably laugh and say, Oh, give me 5 minutes ~ I will be right back. Then come back in the same type of clothing. But then, I would do that now but maybe not when I was younger. So I know exactly what you mean. And, yes, I remember how society was and changes....during the eighties it was all about the clothes!!! Now casual Fridays is everyday!!! I have to admit, I kind of liked being dressy to go to work.....I'm not big on casual....sure at home, but if I'm going somewhere, I tend to overdress a little with a blouse instead of a t-shirt.
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8/3/2008 6:10 pm |
yeah, say something to him, but that is my opinion. he should have dressed more indicative of were he was taking you, unless it was some roadhouse for ribs and a beer. P.S. Nice outfit, by the way!!! 
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8/3/2008 6:15 pm |
c. If he thought he looked fancy why embarrass him? At least you get an idea of his personality beforehand, he sounds like a fun guy. Unless someone else bought the clothes for him, then hmmmm welll not sure. Was he not showered? Ewwww that part has to change if he wants to see me again But he could have run out of time too and hoped he didnt smell too bad, we know guys cant smell themselves Ewwwwwwwww was right!!! He was unbathed......he didn't run out of time....he just woke up and rather than calling me and saying I'll be 15 minutes to 1/2 hour late......he grabbed whatever!!! He didn't smell....but than again I couldn't tell, cuz, he kept smoking!!! Ummmmm.....one thing I have to say.....kissing a smoker.....I don't think I could do it....I have a great sense of smell....that would....yuck....I can already smell someone's breath if they speak to me and are a smoker....not pretty......kissing.....  
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8/3/2008 6:17 pm |
I think I might have asked, if the plans had changed and would he mind if I changed...that I didn't think I could keep up in those heels...etc... Can't wait to see the other part of this story...
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8/3/2008 6:20 pm |
I would take a moment to change, and head off dressed just like him too. I wouldn't not form a judgement until the evening was coming to a close. I like Dennis' idea of how to be on a first date, though. Yes.....Dennis' first date is dreamy!!!
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8/3/2008 7:19 pm |
I would have changed. Just to make ME comfortable!! I'll bet you were knock out hot though! Good for you!
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8/3/2008 7:45 pm |
Lisa Said But I'm curious how guys actually feel when they try to impress a woman and she just isn't at all impressed with them....he's given her flowers, candy, bought dinner, etc......and she just says no thank you to a second date. I do think about guys feelings and I guess that's why I do go out with them in the first place rather than just saying no, but then what, when my first reaction was really I don't think it's going to work between us. I think you can kind of tell. If you can, just be yourself and make a friend. Its not life or death and if a person, guy or gal feels so devastated by that, then they need to look at themselves a little. We need to be ok with just being with ourself, or we are never going to be ok in a relationship. Each person has a dream or a vision of what they want and its important that the dreams match up. Otherwise its one or perhaps both settling. What comes out of that eventually? Resentment
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8/3/2008 8:27 pm |
Tell the guy.. "Hey Jack.. you look like a slob. Go home and change. Put on some real pants, and a shirt n tie. And splash on a dash of Brut too. See ya lator'gator" Greetings from Calgary Canada. Located on the east side of the Canadian Rocky mountains. Where the deer and the antelope play, Where seldom is heard a discouraging word, And the skies are not cloudy all day.
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8/3/2008 8:58 pm |
I would have been slightly embarassed about being over dressed, but I wouldn't say anything about what he wore, regardless of what I would have thought. You never know what opportunity the Lord will give you to extend and show mercy and compassion in any given situation. Most times the things I would like, prefer or assume is not what the Lord has in mind, so as I mature in the love He first gave to me, so I will try to love beyond what I think. Blessings to you sweet Lisa The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.
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8/3/2008 9:08 pm |
I would never change, nor would I feel embarrassed. I would certainly hope HE would feel embarrassed, apologize for his unkempt appearance and do everything possible to make a better impression going forward. We only get one chance to make a 'first impression' and while it is nice to say 'oh, he's nice, or oh, he might change or he's sweet underneath' you also know right upfront what kind of person you're dealing with if a guy doesn't put any effort into his appearance for the date and location of the date. He could have called if he was late for some reason, and asked to change the time . . . then again, how long does it take to put on clean jeans and a button short/polo vs. scruffy clothes? Sorry, but I'm not very forgiving in these situations as I appreciate a clean, nicely dressed man. I like to dress nicely and fit best with someone who does as well. I'm not saying he's a bad guy at all! Just not one who would 'fit' with me and my lifestyle if that is his approach to life - and people do tend to live as they dress. Even on a tight budget one can be clean and nicely dressed! OK off my soapbox now . . . lol Susan aka Red God gives the very best to those who leave the choices to Him. Palin???? Huh??? When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He’ll Change Responses from the State Mental Hospital Be the Daisy For my eyes only
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8/3/2008 11:35 pm |
I think our expectations is always to dress up nice for a date, blind or not lol...most women would do so...and if he appears totally different it would be a quite a disappointment...does he care to dress up at all for 'special' occassions? kind of but I would also clarify with him about a change of clothes fitting for the date and occassion too... Man can make many plans...BUT it is the Lord who will direct his paths....
