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If The Person Isn't the One, Say Good-bye!!!!!!!!!
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When I first started dating after my divorce, my sister gave me an invaluable piece of advice. She told me not to spend too much time in a relationship if I knew the man was not the one the Lord wanted me to marry. She said that if I stayed in the relationship that I would run the risk of marrying him just because we grew on each other or for some other reason, only to realize after the wedding that I had made a huge mistake. I cannot tell you how wise that advice was! There were a couple of men that I met that I may have married if I had hung around them long enough just because they were there. What a huge mistake that would have been! My whole life would have been ruined in either case! Instead I took her advice to heart and, as soon as I realized a man was not the one for me, I ended the relationship. Because I did that, I was unattached when the Lord brought the man of my life to me. I didn't settle for less than the Lord wanted for me, and I am so glad I didn't. So, I am begging you to consider taking the same advice that my sister gave me. If you realize that a man or woman is not the one for you, end the relationship. You will not regret doing it, believe me! This also applies when the other person feels that you should remain friends but you feel stronger about that person. If they have determined in their heart that you are not the one for them to marry, even if you don't feel that way, end the relationship. If you don't, that person may decide to marry you without really loving you and then feel that they have made a huge mistake. Is that what you want to happen? I don't think so. Of course, I am not talking about people that you meet where each of you realize that you aren't meant to marry each other and you both agree to just be friends. I am talking about a relationship where you are considering a person as a potential mate. Just my thoughts... Be blessed! |
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6/14/2006 9:18 pm |
There is much wisdom in what you are saying here but it is so hard to let go when you are emotionally attached..but going by my first marriage it would have been better to let go and walk away before entering into the marriage.
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6/14/2006 9:48 pm |
Good words of wisdom. It is so true. It can apply to everything in our lives that really don't belong there. If our lives are so full of things we put there, then how can God bring what He wants to give us. We need to make room for God.
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6/15/2006 8:21 pm |
post[31458] You know, I often wonder where to draw the line between saying goodbye, when I think someone is wrong for me,and holding on for fear of being too hasty in making such a decision. Of course some are easier than others, but could it be the reason I'm still single at 40???!! Am I just too 'picky'? I'm told that alot!
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6/16/2006 6:48 am |
post[31458] You know, I often wonder where to draw the line between saying goodbye, when I think someone is wrong for me,and holding on for fear of being too hasty in making such a decision. Of course some are easier than others, but could it be the reason I'm still single at 40???!! Am I just too 'picky'? I'm told that alot! The Lord had me make a list of the things He wanted me to look for in a man. A man had to meet all 10 of the things on the list before I could even meet him. I wrote about this in a previous post, Decide What You Want in a Spouse Before You Start!!!!!!!!!!. That list helped me to be more objective in my search for a man. I was physically and emotionally attracted to several men, but the Lord helped me to focus more on the spiritual characteristics of the men I met. I am not saying that what worked for me will work for everyone, but the Lord has blessed me with the most wonderful man! He loves the Lord with His whole heart and puts the Lord's will before in own, no matter what! There are so many more things that are great about Ed. It would take hours to tell you how perfect he is for me, so I won't go any farther. Just please do me a favor - ask the Lord how He wants you to discern who to keep seeing and who to say good-bye to and follow His instructions faithfully. He has your very best interests at heart.
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