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"Approval Addiction"  

redbird1122
7/29/2006 6:12 am

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11/16/2006 8:41 pm

 I read this book by Joyce Meyer earlier this year and woke this morning with some thoughts that I wanted to share with you all.

I have lived my entire life trying to gain the approval of one of my parents. I have done everything I knew to do to gain this parents love and acceptance, all to no avail.

The past few years I have learned so very much concerning this type of problem in peoples lives.
It has been a very hard lesson and one I am still learning on a day to day basis.

Our heavenly Father is the ultimate parent. He loves each and every one of us so very much and accepts us just as we are. He does not expect us to change before He takes us lovingly into His arms but instead promises to help us to make any necessary changes after we have come to Him. He is so very proud of us for each and every achievment and accomplishment that we make no matter how small. He is constantly encouraging us to move forward and never, ever throws our past into our face, for as we ask forgiveness for our faults and failures He totally forgets them, never to remember them again. When we suffer loss and pain because of our wrong choices He is there to fill the void and offer comfort instead of saying "I told you so". He never tells us that we are losers, failures, a dissappointment or disinherits us but instead He lovingly edifies us, reminds us that we are a royal priesthood and the Bride of His precious Son, and always welcomes us home whenever we have strayed.

There are so many other things that could be said here. If you have dealt with this sort of problem in your past, please let me know so that we may support one another. Our loving Father has provided us with one another so that we can bear one another's burdens. Please know that my prayers are with you even if you do not share your information here, for our Father knows who you are.
Ephesians 6:13 . . .and having done all, to stand
JCsSister3
5583 posts 

7/29/2006 8:47 am

 I haven't read that book, but I've seen her teach from it. Think of how the desire for approval from people has shaped our history...Moses at first was worried about what people thought. That Dude that be-headed John-the-baptist was seeking human approval, the guy that told Jesus he wanted to go back and say good-bye to his family...

My point being, there are some good biblical references for writing such a book, I suppose. I think my fear of non-approval stops me from moving forward sometimes...

Nice post.


redbird1122 replies on 7/29/2006 11:30 am:
Hi, JC'sSister3, I agree that fear does prevent us from moving forward, in many areas of our lives. Please remember that you have the approval of our Heavenly Father and with that nothing can stand in your way. You are a beautiful daughter of our Lord, sis.

walking_man
(Paul )

7/29/2006 8:49 am

 Redbird,

Though I may have recived compliments from others, the greatest compliment I may have ever received came from my Dad who simply said "Not bad." once. I know that was not in his nature. I had a friend in seminary have to tell me that he heard my dad say he was proud of me. He could never have been that 'feminine' face to face with me. This may be a slight exaggeration, but I believe you know what I mean.

I came from a good home, but I know we can waste too much time and effort seekig the approval of oen who will never give it. Though you may love your parents, if the relationship with them takes away from your energy and devotio to God, that is a condition to look at.I have seen many of your posts and know tht you have a love for God shown in love to others. Now, before I get too 'girly', I must leave.
God's Peace


redbird1122 replies on 7/29/2006 11:35 am:
walking man, please remember something for me, would ya? Expressing one's feelings or emotions are of God. Don't follow in your dad's footsteps and avoid saying out loud the things your are thinking and feeling to anyone. Change the worlds stinkin' thinkin' of a man doing so as being "girly" to knowing deep within yourself that it is in reality being "Godly".

roundrobin7

7/29/2006 8:52 am

 Sin can't win unless we ourselves let it. Nice post.


redbird1122 replies on 7/29/2006 11:38 am:
roundrobin7, you are so right, it is something that we allow. Learning that is a long hard lesson for some of us. I thank God that you know it already.

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