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 8/5/2008 2:31 pm |
Hi Peter, Ya back then.Do i take it you are in luuvvveee? I voted n think that you can`t love somebody you haven`t met.Yeah you can feel strongly bout them but it takes spendin time in each others company t really know.That`s my humble opinion anyway. Brothers n Sisters wise.Yeah you can but it`s a different love than that of close personal relationships. Peace be with ya, Wendy   Show me the way Sweet JESUS.Lead and i Will follow. 
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8/5/2008 6:20 pm |
Jesus says we can! 
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 8/5/2008 6:21 pm |
Of course - I have met many friends here that I have never met in person - men and ladies - I have some very dear friends here - including sweet Wendy (northerlass) above there. I have also met my sweetheart Michael here - and yes I fell in love with him in the 3 months we wrote before we met - meeting only verified the love that God opened us up too. Don't think I would just marry someone without having met them before but that has happened on this website too - and they just celebrated their 2nd anniversay - so it can happen. But it does pay to be very discerning and prayerful here too!! Blessings!! How can we NOT praise Him - Marilyn
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8/5/2008 6:53 pm |
Yes. I have known Mercy for this the 9th year.
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8/5/2008 6:59 pm |
I think you can "love" people you've never met, but not the "marrying" kind of love, not the passionate, can't live without you love.
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8/5/2008 7:02 pm |
I care strongly for a lot of people here at BC....sisters and brothers in Christ.....and as friends!!! Love to me I usually think about that one and only....romantically....the one I love!!! But that is not something that has happened to me......I've developed crushes on guys here at BC.....I can't believe that at all, because, I don't normally do so....but everyday we interact with each other and can form a sense of bonding, friendship.....but LOVE....absolute LOVE.....I don't know.....I wouldn't rule it out for anyone....I think that it is most certainly possible.....but meeting people in person.....sometimes a lot of things change.....I think if someone is very truthful......meeting in person would only seal the deal!!! Or be the icing on the cake!!! This was a good question, Peter!!!
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8/5/2008 7:14 pm |
I have been there and I can emphatically say, without a doubt, NO. If you do say it, it's not real. It can't be. Nothing can replace face time. And even that can be a nightmare! My advice is, JUST SAY NO.  Save a life, please adopt your next pet from a shelter, pound or rescue. "Iron Chef Bobby Flay, willing to sacrifice life and limb all in the name of flavour!". Alton Brown "Well you black out lane-lines one and three, and a four-lane highway becomes a two-lane comfort cruise". Kramer, "The Pothole" "If life gives you lemons, save the receipt". Stephen Colbert
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8/5/2008 7:37 pm |
I have been there and I can emphatically say, without a doubt, NO. If you do say it, it's not real. It can't be. Nothing can replace face time. And even that can be a nightmare! My advice is, JUST SAY NO. It says so in my "book"!  But to meet in person first is imperative! One could have bad breath?? LOL!  I agree with Lisa, though.
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8/5/2008 7:51 pm |
I say yes, but i'll have to do some research. Get back to me at a later date, brother.
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8/5/2008 8:03 pm |
I say no. You can have emotions, and feelings toward someone. However more often those blow up when meeting in person rather than growing stronger. I'm blessed by the exceptions who've weighed in, and don't minimize that. I spent two months email/phone with my former BF before we met. What got us to meet in person was the realization that 'something was going on' and we needed real life real world perspective. It did not turn into love on his part, as I've been writing about lately in my blogs. But it took real world interaction, and a year for him to realize he didn't want to marry me. Susan aka Red God gives the very best to those who leave the choices to Him. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine...to Him be the glory. Eph 3:20 The parable of a man and his car The Cottage
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8/5/2008 8:10 pm |
If you've been there, then you should have answered YES!!! (in my opinion) It says so in my "book"! But to meet in person first is imperative! One could have bad breath?? LOL! I agree with Lisa, though. Save a life, please adopt your next pet from a shelter, pound or rescue. "Iron Chef Bobby Flay, willing to sacrifice life and limb all in the name of flavour!". Alton Brown "Well you black out lane-lines one and three, and a four-lane highway becomes a two-lane comfort cruise". Kramer, "The Pothole" "If life gives you lemons, save the receipt". Stephen Colbert
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8/5/2008 8:25 pm |
For me...no. I can develop a strong bond with someone, feelings of attachment and affection based on correspondence and phone calls but meeting in person is so very different. There are habits, watching character in action, treatment of others, responsiveness, etc. that all come in to play and can only be observed in person. It is hard sometimes not to confuse the bonding/attachment/affection feelings with love, but for me love develops after and during time spent in one another's company. He is no fool if he should choose to lose the things he cannot keep to gain what he can never lose.....Jim Elliott Deena 
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8/5/2008 8:27 pm |
I have to comment again!! What if this person does weird things that you can't ignore. Like chew with his mouth open or wipe his nose on his sleeve? What if he's rude to people or gets angry easily? What if he doesn't have that personal of a relationship with a bar of soap? What if he never pays for anything, doesn't have a job or doesn't think it "manly" to help around the house. I have see this all and frankly, it doesn't come out in the blogs my friends.
