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3/25/2006 4:18 am |
I know as a man I would like it if a woman was honest with me and if it doesn't work out between the 2 of you at least you wind up with a friend out of it. Pray hard and rely on God. Sincerely, John
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3/25/2006 4:38 am |
Well, before it's too late, drop a hint to him. Now I said a hint.Ah,-- I am taking it that you have already found out that he is not maried !!! GOD made you to be a helper and I know from your walk with GOD you can/will be a good helper too. So do not be disobedient to GOD. Love and blessings in JESUS name, Forry.
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3/25/2006 5:30 am |
First things first. So this is a christian oriented website to meet people...whats first? So then after you have prayed about it and still arent sure, the choice belongs to you. It never hurts to say hi. If you are already friends, then it never hurts to say HI THERE!!! Believe it or not men are shy sometimes too...most of the good ones I think, but thats a personal opinion with no factual merit to back it up. But ALWAYS first things first. Good luck...(yeah I said good luck, its a sentiment.) God Bless <-----that counts.
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3/25/2006 5:31 am |
Oh yeah....some guys are inept with women in the first place. (that's probably the reason for the good luck thing up there LO 
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3/25/2006 6:38 am |
Hi ReallySaved, Thought I should throw in a bit'o feminine opinion. Yes, by all means, I don't think there is anything scripturally wrong with honesty! Go for it! You admire this man so why not let him know? The worst that can happen is he is not as interested as you. It is always a risk to put your heart out there. Still, you are spunky and brave!! Your friend in Christ, Heart P.S. If he finds you too bold in this, he is probably not your ideal guy anyway.  Romans 14 verse 5 One person regards one day holier than other days, and another regards them all alike. 3 Each must be fully convinced in his own mind.
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3/25/2006 6:54 am |
Thank you all. I appreciate your kind words. John, I will keep praying about it. If the Lord wants me to, I will know. Thanks! Forry, thank you for your sweet words. How wonderful to hear them!Yes, he is unmarried and a wonderful, mature Christian. I will pray about sending him that hint. Perhaps just a little wink will do. Zorman, thanks for reminding me that men are shy, too. I am still praying about this. By the way, I had permanently deleted the "puke man." I don't know how he slipped in there again! I banned him, again, though. That should take care of it! Yes, that man definitely has issues! I don't know why I am being so shy about this man. I have approached lots of guys here in the past. Maybe I like him more than I want to admit and am afraid of rejection. I am not sure.
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3/25/2006 7:17 am |
I would probably approach it as natually as possible as you have already said in your blog, that you love his spirit, personality ect and would like to know him better, then leave the "ball in His Court" as us Aussies say. and the next move is his. hope that helped. Cheers Edele
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3/25/2006 7:52 am |
Pray about it Jean...and when God's peace follow you ....go for it Haha no 'crimes' committed here...except for letting someone know that you like them...if each is waiting for the other...opportunity passes by...read Kladan's post...how sad... one will never know if one never try...be blessed sis.! Man can make many plans...BUT it is the Lord who will direct his paths....
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3/25/2006 8:12 am |
I say tell him, how else is he going to know. I would bet he's not a mind reader.  Elizabeth
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 3/25/2006 8:34 am |
Hi Jean, Wow, I can pretty much identify with you! There's ONE special person that I really would like to get to know among others I've talked to, and corresponded with. I love his spirit...integrity and his views on spiritual and moral issues. I really respect him a lot! So when he sent me a wink, I sent him one back. I just wanted to let him know that I LIKE him. At one point, I even told him that if I have to start somehow to consider to go out on a date...I would like to do it with him. If he ever invites me for a dinner or so, I would not hesitate at all to say yes! At least, I am being honest as can be (and maybe foolish? I don't know!)If for some reason he finds me very forward, well at least, I took a chance! If he responds, it would be a geat honor and privilege to know such a man in a deeper level of friendship...but if not, I have nothing to lose...If the Lord closes the door, I know for sure that he is not the right one for me. Thank you so much for this post...GO FOR IT GIRL! Hope everything will go well with you! Go Bless You, glo Teach me your way, O LORD,and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. I will praise you, O Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify Your name forever. (Psalm 86:11,12)
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3/25/2006 9:10 am |
I'm usually someone who waits for the guy to make the approach, but experience has taught me you have to pray, go for it, and if it's meant to be God will do His job. Enjoy the ride, no matter which way it goes. If he's a true Christian man, it will be a good ride God bless, G “Faith makes a Christian. Life proves a Christian. Trial confirms a Christian. Death crowns a Christian.” Annonymous
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3/25/2006 9:40 am |
What do you have to gain, or lose, by saying nothing?
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3/25/2006 10:06 am |
Really most of us in this group are not that young anymore. I say go for it. I'd rather share my feelings than keep it inside me. I'm not 18 anymore. I'd rather be upfront with men about my likes and dislikes, my hopes and fears. Our job is do the praying and do the initiating (but not too hard) and God will work out the details. Good luck, Sis.
