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7/20/2006 11:05 am

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 Several months ago I received an e-mail from my daughter that asked that I describe her in one word. That was impossible for me to do as she has so very many talents but I did limit myself to two or three. The e-mail said to send to friends and relatives, asking them to describe me in one word, which I did. I only received one back, from my son, and the word was "mother".

Because of my experience with my own mother, that word has very negative connotations for me. I could not help but wonder what it meant to my son. I know that I was not the best mother I could have been. I know that I failed my children in many ways. My heart was breaking as I thought of what my son could be thinking when he thought of me as his mother.

I wrote him back and asked him what the word mother meant to him. I have many times told my children that I was sorry and asked for their forgiveness, I haven't been able to forgive myself, however, for failing them. I want to share his response with you. I have framed it and read it often. I share it in the hopes that other parents may realize that it is okay to admit your faults to your children, in fact it is essential.

Mother?

It means a great many things . . .
Mother is the person that gave me life . . .
The person that made me who I am . . .
The person that cares when nobody else does . . .
The person that worries when nobody else does . .
The person that remembers me when I was little and is proud of me now that I am grown . . .
The person that dedicated their life to try and give me everything I needed, if not everything I wanted . . .
And struggled to provide me with a better life than she had . . .
The person that was there through good times and bad times; thick and thin, regardless of my mistakes, or my occasional desire that she would just go away. . .
Mother is the person that always has and always will love me more than any other . . .
Does that answer your question???

I Love You,
Matt

© Matthew Yezierski 2006
Ephesians 6:13 . . .and having done all, to stand
spiritfilled052
12612 posts 

7/20/2006 1:43 pm

 That is so beautiful - I bet that changed your negative connotations some - huh?? : ) He must be a wonderful young man!!
How can we NOT praise Him - Marilyn


redbird1122 replies on 7/20/2006 3:30 pm:
Unfortunately, it doesn't change the way I feel towards my own mom but it sure has done a great deal in helping me to re-build my self-esteem. It has also taught me some things about forgiveness.

carolinehampton
8849 posts 

7/20/2006 11:02 pm

 wow he certainly has given the list of qualities I have aimed at with my children..I think I especially aim at the one to give my children a better life than I had and through God's blessing that one has happened so I am most thankful


redbird1122 replies on 7/21/2006 9:11 pm:
That was especially meaningful to me as well. My childhood was extremely painful. Still I wish that I had done better. I am thankful that my children can see the best, however, and can forgive me for the worst.

Hisglory77
3389 posts 

7/20/2006 11:10 pm

 That is a wonderful letter from your son. I agree about admitting your faults to your children. It means you are human. We all have had our failings as parents. There has only ever been one parent who never failed.

All the negitives we had in our lives is now behind us. They are in the past. Where they belong.
How about dwelling on the positive things you did for your kids? I'll bet there is a lot more of them then you may think.
Isaiah 66:2b; But to this one I will look, To him who is humble and contrite of spirit, and who trembles at My word.


redbird1122 replies on 7/21/2006 9:15 pm:
It's a very difficult thing to see past one's mistakes sometimes. Having recieved this from my son has helped me a lot in learning about forgiveness and accepting it from others whom I have failed. It is forgiving myself that I have so much difficulty with. I can give myself credit for passing on a better heritage than the one I inherited from my own parents. Still it was not as good as I would have wished, totally free from dysfunction.

eli_777
(Eli )

9/17/2006 1:06 pm

 Wowwww..............
What a beautiful mother you are, and what a beautiful son you have.
This encourages me so much.
My son yesterday, also came to me, told me to stop what I was doing, and "listen". Then he ran over to his computer, turned the speakers us, and played a song he found on the internet. He said, as he turned it on..."mum, I dedicate this song to you" and winked at me
The song was called "momma". By van something or other lol.
He has put it to disk for me.
Heart melting stuff from our sons, eh ??? Makes all the challenges and sacrifices we go through, faaaade into the distance hey sis.
This post too has sooooo warmed my heart.
God BLESSSSSS you Cecilia and your family
~ contending for the truth ~
...eli...

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