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8/5/2008 8:38 pm |
Comes down to "what is love" I'm talking the Jesus definition!
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8/5/2008 10:13 pm |
I would say yes and no...one might fall in love with the essence of what a person is...especially in blogs you catch glimpses of what is from the inside...the thoughts expressed etc...that you may never get voiced at all face to face...that's possible 'cos a person may not communicate much verbally but can express well in writing...so this may be the person you can 'fall in love' with...however when you meet face to face it is the opposite  (or it may blossom into something deepeer)...whichever way its best always to do the face to face... But as learning to love each other in the Lord as brothers and sisters...YEs I would say you can love someone...but I would take your post to mean more of the other...thanks! Man can make many plans...BUT it is the Lord who will direct his paths....
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8/5/2008 11:45 pm |
I think appreciate said it well!
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8/6/2008 3:16 am |
Thanks to everyone who has responded so far, and please forgive me if I don't put an individual response to all the comments. The range of responses and opinions is far wider than I had anticipated and there is plenty for me to go away and think and pray about. If you are reading this and haven't commented yet, please do so if you wish as I will be checking back again later. By the way the question was motivated by reading on someone's blog "I love Peter but don't agree with his doctrine". Some of you know the background to this and will not be surprised to hear that I doubted the integrity of that statement, especially as the person has never met me. Peter "Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth" 2 Timothy 2 v 15
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8/6/2008 4:49 am |
Peter, Now that you have explained why you asked this question... I feel the same way as you do. It always bothers me how people on BC will claim that they "love" this and that Brother or Sister on here and truly they dont even many times KNOW each other. If someone is going to say/claim they love me I want to know they actually MEAN it. That word "Love" is too casually thrown around nowadays. If we really read what the Bible says about "Love" and what all it means then I just dont know that we'd be saying it all that frequently. I mean, would they really help you out in a bind? Would they Do unto you as they wished you would do unto them? "I respect Peter's right to his opinion although I dont agree" would've been a more appropriate thing for them to say, I believe. Jn:14:15: If ye love me, keep my commandments. --Jesus.
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8/6/2008 6:20 am |
I think there are as many experiences as there are people. I have seen many a love culminating into a beautiful relationship and then again many ended in disaster. I do however think it is easier to fall in love online than in real life. But with a reality check or two, you can fall out of love just as easy. Exit Numbers Worship the LORD in the splendor of his holiness Upside Down Guest Book  
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8/6/2008 11:05 am |
I pray I will be finding the answer to this question soon....but believe ya definately have to meet to know if it is real. I'm new to this situation ...well enough said for now lol.. Thanks for the topic Peter. Blessings to all, LLW Keep walking in the Light and you won't fall down and bump your head. (paraphrase mine)
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8/7/2008 8:52 am |
I`m with Claudia. A little easier to respond now that you`ve explained the context of your question. The LOVE word is thrown around very liberally and to me a big part of love is not based on feeling but commitment...as the LORD was committed to Isreal even when `she`sought other `lovers`...etc There have been people who`ve posted on my blog only when they wanted to speak hard truth to me (as they saw it) and they claimed to be speaking it only because they `loved` me. Or those who proclaimed loudly their deep love for me and were outta there the minute a conflict reared its head... But, by the same token, there are those that I have built close supportive friendships with over the time that I`ve been here that have proven to be the real deal... WHAT A FULL THANKSGIVING WEEKEND...
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8/8/2008 7:01 am |
Thanks again to everyone for your comments. Sorry I wasn't open about the background to the question in the first place. I'm having a bad week for making judgements about things! Hopefully next week I will be better. I am closing off this post now but keep a look out for more things to chew over from God's word! Blessings Peter "Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth" 2 Timothy 2 v 15
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8/8/2008 7:19 am |
I've just realised that you can't make a post "read only" so instead I will "hide" it in about 24 hours time. I guess that means you still have a small window of time in which to vote and/or comment! Peter  "Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth" 2 Timothy 2 v 15
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8/8/2008 2:36 pm |
What Thomas said Keep walking in the Light and you won't fall down and bump your head. (paraphrase mine)
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8/11/2008 12:17 am |
Jesus said we are to love our neighbours as ourselves, and even to love our enemies. His love is "agape" love so yes as believers we can love somebody we've never met. We can also pray for somebody we've never met.
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