Blog : Women of Value (Make Him Pay)

Women of Value (Make Him Pay)

11/9/2007 6:09 pm

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11/24/2007 7:08 pm

Why are single women so easy today? Single women, divorced or otherwise, don’t make the man, who is interested in her, pay the price for her. Where did she lose her sense of worth and value? In the old testament of the Bible we read of many men who sought out a wife. They had to pay a dowry for her. In other words she was so valuable that there was a price to pay for her. The more daughters a man had the more riches he had because of all the dowry money and assets. Genesis chapters 24 and 29.

I have been single for 2 ½ years after 30 years of marriage. I find that being out here in the single world women don’t value themselves as they should. Somewhere they have lost sight of how valuable they are and just take up with anything that comes down the street. Kind of like a desperate little dog needing a place to call home. I don’t mean to be cruel but I can say this because I am out here and was devastated by divorce and know that feeling very well. The night of the day that my ex-husband told me he wanted a divorce, I had an all night prayer meeting. I was praying for him and the restoration of our marriage. The second night I was going to do it again. This time the Holy Spirit stopped me and told me that this was my night. He began to talk to me about my groom which was confusing to me. I was believing for my husband to be restored. The Spirit told me that He had a groom for me and began to tell me a little about him. I asked, “How do I know he won’t leave me too?” The Spirit said, “The man who pays the price for you will never leave you.” He went on to say that there was a dowry on my head, a high price to pay for me because of my value. He said, “He who pays the price for you will never leave you.” Wow that was so cool. I was so ministered to by that. In our pain of rejection we can become desperate for a connection in order to feel valued again. In that we tend to connect with anyone who makes us feel the way we need to feel. This is shaky ground… its building our life on a sandy foundation. If the man changes the way he treats her she then loses her affection for him thinking she is falling out of love with him, when she never really was in love with him. In fact she was self preserving. There is a time for healing that needs to take place before we should be doing any dating… I dated sooner than I should of and that slowed down the healing process for me because I was using the men that I dated as crutches. Spending time with someone who desired my company gave me a sense worth. But it also hindered me from healing like I should of. It took much longer to heal because I was using a cheep ointment instead of applying the healing bomb of God’s word. One thing I learned fast is that you have to be whole to attract someone who is whole. You attract what you are. In my off and on dating I became very frustrated with men. I was wondering if there were any good me out there. The Holy Spirit taught me that I will not attract a good man until I become a good women. I wasn’t in any shape for a relationship at least a good relationship. Finally I yielded to the work of the Holy Spirit and let Him heal me while I lived consecrated for about 8 months. It was very lonely at times because I desired the company of the opposite sex because that is what I was used to for 30 years. At the end of that 8 months great things happened in my life. My value was restored to me. I never lost my value but felt like I had because of rejection. At the end of that 8 months I begin to see my life restored.

My consecration started when I relocated to California from Michigan, I left my kindred and most of my possessions and set out for Southern California. I have no family out here or close friends. Soon after arriving God blessed me with a good job. After 9 months of renting a room from a young couple I was able to get my own apartment, and begin to furnish it with things needed. Good things started happening for me when I did things God’s way.

Now I am ready, my groom will not hesitate to pay the price for me, that is how I will know he is my groom. As the time approaches God will reveal to me the whole price that is on my head.

I refuse to take what comes along. My Father is rich and has many sons, one of them He has reserved just for me. I live my life serving my Father and knowing that soon He will unveil me to my groom and he and I, in the power of God’s might, will advance the kingdom of God together.

Ladies, don’t devalue yourself by hunting out a husband, hunt out God and let Him restore and build your life again. He has you hidden in the cleft of the Rock. When its time he will shed light on you so that your groom, your set aside one, your greater portion, can see you clearly. When you walk in the spirit realm as an eternal you will know him when you see him.

Dating to ease the pain of loneliness is living as a temporal. Again, that is self preserving. When you truly know that God is your source of fulfillment you will not desire a man to fulfill you, you will desire a man whom you can fulfill.

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