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With longformore on this one, Turning a friend in to a love, Hopeful romantic!!! All things work for the good of those who Love the Lord,  Jenn friend
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10/26/2008 6:53 pm |
I voted yes because I've learned the hard way that when your best friend of the opposite sex marries someone else you in effect lose him anyway...because while he is still a friend to you, he is then a best friend to his wife, as it should be... It's been awhile since I've had a male best friend for exactly that reason...it hurt tooooooo bad to lose them. So for that reasone, had I to do it over again, I would risk it.
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10/26/2008 8:14 pm |
I have known people that have become romantically involved with their best friend and when the relationship didnt work out it made it awkward for them to go back to just being friends. I have been best friends with a male for nearly 10 years now and would just never risk losing him as my friend. The nice thing about when we met and started hanging out together was that neither of us were romantically or physically attracted to each other. I think we knew from the beginning that it was destined to be just a friendship. I have been friends with women that he has dated and should he ever marry I would hope that his wife would be his first best friend and I will be happy being his second best friend. My fiance has become good friends with him and accepts my relationship with him completely and would never ask me to dissolve the friendship. FAITH...Even when I can't see, I still believe.
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10/26/2008 9:34 pm |
I voted yes. Because, that's one thing I really desire in a romantice relationship is for him to be my best friend too. If you don't try, how will you know???
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10/26/2008 10:26 pm |
I like all answeres here, yes for me. Gods way is my way,...Clay
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10/27/2008 11:39 pm |
If God's in it yes, so I voted yes. I have done otherwise in my life before being a christian. I didn't want to change the friendship relationship, and risk losing it forever. My friends are precious to me. I only have a few really close friends. But as a christian I wanted to be friends first. Which is what happened. I was given a ph number by a male friend here cause my friend here was having brain surgery. He said call if I needed someone to talk too. So I did. We didn't remain just friends long, praise God. Thanks for the post. Blessings, Little Bird   "Love is Patient..."
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Only a woman would ask this. From the options available it's immediately obvious that dawntime thinks there's ALWAYS a risk that the friendship will be ruined. I, for one, don't see the least reason why this should be the case; nor have I ever heard of any other man saying that a relationship often ruins a friendship. In my own experience, it's always been the woman who used the 'Let's remain friends' line (which I always thought went without saying) only to cease all contact for her part and be stone cold when I called. I've got two dating guides - both written by women - which state that women have a 'friend' category that, once a man is in it, tends to be inescapable. I've got a separate 'double your dating' guide written by a man that warns of the same phenomenon. I've also heard no end of women say that the best male friends they have are gay, which seems to support the separation women make between potential partners and those they label 'friend'. Also, surely no one, least of all a Christian, enters a romantic relationship without first establishing a friendship. I just hate this question and its implications. N.B. While it's not a large number who've responded, the male/female response is already remarkable for its dichotomy, which supports the guides I mentioned and my own experiences that this is predominantly a female issue.
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