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Why do Christian men lie? I'm sitting here and I honestly cannot think why what could possibly be a good reason why? Why do men who are genuinely Christians say they will do something and then don't why has the spoken word and promises of the tongue no longer of value? help me here, for I am a bit...I don't know but I wonder why the men I have met GOOD, CHRISTIAN, SPIRIT FILLED MEN why they do NOT follow through with their words why there is such a lack of IMPORTANCE in keeping the promises made I was raised different by a man who TRIES to keep promises...tries hard...doesn't always succeed, but gives it his best. and the men in my life they let us down by not valuing what they promise enough to keep their OWN promises I give up I throw in the towel game over 
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4/28/2006 5:31 pm |
well, my hope is that some Christian stop by here and answer your question. in the meantime, i offer my shoulder 
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4/28/2006 5:32 pm |
Cheryl, Please don't give up. Take time out to recover, but don't give up unless you know it is what God is saying to you. In reality I'm sure you realise that men are no different from women. I've heard a similar complaint from a man about women, including many other negative generalities he came up with. We are fallen creation and behave appallingly sometimes. I am sad that you say they are spirit filled, good Christian men, because I'm sure that the Holy Spirit must be bringing conviction on them. So you have to trust God to handle that for you. For the rest of us let us remind ourselves how important it is to keep your word, no matter how small it may seem.
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4/28/2006 6:32 pm |
momma. not all christain men
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4/28/2006 7:25 pm |
i promise that i will never break a promise to you.
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4/28/2006 9:09 pm |
Because they were phonies in the first place! At least with me, what you see is what you get! It aint much but there'll be surprises...lol
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4/28/2006 9:11 pm |
Because their a bunch of phonies in the first place! At least with me, what you see is what you get! It aint much, but there'll be no surprises...lol
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HI Mom4Jesus, You are not alone...I was also hurt by "good spirit-filled Christian man whom I trust and love..that's why it took me a long time to understand and let go. But God is so good and merciful so here I am in Big Church...not giving up! I know that there is still some whom we can trust. Just don't give up and give it to God...it will happen In God's perfect time. keep trusting and trying sister! God Bless! Harriette
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4/28/2006 9:32 pm |
Wow, I was just shedding tears over this very subject tonight as a matter of fact............... It's been a rough year... I too, throw in the towel.......
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4/28/2006 11:00 pm |
Hey that's what I meant to say.....lol
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4/29/2006 1:06 am |
Oh mom.. hope you find peace with this. two things come to mind.. Is it possible for you to not hang out with people who do this anymore.. is that an option.. or at least not make any more agreements with them then you wont be disappointed. Sometimes we give more meaning to an action than it deserves.. something like .. my girlfriend doesnt mind if a friend cancels an appointment with her.. she would rather the friend came because she wanted to rather than some feling of obligation.. so she doesnt flip out and think they are disrespecting her if they cancel.. me on the other hand thinks its rude and the person should be shot or at least do some prison time or community service.. how could they be so thoughtless and disrespectfull.. anyway when my girlfriend told me her view.. I kind of get her... and I put my gun away now.. LOL.. Hope this helps and you have a wonderful weekend. Love Cath
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4/29/2006 2:19 pm |
it makes me sick that men do this!!!!! i wish i could give encourageing words but i cant,the truth of the matter is men r scum!!!!! plan and simple SCUM!!!!
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4/29/2006 2:36 pm |
Maybe we should start a club, lol ...
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4/29/2006 6:43 pm |
edj. i'm not one of those men, i don't think i have ever been, even in my terrible days, i always kept my word. i'm certain that i'm not now. i have given up on all things women. not as in "throwing in the towel" as the ladies here are doing, i still LOVE them, but as in "i'm spoken for otherwise." it's funny, but this is the third time that i've said this in blogland tonight...and once in email.
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4/29/2006 6:44 pm |
hey! isn't that meow's cat?
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4/30/2006 9:07 pm |
momma. no, not like that. i have made a committment to the lord for a while
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I agree with Meow ....whenever I get ticked off with someone, eventually God reminds me of a time when I've let Him or someone else (same difference) down. If any person is a consistent liar, I agree that 3 strikes is definitely an out! Sound like the term "passive agression" to anyone? I don't think I'd categorize all men as liars. Not even most.
