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What Do You Think Is The Most Responsible Reason For Our Countries High Divorce Rate? May the Lord bless you and keep you |
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12/3/2006 12:29 pm |
I voted selfishness, because if we truly looked to the other person's needs/desires/hopes and with focus on them as being higher than our own, those other things would fail in comparison. If I put my mates needs higher and they put mine many of the problems would be eliminated.
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12/3/2006 12:46 pm |
I voted selfishness also. I believe that when a partner delves into self-seeking behavior, it causes strife in a relationship. When this isn't dealt with, ultimately getting 'out' seems to be the only logical option. I wonder, however, how many have done this while seeking the Lord?
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great point sharyl, thanks for sharing, cheers and God bless you May the Lord bless you and keep you
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not sure what you mean dennis, but thanks for sharing brother, cheers and God bless you May the Lord bless you and keep you
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marisol, thanks for stopping by and commenting, may the Lord richly bless you, cheers May the Lord bless you and keep you
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i have gotten a few emails about my side of the story and what i thought, why they just don't comment here i don't know, hahahaha, as for me, i have been married 3 times before, my first wife died in an auto accident, and my last two marriages ended due to infidelity, one ex ran off with the youth pastor of our church at the time, and the last ex ran off with her boss, so if i was voting personally i would vote for infidelity, hahahaha, but i could also add a couple of others up there that were getting to be problems, cheers May the Lord bless you and keep you
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12/3/2006 1:18 pm |
I voted for Unrealistic Expectations, because I feel that far to often we walk into relationships with the concept that our spouse is supposed to meet our needs. Men in this country are raised that they are supposed to be the provider and bread winner and if they can not do it all alone then they often feel that they are less than a man. In reality the only person that can truly meet your needs is God. To expect your mate to always know what you need and meet that need, be it physical or emotional is folly...they are human and fallible just like you. When we walk into a relationship with our expectations in order and eyes open to the fact that our mate is human just like us...I think it gives you a better chance at making it. Of course that is the observations of a divorced woman...so that says I did not get it right...but I think the brick wall I insisted in banging my head into at least got that idea through to me. 
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12/3/2006 1:29 pm |
You didn't specify among Christians, so I take it to mean nationally. Which I think when it involved everybody, would most likely be substance abuse. In my case it was mostly unrealistic expectations, with a lot of selfishness, which if only Christians were polled I think would come out as the top reason. However what should be the ONLY reason for Christians to divorce is Infidelity. But what should be is a lot different then what it. Isaiah 66:2b; But to this one I will look, To him who is humble and contrite of spirit, and who trembles at My word.
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12/3/2006 2:50 pm |
Self on the throne. The original evil. Surprised to see so many others said the same.
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12/3/2006 2:50 pm |
Hello, Dunky... My vote went to selfishness....self-gratification to a point is healthy, past that point...destructive. Blessings, your friend...Shelley
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12/3/2006 3:04 pm |
I think all the other things touch into the choice of unrealistic expectations.Either we expect too much or too little....or from the wrong source for something...or some need.
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I vote none of the above. I think that our divorce rate can be directly attributed to the nation's overall move into immorality over the past few decades. And as far as the divorce rate amongst Christians I believe that is caused by the fact that the church does not teach young people what they need to know about marriage, true love, commitment and all the rest, according to God's point of view. One of the major problems in the Christian teachings is on the roles of a husband and wife. Too many Christian young people get married without a true understanding of what it means for a man to be head of the household and what it means for a woman to be submissive to her husband. The church is very quick to condemn those how even concider divorce but they have dropped the ball when it comes to training their people on how to be married. Ephesians 6:13 . . .and having done all, to stand 
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12/3/2006 3:41 pm |
The remote control ya know control issues.LYNNIE 
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thanks for sharing robyn, like i said in the beginning, a lot of us on here are divorced so what may be a great reason for you, somebody else will look at that reason and go what???, hahahaha, cheers and God bless you sister May the Lord bless you and keep you
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hisglory, you are right i didn't specify as to christians or non christians, unfortunately when i read the statistics there is really not a difference in the percentage so that bothered me to start with but having a church going wife that ran off with the youth minister of the church didn't help much for my ego either, hahahahah. as you point out the only reason for Christians to divorce is Infidelity. but that is not the case in this world that we live in, thanks again for stopping by and commenting, cheers and God bless you brother May the Lord bless you and keep you
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not sure what you mean kris but thanks for stopping by brother, cheers and God bless you May the Lord bless you and keep you
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forewe, you can add whatever reasons you want to add, as i said to start with there are many, many reasons for divorce and not of them are good. so i only room for those that i put in there if you can add more reasons i don't know how to do that. cheers and God bless you sister May the Lord bless you and keep you
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walking man, thanks for stopping by, cheers and God bless you brother May the Lord bless you and keep you
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just4fff, hahahahaha, first time i have ever been called dunky, oh well, thanks for stopping by and commenting, you seem to be in the majority which i say surprises me but then i haven't live all these different lives, cheers and God bless you May the Lord bless you and keep you
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feathergirl, i don't know what the breakdown ends up being, i still to this day don't know how you love somebody one day and can't stand them the next day, hahahaha, still trying to figure that one out, cheers and God bless you May the Lord bless you and keep you
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hello redbird, that is fine and you are entitled to your opinion. i agree with your points and i can't argue with any of them as i have seen as to what is tolerated today would not have been allowed 10, 15 or even 20 years ago. you are right with the churches, everything i hear from the pulpits today is good news and they don't preach about the fire and brimstones messages that they use to do when i was younger, anyway thanks for stopping by, cheers and God bless you. May the Lord bless you and keep you
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fireball, hahahaha, the remote control that is a male thing i think, i don't have nobody here but still fight myself over the remote control, hahahaha, cheers and God bless you May the Lord bless you and keep you
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hello redbird, that is fine and you are entitled to your opinion. i agree with your points and i can't argue with any of them as i have seen as to what is tolerated today would not have been allowed 10, 15 or even 20 years ago. you are right with the churches, everything i hear from the pulpits today is good news and they don't preach about the fire and brimstones messages that they use to do when i was younger, anyway thanks for stopping by, cheers and God bless you. First off, none of the men I married were Christians when I married them. That in and of itself makes me responsible for the entire mess, since I chose unwisely. Only the first became a Christian afterwards but his understanding of being the "head of the household" and my being commanded to be "submissive" led to multiple forms of abuse that I endured for far too long before I finally got the children and I out. The other two divorces were both over my ex's infidelity, which in my opinion is a form of abuse, as well as their being abusive in other ways. It is from my own experience that I form my opinions and nothing else. What I have gone through and what I have witnessed other's go through. Ephesians 6:13 . . .and having done all, to stand
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12/3/2006 5:49 pm |
William.well, ya love em one day and can't stand em the next because there two of each of us. There's the new and transformed.then there's the old self.the flesh. ???? right? How else could someone who can be sweet and amazing one day be a crabby bitter grouch the next??? lol not that I can be like that or anything.lol
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thanks for sharing redbird, Bill, all i can say is that my first wife wasn't saved at the time we were married but was saved by the time of her death. the other ex's were both saved and for lack of a better use of words, should have known better but didn't for whatever their reason. i am sure that i did something to alleviate the situation but they never told me what i did or did not do, so i am still in the dark about it. like you i have seen my fair share of friends and family go through and say many hurtful things, the tongue is something that i have learn that can be used for real good or for real bad, anyway i hope and pray the Lord will richly bless you sister, cheers May the Lord bless you and keep you
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