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 9/23/2008 11:31 am |
Hi Fraz, There are no stupid questions,in my opinion...My answer is friends,since I don't have a boyfriend.But if I did,I would've said boyfriend,with the understanding that my friends are also important to me...Blessings...Lynn
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 9/23/2008 11:41 am |
Hi Fraz, There are no stupid questions,in my opinion...My answer is friends,since I don't have a boyfriend.But if I did,I would've said boyfriend,with the understanding that my friends are also important to me...Blessings...Lynn I'd agree fully with what she has said.
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9/23/2008 12:59 pm |
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. What comes first, girl friend or buddies? As far as I am concerned, my buddies can take a leap of faith that I will be there or not? If she wants my time, she has it, the guys can wait. If she does not say something, I will hang with my buddies. Maybe I am strange? Know? Yes? ? . . Without Absolute Truth, there are only lies disguised as truth, if you know not the Absolute Truth and it is NOT within you, you will embrace a relative truth that fits your eternity, that is presently before you. Continue to be faithful, deliverance is near, obedience must be seen, be an unconditional blessing as He continues to bless you. This time is short, serve Him well, serving all. Without exception. Know? Yes? ? .
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9/23/2008 1:15 pm |
Fraz I say friends they are number two support to have,first it is God that knows best in life,continue stay strong in Lord be bless.
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9/23/2008 4:12 pm |
Boyfriends come and go - Friends, hopefully, are always there for you so don't neglect them! Both friends and BF should have the respect of time set aside for them, and one shouldn't be given precedence over the other. When a guy steps up into engaged to be married/husband, then he comes first. But again, good manners and treating our friends with respect is still important. Susan aka Red God gives the very best to those who leave the choices to Him. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine...to Him be the glory. Eph 3:20 Find me at my screen name, blogspot and the usual ending. See ya there! Where I For Everything There is a Season Halloween Pics from Work
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9/23/2008 4:18 pm |
Hey, Frazzie!!!! It's been a while!!! Good to see you!!! Nice pic!!! I picked boyfriend....reason....especially if you're dating for a while......the intention of boyfriend is husband......who better to be your very best friend....the one you will love next to God? Boyfriend!!! Then family, then friends!! (It of course depends on the circumstances, too) If he's not above your friends....then he's just a friend!!! The way I take a better look at it is by putting the shoe on the other foot.....how would I feel if the boyfriend did, went, or whatever with friend(s)....over me??? You know there has to be a healthy balance....but primary should be the potential love of your life!!!
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9/23/2008 4:26 pm |
Hi, if I'm in a committed relationship, meaning marriage, then yes, the husband comes first. But the boyfriend, friend thing. Hmmm. It just seems like a boyfriend falls into the more casual category so hang out with friends too, my opinion only, God bless! - Pat -God's Freebies !! Please pray for my kitty Blackness. My sister called me last night.
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9/23/2008 4:34 pm |
Fraz, Good to see you gal and I like the new pic. When I read the thread my thoughts were right with yours Lisa - well thought out sis.
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9/23/2008 5:20 pm |
Don't know. The last time I had a serious boyfriend I put him first but it came natural and I wanted to. We were heading towards marriage and enjoyed each other's company SO MUCH! But then I got dumped and didn't have much connection with my friends anymore. But my friends were there for me. Now, if a boyfriend is demanding that I not see my friends that's a huge danger signal!! If a boyfriend is not a friend, well... Two mutually respectful adults should be able to discuss and not control.  Follow Him!    Dance as a Metaphor Now Accepting New Members... My Favorite Secular Magazine Article from 2007 - Autism & Pentecostals
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9/23/2008 6:32 pm |
Boyfriends come and go - Friends, hopefully, are always there for you so don't neglect them! Both friends and BF should have the respect of time set aside for them, and one shouldn't be given precedence over the other. When a guy steps up into engaged to be married/husband, then he comes first. But again, good manners and treating our friends with respect is still important. You family (after God) would come first, that include your husband,even husband to be. But if you are just dating, never turn your back to your friends, because when your relationship go bad, you need their shoulders.
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9/23/2008 10:57 pm |
If your " boyfriend " is someone you have a future with, ie as in marriage, then I believe he should come first, after God of course, yet the man is the head of the household. If you do not believe that this is the case with your boyfriend, then why are you still with him? That being said, it is perfectly normal to have a boyfriend, which implies a process of discovery, in order to determine whether this person is suitable for you, as a life-mate in your life. In which case your friends should probably come first. " Boyfriend " falls into an ambiguous and vague understanding of a relationship. Why not be friends with a view towards marriage? The context becomes quite different! Commitment is a very current issue, divorce is at an all time high, marriages are dissolving at an alarming rate, even among Christians! " Boyfriend/Girlfriend" to me anyway, comes across as a non-committing attitude, we may want certain benefits, without the reponsibilities, or consequences, of an actual relationship, that is marriage! I think the bigger question is, what and why do we have " boyfriend/girlfriend relationships " is this simply a term we use for exclusivity in a relationship? A worldly term perhaps? Sorry to diverge from what appears to be a simple question, but I believe there are many underlying issues, that aren't addressed, and that potentially can set us on a path of failure. Biblically speaking, your husband comes before your friends, after your God, before your children, and before your friends. Boyfriends are not mentioned, is there a reason? Who do you follow? That's the only important decision in your life, yet you, as myself and others, will still fail and make the wrong choices at times.