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3/25/2006 11:55 am |
HI JEAN,I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL HIM,IT HAS BEEN SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN,THAT WOMAN ARE MUCH BETTER COMMUNICATORS THAN MEN. SPEAKING FOR MYSELF,I FEEL LUCKY WHEN I AM ABLE TO PUT 3 SENTENCES TOGETHER.REALLY JEAN,GIVE THE POOR GUY A BREAK,AND DO THE TALKING. ........................GBU.............MARCOS
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3/25/2006 12:38 pm |
I would tell him much the same way you put it in your post. Or if you are not comfortable with being that forward (it can be a bit scary at times) I would simply drop hints so that he knew you had good feelings for him, compliment him when you feel moved too and then leave the ball in his court. I certainly wouldn't never acknowledge your feelings, however, because that might just cause regret later. Good luck!!!!
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3/25/2006 2:40 pm |
A perfect example of why guys can't figure out women. 
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3/25/2006 5:00 pm |
Hi dear Jean ... there's no harm in being honest. You tell him! You do your part ... if it doesn't work the way you like it to be ... no problem at least you have done your part. God bless you real good! faith
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3/25/2006 9:24 pm |
In the past, I have felt that the guy should always be the pursuer, and I still agree with that. But, I think you should make the first move. Some guys are really just waiting to see what's out there for them. I initiated contact with a guy online and we ended up having a great few months of conversation and laughs before we decided we weren't right for each other. I wouldn't change it for anything. It was awesome. I think you should go for it!! YAY!!
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3/25/2006 9:52 pm |
Some guys have been rejected so much that they don't want to put themselves out there again. Women need to learn to quit sending cryptic messages and just come right out and say it, and If you get rejected, so be it, move on. Guys go through this all the time.
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3/26/2006 12:26 am |
Hello sis, you better tell him how you feel before it's too late... I guess, there’s nothing wrong with that... You are just being honest how you feel about him...And I go with Rebekka that his not a mind reader...Tell him how you feel and that will sets you free because if not I think it will disturb you...And if it doesn’t work out then move on at least you do your part... So, go for it girl because you got a girl power...GOD Bless  Christine
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3/26/2006 12:36 am |
Tell him Jean !!!! 
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3/26/2006 4:57 pm |
Reallysaved, Basically just kinda hint at it. But do not be overly forceful about it. Men from what I have learned are naturally hunters. they like to pursue their prey. When we pursue them we take their job away And we sometimes get left with a bill that we do not wish to pay. Also pray about what the Lord would have you do because HE could have a direction for you to take. that who in the world knows where you will end up but i guess they are usually good places.
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3/26/2006 7:55 pm |
I guess you should tell him No, we speak of God's secret wisdom, a wisdom that has been hidden and that God destined for our glory before time began. 1 Cor. 2: 7
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3/26/2006 8:40 pm |
Absolutely nothing wrong with telling someone you'd like to get to know him better! Just make it clear that the expectations are just that, being friends and getting to know each other better. A woman took that approach with me and made the first suggestion that we meet, with those expectations in mind. We are now good friends. You have good judgment, that's obvious from reading your posts and comments. You probably have a pretty good read on his character. Gotta risk a little sometimes. You've got a strong spirit. Whatever happens, you'll be okay. We're rooting for you! "Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness..." Matt 6:33.
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3/27/2006 4:19 pm |
Hi sister My question to you is do you love him already?
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3/27/2006 4:46 pm |
Well have you told Him yet?
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3/28/2006 3:21 pm |
Okay, there were actually two men that I was interested in getting to know better, not one. I only said one here and didn't realize it until after it was posted, and didn't feel like changing it. Anyway, I did tell both of them how I felt and that I would like to get to know them better. The first one was flattered to hear that I was interested in him, which thrilled me! He asked if I wanted him to call me, and I gave him my phone number. He is an honorable man, so I am sure he will call, even though he hasn't yet. There was a problem with the email here at BC and my email to him got deleted from his inbox. He wants to start out as friends, and so do I, so we are starting on the journey of friendship. The second one just recently got divorced and said that he is not even close to thinking about anything other than friendship, so we are keeping it on that level. I totally respect him for taking time to heal from one relationship before looking for another one. So, that is where I am at. I did it! I am proud of myself for facing my fears. It worked out so much better than I had feared. I have you wonderful people to thank for giving me the courage to go for it. Thank you all for your support! You are the best! I will keep you posted! Be blessed!
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3/29/2006 8:46 pm |
For me . . . know him first, then give him a little hint that you care and you like him and if he didnt response or never give you a hint also that he likes you, then tell him directly of what you feel. and if he answer you not or thier is a doubt then let him go. thats it! also just pray for the guidance. thats the most of it! God bless you sister
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4/2/2006 6:39 pm |
I don't know how characteristic this is of men in general, so I'll just speak for myself. At times I seem to be pretty intuitive, I suspect God has a hand in that, but when it comes to hints from women, I can be totally clueless. I've seen and heard things that were supposed to be distinct hints, and totally misinterpreted them. Don't be TOO subtile, gals, or you may subtile yourselves right out of comprehension.
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4/2/2006 7:56 pm |
I AGREE WITH TALKSWITHGOD ON THIS,I AM TERRIBLE AT READING HINTS FROM A WOMAN! HOW I WISH THEY WOULD COME OUT AND SAY WHAT THEY WANT!!!! GBU MARCOS
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4/6/2006 6:53 pm |
TOMMOROW MIGHT BE TOO LATE. YOU SHOULD TELL HIM NOW. MAY GOD GUIDE YOU. " We are fearfully and wonderfully made." Psalm 139:14a
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