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If The Person Isn't the One, Say Good-bye!!!!!!!!!
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When I first started dating after my divorce, my sister gave me an invaluable piece of advice. She told me not to spend too much time in a relationship if I knew the man was not the one the Lord wanted me to marry. She said that if I stayed in the relationship that I would run the risk of marrying him just because we grew on each other or for some other reason, only to realize after the wedding that I had made a huge mistake. I cannot tell you how wise that advice was! There were a couple of men that I met that I may have married if I had hung around them long enough just because they were there. What a huge mistake that would have been! My whole life would have been ruined in either case! Instead I took her advice to heart and, as soon as I realized a man was not the one for me, I ended the relationship. Because I did that, I was unattached when the Lord brought the man of my life to me. I didn't settle for less than the Lord wanted for me, and I am so glad I didn't. So, I am begging you to consider taking the same advice that my sister gave me. If you realize that a man or woman is not the one for you, end the relationship. You will not regret doing it, believe me! This also applies when the other person feels that you should remain friends but you feel stronger about that person. If they have determined in their heart that you are not the one for them to marry, even if you don't feel that way, end the relationship. If you don't, that person may decide to marry you without really loving you and then feel that they have made a huge mistake. Is that what you want to happen? I don't think so. Of course, I am not talking about people that you meet where each of you realize that you aren't meant to marry each other and you both agree to just be friends. I am talking about a relationship where you are considering a person as a potential mate. Just my thoughts... Be blessed! |
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6/14/2006 8:33 pm |
I seen the post and I though you were referring to Ed! 
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6/14/2006 10:08 pm |
Thank you, Jean - that is invaluable advice indeed! God bless, G  “Faith makes a Christian. Life proves a Christian. Trial confirms a Christian. Death crowns a Christian.” Annonymous
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6/14/2006 11:31 pm |
Excellent advice, Jean. Thank you! 
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6/15/2006 1:40 am |
Good advice there. God bless!! faith
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6/15/2006 2:16 am |
Thanks Jean...otherwise it gets harder and harder to break off... Man can make many plans...BUT it is the Lord who will direct his paths....
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6/15/2006 3:31 am |
You spoke what needed to be said. God does not lead you into a situation where the partner is somewhat or mostly what you need. He does not give you someone that just ignites your spiritual side. They ignite all sides of you. Passion to where you have to have them. Attraction to them either because of looks or looks and who that person is. It all goes into it. All of it. I have seen too many people looking for constant signs. Too many people encouraged by pastors and other people and they end up being miserable because they listened to people and took took many things as signs that were just things that happened. They become miserable because their inner being is crying out for that match that could be made in heaven, and they listened to man or their lonliness but not God.
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6/15/2006 6:52 am |
I just did this, I had to say goodbye to someone who I knew was not the one. Problem was that I let it go on TOO long and it did get harder and harder to end it. And I think easily we can cloud our own judgemnt, when we want something so bad...we try to make it fit. I thank God whole heartedly that He did not allow me to settle. I really do! And even though it is still a challenging situation, I CAN get excited for what He has planned for me, because it is gonna be the BEST! Thanks for sharing(and allowing me to share to!  )
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6/15/2006 12:30 pm |
Amen.. Jean this is so true.. while you are waiting your time with that person you are stalling what God has for you. And in your heart you know so just continue as friends and let that be that. I am one person that does move on when I know it is not what God wants for me I have no problem... Gwen
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6/15/2006 4:46 pm |
Thank you all soooooo much, this was just what I needed to hear today!!! Bless you all!!!
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