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What characteristic is most important in a person you choose to date? Their:
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10/9/2006 5:53 pm |
Well, not that I date, but I think it is the man's intergrity and values that would attract me. I know I wouldn't care to go out with someone who drinks, so as far as the thing that would attract me would be his values, his way of life, his commitments to others, his ideas or ideals. If he has all that, then we can handle the rest of it if the chemistry is there! But without Integrity- there is no chance of ever knowing if he has the rest of those traits or not.. Good post, very sound ideas! Yesterday is past and gone, but tomorrow is forever.
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10/9/2006 5:55 pm |
I can't vote becaue it is more than 1 qulaity for me that makes a great character in a man!
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10/9/2006 5:55 pm |
Relationship with God. I heard it said, You can tell how a man will treat his wife by the way he treats God. I believe that to be true. A Man with a true relationship with God will treat his wife with the same love that Jesus loved the Church.
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10/9/2006 7:28 pm |
I agree with CeeCee. And Patti, I really like that comment.
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10/9/2006 7:36 pm |
I believe if a man has a good relationship with Father God he will have also integrity and some of those other things. How can we NOT praise Him - Marilyn
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10/9/2006 8:37 pm |
Relationship with God -- absolutely essential, but must come with integrity. How real can a relationship with God be if it doesn't result in integrity? Integrity -- also essential, but not worth nearly as much without the relationship with God. Ability to communicate and reconcile -- important, if not essential. Intelligence -- ok, I'm just selfish on this one -- I have a deep appreciation of intelligent men of God, more than I appreciate men of God who are not so endowed with the ability to explore the deeper and broader and more amazing aspects of God and His creation. Ministry Gifting -- this is icing; we still have the essentials with just the fruit of the Spirit without any special minisrty gifting, but a ministry gifting makes it nicer because the things of God are exercised and expressed and experienced in more areas. Looks and Body -- as long as he's clean and healthy, who cares? I'm personally biased in favor of a heavier man regardless of whether it's extra muscle or extra padding, but a specific look or body image is not very important to me. If the Lord has in mind for me a skinny man, as long as he's a man after God's heart I'm fine yeilding my preferences to God's wisdom. Personality -- funny or boring, quirky, sociable, nerdy or dorky, it doesn't matter as long as he has integrity and loves the Lord. Ability to make you laugh -- see personality. Chemistry -- chemistry will happen if we're right for one another in all other areas; I don't estimate the potential of a relationship by the intensity of feelings at any given point because feelings are way too subjective. Financial security -- I look for responsible; financial security can disappear but responsibility is a matter of character. It would be better to be with a responsible man than with a man whose security is in the money he is accustomed to having no matter how secure he thinks the source may be. 
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10/9/2006 9:02 pm |
Relationship with God. I heard it said, You can tell how a man will treat his wife by the way he treats God. I believe that to be true. A Man with a true relationship with God will treat his wife with the same love that Jesus loved the Church.   THE SONG OF DIVINE INVITATION
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10/9/2006 9:02 pm |
Date? Define- date. Outting with friend verses... being with a person in a romantic relationship? lol Do you have the ability to carry an intelligent conversation for the entire evening? Communication is vital, baby. Don't make me carry the whole thing. I'm a versitile chick, and I can handle almost any topic you throw. Can - you? And- your relationship with God will be pretty evident in the conversation. We WILL talk Jesus, one way or another.
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10/10/2006 3:43 pm |
Love for God is #1 on my list. This item takes care of several others. #2 is personality. If we can't get along, it won't work. But if we can, then that takes care of the rest of the list. So, put those two together and you can scratch the rest of the list.
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10/10/2006 5:20 pm |
I've learned the hard way after much suffering that God must be first in order for ANY relationship to last. I got tired of knocking my own head. The bible says the way of a transgressor is hard. Psalm1 Blessed is the man who walks not in the coulsel of the ungodly. Be not conformed to this world. Love not the world etc...
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10/10/2006 6:17 pm |
I would definitely say someone with a TRUE relationship with God
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10/11/2006 4:44 am |
I voted number one which is relationship with God. I see that as morst important to me, followed by integrity, personality,
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10/11/2006 2:22 pm |
I probably would be only spending time at the moment with other christians socially so knowing they are a christian and committed, i would love to have that chemistry happening too. I have friends that married christians and that has not always worked. Trust god to lead the way.Seek first his kingdom and all will be added to you..
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10/12/2006 12:51 am |
A man's relationship with the Lord will shape every aspect of his life. Integrity is something a person fights to have in every decision they make. If a man has it he has fought for it. I believe that a man's financial choices are a good reflection of his spiritual condition. I agree that bad things can happen. Job should not have been judged by his circumstances. It is, however, important to look at how a man acts out his role financially. How a man spends his money will definitely point to his priorities. I guess I would say that most of the factors above can be indicators of the first consideration... is he sold out to Jesus or not?
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10/12/2006 2:58 am |
 Fun post!But really based on values! What values are most important to you! 1. Christian/Integrity 2. Communication/Reconciliation 3. Funny/Personality Hmmm.... YSIC Sharloa  sharFather Son HolySpirit 
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10/12/2006 9:13 am |
The most important thing for me is his relationship with the Lord. A believer dating a non-believer is a dangerous situation. It can be playing with fire. We are not to be unequally yoked. If he says he is born again and yet does not live in that manner, for me....he is unequally yoked.
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10/13/2006 8:21 pm |
It is impossible to pick just one - Now you want to make my dreams come true, give me all of the above.
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 10/18/2006 2:13 am |
Actually, it's not on the list. I believe that two people have to continually be seeking God first for their individual nourishment or the personal relationship will suffer eventually. Melding of the two equals a bonus. Just my thoughts. After that a good balance of most of what you mention on the list is always good. Cheers! BLOG COLOR FOR BEGINNERS
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11/30/2006 7:37 pm |
Hey this is interesting.... i chose Relationship with God!!!... as the most important ... although there are some other interesting ones like... ministry gifts .... the rest will be up to the Lord to decide for me... He would know what is best for me... God Bless you... Mari
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7/23/2007 6:46 pm |
I'm surprised so few people chose "ability to make me laugh" as a/the most important trait... Maybe my perspective will be helpful to someone. I think that a person who laughs is comfortable with himself, and he is happy, he feels good about himself and is friendly & confident enough to reach out to make someone laugh, and to him it comes naturally. And all that DOES come from God's blessings--so if a guy makes me laugh, I can tell everything else is pretty much okay. For the many people who chose "must be a Christian, follower of Christ, have a good relationship with God, etc" I have to say that unfortunately there ARE pretenders out there. I think one of the worst things a sinner can do is use the Lord's name for one's own purposes... and/or hide behind God, the Word of God, or warp Bible quotes to manipulate others. That said, I wouldn't be in a permanent relationship with a man who wouldn't go to church, who doesn't love the Lord... When someone says he is "spiritual but not religious" we can try to help him along, but it IS hard to change someone, even in this area. Thanks for reading; I'd be interested in your response & views on this. I'm on here because I'm a widow; I was happily married (32 yrs) and I miss having a good Christian man in my life. Joel Osteen says God wants us to be happy & has already reserved a new mate for each of us who are divorced or widowed, and that all we must do is accept it.
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