Blog : My Testamony Part Ten

My Testamony Part Ten

11/21/2006 9:11 pm

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To read My Testamoy from the beginning please go toMy Testamony and click on the links there.

Disclaimer:
I want first of all to let everyone know that what I am about to reveal is not because I am living in the past or because I am holding on to it. I am not still wearing my grave clothes, so to speak.

A testimony is simply speaking the truth of what God has done in one's life, personal experience of His love, grace, power, glory. For a biblical example of a testimony please see Acts 26:1-23

I married my first husband in August of 1975 while I was pregnant with another man’s child. I didn’t even know for sure who the father of the child was, though I had an idea. Within a week of getting married my husband and I left for New England, going to his parents home, where I would meet them for the first time, and where he would leave me until he could make arrangements for me to join him in Japan in October.

Mike was on leave and able to stay with me at his parents for about 3 and ½ weeks before leaving for Japan. During this time his family gave us a wedding reception at one of his aunt’s homes. All of these people were strangers to me and when I turned and found Mike gone and couldn’t find him for some time, I became quite anxious. Eventually I discovered him and quite a few of our other male guests in the house, watching football.

Also, before he left for Japan I discovered that Mike had lied to his parents and family about the paternity of the child I was carrying, either outright telling them that the baby was his or allowing them to believe it was. I insisted that he at least correct this with his parents and siblings before he left for Japan as I would not live with this lie over my head.

My mother and father-in-law are wonderful people and have always respected the fact that I insisted on being honest with them. They have always treated my son as their own and defended him against those who would disown him since Mike and I have divorced, including Mike himself.

They are also very giving people and while Mike was there they took us shopping for whatever we might need. They would always ask Mike what they thought I could use and Mike would tell them that I was all set, but that he needed this, that or something else. Not wanting to cause a problem, I would keep my mouth shut.

Little did I know that these things would be an on-going growing problem in our marriage. That sports would be more important to my husband than me, our children or anything else in his life. That lying to people about circumstances and situations would be his modus operandi and that selfishness on his part would have him taking care of his needs and wants before the needs of our children as well as my own, much less our wants. Nor did I know that the time would come when he would tell me that I had no right to say a word about the way he ran the house since I owed him for marrying me and making my baby legitimate.

Ephesians 6:13 . . .and having done all, to stand