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5/1/2006 6:55 pm |
just poppin' in to say... hope you are gettin' there... don't you just love rockyg's genuiness
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5/1/2006 9:56 pm |
Thank you, 4EWE I appreciate it you know, I am much more at peace about it now I was so FLAMING mad when I wrote the blog but reading what everyone said processing it all getting it OUT and working through it I am so grateful for all the varied opinions here very diverse people and I gleaned SO MUCH Godly advice and have truly been able to process it so much.. I could NOT stay where I was and was TRULY blessed being able to vent here and receive sound advice and wise counsel and yes, I really appreciate how genuine Rocky G is...
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5/2/2006 5:59 pm |
Thank you, 4EWE I appreciate it you know, I am much more at peace about it now I was so FLAMING mad when I wrote the blog but reading what everyone said processing it all getting it OUT and working through it I am so grateful for all the varied opinions here very diverse people and I gleaned SO MUCH Godly advice and have truly been able to process it so much.. I could NOT stay where I was and was TRULY blessed being able to vent here and receive sound advice and wise counsel and yes, I really appreciate how genuine Rocky G is... glad we could be here... not that i did much except 'listen' 
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hello cheryl, sorry for your pain and heartache and i will add you to my prayer list. as has been pointed out earlier not all men are like that and also pointed out women are guilty as well. i can only relate from my personal experience here. i put in my profile what i am doing here and yet others don't like that, why i don't know. i get in the chat room or through emails and the women want me to promise this or promise that. i will tell them up front, what i can do and what i can't do. sometimes it is not what they want to hear and they will keep it up. this may be the point where some men fail and finally lie just to get the women to be quiet, i don't know that for a fact but i know i have felt many times like giving in just because the women wouldn't accept my answer. thank God i am able to stick with my word regardless of whether they like it or not, but i am sure that others just give in and that is where i am sure that many women get hurt. i am also sure that it works the other way around also. anyway may the Lord richly bless you sister and give you peace, cheers May the Lord bless you and keep you
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5/2/2006 8:49 pm |
Imodel, this is a post all in itself. I have been there and fight not to go back there. I was on who gets out before they can ditch me I ditch first.. I thought this was for the best because I had been hurt before and just do not have any trust for men. But God showed me that i was losing out on what he has for me if I do not change and learn out to get rid of the bitterness, and pain I feel from my divorce I can not progress in another relationship. All of us are human and make mistakes... We have to learn to forgive and forget because holding on to all that only holds us in bondage not the person who has wronged us. Mom4Jesus, keep stepping, and pray for that person... Pray and stay strong in the word of God... Blessings Gwen
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I heard my grandmother say many years ago "Man to Man is so unjust you don't know what one to trust. The word says that the arm of flesh will fail you every so often, but christ never will. Wishing you the best.
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5/4/2006 5:09 am |
I am so sorry that men have disappointed you. I also understand you wanting to throw in the towel. I did that just a few weeks before the Lord brought Ed into my life. Throwing in the towel will not tie God's hands, my sister. It may actually give Him room to work, as it did in my case. So, keep your chin up! Just my thoughts...
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5/4/2006 7:38 am |
Mom4Jesus replies on 5/4/2006 7:04 am: Thank you, Really Saved I DO have someone in my life that I love and yes, he lets me down, too concerning this very issue but Marcos and Godly Cook REALLY DID help me with this... MEN WILL LET ME DOWN PEOPLE WILL LET ME DOWN it's our nature as fallen man but God never will. THANK YOU for your kind and supportive words, Sister! The thing that perhaps you should look for, if I may, is a man who does the following: 1. he never hurts on purpose 2. he is very quick to ask forgiveness 2. if he hurts you in a certain way, he will do his best never to hurt you in that way again This is the kind of person I look for to be married to or close friends with. Just my thoughts...
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A LOT OF MEN LIE IT IS THERE NATURE IT SEEMS BUT A LOT OF WOMAN DO AS WELL WHICH LEAVES THE HONEST CARING AND REAL WOMAN AND MEN NOT NOTICED IN MY OPINION PPL MUST GET OFF ON IT OR SOMETHING GUESS SATAN RULES NOW DOESN'T HE IN A LOT MORE YOUR LIVES THEN YOU THINK 
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