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10/8/2008 10:38 amLast Read: |
A friend just sent this to me by email - I thought it very interesting - perhaps it applies to your life like I feel it applies to mine in some areas: Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, in her book, On Death and Dying, notes five stages of grief: Stage One: Denial and Isolation Stage Two: Anger Stage Three: Bargaining Stage Four: Depression Stage Five: Acceptance (Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., On Death and Dying (New York: Macmillan Publishing Company, 1969). But for us who have linked our lives with Jesus Christ, there is a Stage Six: Resurrection. Grief is part of the healing process. For me, I had to grieve the fact that I did not have the family I had always longed for. I grieved that I did not grow up being the apple of my daddy's eye, that I did not get to pick up the phone and hear my sons voice on the other end or that I don't get feel his arms around me to thank me or just to hear him say "I LOVE YOU MAMA". Grieving the loss helped me to let it go, but after a time, I had to stop lamenting what was not, and rejoice in the blessings of what is. Remember, you can't change the past, but you can change what you choose to do with it. Perhaps you need to grieve the losses in your life. Here are a few to consider: Loss of innocence Loss of a nurturing family Loss of unconditional love Loss of acceptance Loss of security Loss of a close relationship with your mother Loss of a healthy relationship with your father Loss of trust Loss of education Loss of employment Loss of a marriage Loss of a spouse Loss of a child Loss of friendship It is healthy to grieve a loss, but then there comes a time for the mourning to end and new life to begin. "Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me. See! The winter is past; The rains are over and gone. Flowers appear on the earth; The season of singing has come, The cooing of doves Is heard in our land." (Song of Songs 2:10-12) Go back up to the list of losses. Are any of those losses part of your story? If so, put a check by them. Now ponder that loss for a moment. Are you stuck there? Or have you allowed God to take you to the next level ... to resurrection? If not, consider giving the broken pieces of your dream to God and allowing Him to make them into a beautiful mosaic - lovelier than anything you could have ever imagined. Resurrection! It is God's plan of redemption. We see it in the resurrection of Jesus and the resurrection of our broken dreams. He's amazing. How can we NOT praise Him - Marilyn |
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10/8/2008 1:21 pm |
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. It is a normal processes in life following a significant loss. Many have no hope, for they have not the hope that indwells us. Even in our personal grief, we can share this hope eternal for those lost in like circumstances as our own. Perhaps the purpose of our personal grief? . . Saying I am sorry is WORTHLESS without real repentance. True or FALSE ? Without a personal and intimate relationship with God, how can you ever realize the true identity and person of God? Continue to be faithful, deliverance is near, obedience must be seen, be an unconditional blessing as He continues to bless you. This time is short, serve Him well, serving all. Without exception. Know ? Yes ? ? .
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10/9/2008 12:02 am |
Excellent post Marilyn, as are all your others today, blessings, I love the one about the elderlies ringing the cops Gods way is my way,...Clay
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10/9/2008 8:15 am |
I am with Pete on this that some things come to us so that we may minister more effectively. Praise God for His awesome wisdom. Beth
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