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8/4/2008 7:14 am |
Well, Lisa: here's my story... When I first started to join BC, I chatted with so many people. There was this one particular guy that came to Jacksonville, NC and wanted to see me. So out of curiosity, I said, Okay, but I was very nervous! He did not have a picture on BC! So, I didn't know what he looks like. When I met him, he drove this beat up car that had a busted window. He had a long hair, in pony tail. He was dressed up alright ~ and has this well groomed mustache that was curled on both sides. He talked very loud. It so happened that he did not have any money at that particular time. He stated that he used up all his money for the gas, (came all the way from Virginia) so he just have a few coins to buy himself a cup of coffee. I offered to buy him dinner and he can order what he wants, and not to worry about it ~ I got it covered. But he declined and he bought himself a cup of coffee, out of the coins he got in his hands. So, our conversations began. I felt very uncomfortable. I did not expect it to be like that...but I was determined in my heart to leave him a good impression and act like what he thought I was all along ~ a "nice" Christian lady. To my surprise, it turned out to be a great blessing as he began to share his life and his street ministry. But what a big lesson the Lord had taught me that day ~ NEVER TO JUDGE A PERSON BY HIS OUTWARD APPEARANCE! SMILE! glo
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8/4/2008 7:20 am |
I think I might have asked, if the plans had changed and would he mind if I changed...that I didn't think I could keep up in those heels...etc... Can't wait to see the other part of this story... We ended up not going to that restaurant, but rather he opted for Perkins! It didn't bother me, it was more acceptable. But he never took his cap off on the whole entire date!!!! I'm just not used to that type of behavior!
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8/4/2008 7:34 am |
I would have changed. Just to make ME comfortable!! I'll bet you were knock out hot though! Good for you! "Knock out hot"....huh.....well, yes....I've been known to dress very stylish, pretty, and nice....never smutty...but, um, well, guys do look!! Oh, that reminds me that the mall/movie security approached us and asked me if this guy was bothering me. They offered to escort me to safety....I had to admit we were on a date. Ut-oh....I think my eyes gave me away....oh me and my telling eyes.....the security officers pulled him aside and the other whisked me elsewhere for questioning!!! I think what they saw was when the guy released his puffs of smoke (hmmmmm....into my face) I probably grimaced, thinking it rude....plus I have allergies that smoke really irritates and causes a reaction........so in my attempts to dodge the second-hand smoke and him then trying to walk side-by-side it probably looked odd not to mention suspicious.
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8/4/2008 7:38 am |
Lisa Said But I'm curious how guys actually feel when they try to impress a woman and she just isn't at all impressed with them....he's given her flowers, candy, bought dinner, etc......and she just says no thank you to a second date. I do think about guys feelings and I guess that's why I do go out with them in the first place rather than just saying no, but then what, when my first reaction was really I don't think it's going to work between us. I think you can kind of tell. If you can, just be yourself and make a friend. Its not life or death and if a person, guy or gal feels so devastated by that, then they need to look at themselves a little. We need to be ok with just being with ourself, or we are never going to be ok in a relationship. Each person has a dream or a vision of what they want and its important that the dreams match up. Otherwise its one or perhaps both settling. What comes out of that eventually? Resentment Excellent point!!!
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8/4/2008 7:44 am |
Tell the guy.. "Hey Jack.. you look like a slob. Go home and change. Put on some real pants, and a shirt n tie. And splash on a dash of Brut too. See ya lator'gator" Now if the guy was loaded and said....hey, don't worry about it, so things aren't working out....it was still a nice time and I think we both had fun...friends maybe??? Then I wouldn't have paid and accepted his gift of a nice time out!!!
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8/4/2008 8:02 am |
I would have been slightly embarassed about being over dressed, but I wouldn't say anything about what he wore, regardless of what I would have thought. You never know what opportunity the Lord will give you to extend and show mercy and compassion in any given situation. Most times the things I would like, prefer or assume is not what the Lord has in mind, so as I mature in the love He first gave to me, so I will try to love beyond what I think. Blessings to you sweet Lisa But I would not have known unless actually going out with him....so all I can say is I really did give him a chance to prove himself!!! And the proof all was not in his favor!!!! Oh, well!!