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9/24/2008 9:01 am |
Hey Fraz! How's it going? Well...my boyfriend is a very special friend, one who comes first. Friends will understand this unless they are jealous...you may even lose a friend over this...but then they were not worth having them in the first place. Friends should be happy for you that there is someone special in your life. In order for a relationship to grow, I spend time with my Jim showing him that he matters and I want to be part of his life. Boyfriends are fun  OK...girlfriend...hope you doin' razz-m'tazzy fine!  Beth
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9/25/2008 12:20 am |
This is a tough one.  I will say boyfriend.Don't kick the donkey Numbers 22 v 22
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9/25/2008 3:11 am |
Interesting question Frazz. And all the above comments are valid for various reasons. I guess I would have to say it depends on the relationship itself. Heading towards marriage?...then boyfriend. Just "dating" (and how often is THAT challenged in the chatroom..lol) then possibly friends. Again, it depends on the relationship...both with the guy and with the various friends. If you have a very needy friend who's clingy, dependant...then ya have to show that friend both consideration as well as how to be in a "normal" relationship by protecting the bf time. But hecka-schmecka...its been so long since I had a "boyfriend"...lol..that I really shouldnt comment at all!!! Love ya sis! Keep up the good work. Kathleen
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9/25/2008 10:20 pm |
I think the more serious your relationship is with your boyfriend, the more you should prioritize him. I've seen relationships where women lose their friends for the sake of the man, so I'd say it's important to prioritize friends for certain things. If there's a really big social difference between the man and your friends, you might want to rethink the relationship. He should be reasonably compatible with them because that's where you fit. My Christ, near and dear Who Leads on BigChurch For Women Only - Christ and the Submission Law God Bless the Believer - Cult or Church When You’re Tempted to Leave the Faith Finding the Road
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9/27/2008 3:28 pm |
If your " boyfriend " is someone you have a future with, ie as in marriage, then I believe he should come first, after God of course, yet the man is the head of the household. If you do not believe that this is the case with your boyfriend, then why are you still with him? That being said, it is perfectly normal to have a boyfriend, which implies a process of discovery, in order to determine whether this person is suitable for you, as a life-mate in your life. In which case your friends should probably come first. " Boyfriend " falls into an ambiguous and vague understanding of a relationship. Why not be friends with a view towards marriage? The context becomes quite different! Commitment is a very current issue, divorce is at an all time high, marriages are dissolving at an alarming rate, even among Christians! " Boyfriend/Girlfriend" to me anyway, comes across as a non-committing attitude, we may want certain benefits, without the reponsibilities, or consequences, of an actual relationship, that is marriage! I think the bigger question is, what and why do we have " boyfriend/girlfriend relationships " is this simply a term we use for exclusivity in a relationship? A worldly term perhaps? Sorry to diverge from what appears to be a simple question, but I believe there are many underlying issues, that aren't addressed, and that potentially can set us on a path of failure. Biblically speaking, your husband comes before your friends, after your God, before your children, and before your friends. Boyfriends are not mentioned, is there a reason? Who do you follow? That's the only important decision in your life, yet you, as myself and others, will still fail and make the wrong choices at times. I think that to me, this question falls under some of the stuff talked about in my 'what do you think unfaithfulness is?" post. If I'm dating it is presumably to see if we will work together as a couple...so my commitment should be to him, not in a demanding way, but in a way that honors and respects him opinion and feelings first...and vice versa. If I can't honor him in that way, then maybe he shouldn't be my boyfriend. Dunno, what do I know...I'm not sayin', I JUST sayin'.
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9/28/2008 10:40 am |
Fraz, before Christianity came, the proverbs state a friend is better than riches. However I think all the replies and all the replies of the future except mine will address what you are saying. Because i said it all the time that sometimes boyfriends and girlfriends get in the way of doing the right thing because I never believed really in having bfs and gfs in the way they have them now. So the answer depends on what the situation is. And that's why i always say just have friends until anyone is sure that friend can be a closer friend. If someone has a boyfriend they are obligated to choose him first. So then that means are there reasons why friends come first. That only means the boyfriend idea doesn't really work because those closest to us must do the right things and right choices.
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10/1/2008 1:03 am |
WOW!!!! Thank you ALL for your great answers.. (I have been far too busy to respond individually and got 5 mins before I run out the door) God bless you ALL!!!!!!!!
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