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8/4/2008 8:09 am |
I would never change, nor would I feel embarrassed. I would certainly hope HE would feel embarrassed, apologize for his unkempt appearance and do everything possible to make a better impression going forward. We only get one chance to make a 'first impression' and while it is nice to say 'oh, he's nice, or oh, he might change or he's sweet underneath' you also know right upfront what kind of person you're dealing with if a guy doesn't put any effort into his appearance for the date and location of the date. He could have called if he was late for some reason, and asked to change the time . . . then again, how long does it take to put on clean jeans and a button short/polo vs. scruffy clothes? Sorry, but I'm not very forgiving in these situations as I appreciate a clean, nicely dressed man. I like to dress nicely and fit best with someone who does as well. I'm not saying he's a bad guy at all! Just not one who would 'fit' with me and my lifestyle if that is his approach to life - and people do tend to live as they dress. Even on a tight budget one can be clean and nicely dressed! OK off my soapbox now . . . lol
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8/4/2008 8:15 am |
I think our expectations is always to dress up nice for a date, blind or not lol...most women would do so...and if he appears totally different it would be a quite a disappointment...does he care to dress up at all for 'special' occassions? kind of but I would also clarify with him about a change of clothes fitting for the date and occassion too...
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8/4/2008 2:19 pm |
ok Lisa, clothes dont maketh the man but no shower and unwashed hair? And smoker? Ewwwwwwwwwww Ciao baby  Luv is patient, kind, unselfish, hopes 4 the best...
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8/5/2008 1:21 am |
What interesting reading this has been... I wouldn't have seen what he was dressed in until he was at the door and then I think it would of been a shock. You'd hope that the other person would at least of considered what they put on... but I guess not. That was funny (kinda, sorta) about the security guards The whole think just makes me feel embarrassed for you. I've had a few dates off BC and they have all been decently dressed at least, might of been really short and not had much else in common, but at least dressed appropriately. Can't wait to hear the rest....
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8/5/2008 1:40 am |
I agree, Pen, we all can wear something just awful and if someone were to see us in it....hmmmmm.....hate for them to think less of me, too.....BUT....what's the excuse for not perhaps showering???? His hair was unwashed....he threw a hat on to hide the fact!!! He even admitted to it. He was unshaven....that's okay....but if you normally shave but don't when you're going on a date.....um.....why not shave???? I can overlook much, but if a person doesn't put on their "Sunday best" so to speak no matter to what degree...hmmmmmm, that means something.......I mean, I'd really give someone kudos if they did their best rather than just roll out of bed and grab anything, cuz, they don't care. But yes, I know what you mean.....you can definitely look beyond the clothes and a little bit more.....I did do that and often do!! PenelopeCaptive of Hope
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8/5/2008 5:43 am |
ok Lisa, clothes dont maketh the man but no shower and unwashed hair? And smoker? Ewwwwwwwwwww Ciao baby 
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8/5/2008 5:46 am |
What interesting reading this has been... I wouldn't have seen what he was dressed in until he was at the door and then I think it would of been a shock. You'd hope that the other person would at least of considered what they put on... but I guess not. That was funny (kinda, sorta) about the security guards The whole think just makes me feel embarrassed for you. I've had a few dates off BC and they have all been decently dressed at least, might of been really short and not had much else in common, but at least dressed appropriately. Can't wait to hear the rest....
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8/5/2008 5:49 am |
Oh yucky....personal hygiene, or a lack of it....now that's a whole different story! I see what you mean, Lisa....and he could have made some effort. Guess it shows his character huh?
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8/5/2008 11:19 am |
Oh Lisa, I'm so sorry that it turned out to be such an awful experience, and I'm glad you survived the evening. Guys like that can even become dangerous, when their affections aren't returned.... Prayer needs? Prayer warrior? Join Prayer Family group
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8/5/2008 11:28 am |
Oh Lisa, I'm so sorry that it turned out to be such an awful experience, and I'm glad you survived the evening. Guys like that can even become dangerous, when their affections aren't returned.... But, but, but.....wait a minute......where was the affection being conveyed to me in the first place????? I missed that totally!!!!
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8/5/2008 12:08 pm |
I should say....their perceived affections...  Prayer needs? Prayer warrior? Join Prayer Family group
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8/5/2008 10:46 pm |
(a) definitely talk to him about any mis-communication. Tell him what your expectations were, and ask him about his attire Eph 2:10 We are his workmanship (poiema, or poem, or work of art) created in Christ Jesus. God is an artist and you are His masterpiece!
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8/6/2008 3:37 am |
Um-hum......but you know, Pen, I told myself not to judge too quickly.....maybe something happened and he's not a filthy non/self-caring/non-hygienic person or anything else....I just said hmmmmm, give him a chance!!! Ummmmm......I don't know if I really should have......more to come...........later!!! Can't wait to hear!!! PenelopeCaptive of Hope
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